It was a miracle.
By marguicha
@marguicha (230350)
Chile
August 24, 2023 6:31pm CST
Today Claudia came for some minutes to see me.
It was the first time in three months that she had set her feet at my house and I must confess that she was looking more like a severe and aloof person that a tender daughter.
Still, I chose not to mind that. I hugged her although she did not hug me back. One thing at a time, I thought.
She liked my kitchen and noticed that Mario had painted the garage door with the rests of paint.
I did not ask for my grandchildren. The last time she mentioned them was 3 months ago when she wrote me what a bad grandma I had been.
Still, I count this as a true miracle. I was thinking that maybe I would have to sell my house and go elsewhere and never see my children again. Now I have reasons to think that Claudia will think it over little by little.
I accept that she she been damaged by life in almost every possible way. She has had 2 partners that were not the best. In fact, one of then, the last one, is evil. She has lost a child to cancer. She had a fire in her house years ago. I could go on.
I have tried to be by her. But parents cannot proyect their children from life.
So I just want her to be happy the way she chooses.
Her coming here today has been a gift. I hope things get better little by little. Who knows.
I have tried to be by her. But parents cannot proyect their children from life. So I just want her to be happy the way she chooses.
Her coming here today has been a gift. I hope things get better little by little. Who knows.19 people like this
17 responses
@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Aug 23
Dear Claudia. I'm glad you got to see her at least. I hope things get better between you. I had been estranged from my granddaughter for a couple of years and we just got to talking again a couple of months back. It was a gift. I know what you mean. I hope Claudia continues to communicate with you.
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Aug 23
@marguicha .......I hope you are right.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
26 Aug 23
@celticeagle After all, she made the first step. That must have been difficult.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
25 Aug 23
After she went away I thought about texting her how happy she had made me, but then I decided that I would go one step at a time. After all I hugged her, not her. I think that she must learn that while I will always be for her, It won´t be good FOR HER to take me for granted. After all, in the normal way life goes, I will die before she does. And it would be a pity for her if she doesn´t get closer.
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@DaddyEvil (174402)
• United States
25 Aug 23
I'm glad she came to talk to you. I wish she'd been a little more "human" towards you but hopefully, that will change as she thinks things over. Good luck!
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
25 Aug 23
It is a great thing that she rang the doorbell. I have the hope that some day she will come to her senses. But I have begged as much as I could. So that´s the end of that. It is her turn.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
25 Aug 23
@DaddyEvil I begged her to talk it over. I wouldn´t have been comfortable if I didn´t do it. She xhose not to accept it and I stopped. The ball is at the other side of the net now.
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@DaddyEvil (174402)
• United States
25 Aug 23
@marguicha You shouldn't have begged at all. You did nothing wrong.
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@ptrikha_2 (49753)
• India
25 Aug 23
At times, things aren't in our hands.
Parent Child relationship can be so good and beautiful but sometimes it can be a maze of complexity.
At times, we just need to accept certain things.
Your daughter has faced some very rough challenges in her life.
So that could explain her behaviour in certain ways.
Well, wishing you and your family all the best.
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@ptrikha_2 (49753)
• India
25 Aug 23
@marguicha
Better to let some things pass through a process or a flow.
Too much resistance would rather hurt more.
I hope that things go in the positive direction for you and Claudia.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
25 Aug 23
She must know that I will always be for her. But I will not remind her all the times she has come to me in the past. She has to remember about that herself. And she has to want to see me again. I´m here with my arms open.
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@allknowing (153530)
• India
25 Aug 23
I am happy for you One step at a time and you too could add a step for her whatever that is.
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@1creekgirl (44560)
• United States
25 Aug 23
That is so heartbreaking...I'm so sorry. But maybe this is a small step toward a better relationship. I pray this will be true.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
25 Aug 23
I hope so too. This is the first night since that awful day 3 months ago that I think that time will mend things.
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@1creekgirl (44560)
• United States
25 Aug 23
@marguicha I sure hope so for all of you.
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@crossbones27 (52905)
• Mojave, California
25 Aug 23
Its good you are just there for her and life is tragic and does a number on all of us. Its really hard with family and wish more times people would just do what you are doing. Just let them know you will always be there for them no matter what. I think it makes a difference so people can eventually get their crap together.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
26 Aug 23
That´s exactly what I´m doing and will do.
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@crossbones27 (52905)
• Mojave, California
26 Aug 23
@marguicha You a good lady miss lady.
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@LeaPea2417 (40029)
• Toccoa, Georgia
25 Aug 23
Prayers that the relationship will be totally restored.
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@RasmaSandra (97990)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
25 Aug 23
I am glad Claudia finally came by to see how you are but sorry it was with an attitude, I hope things get better with time,
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
25 Aug 23
I am optimist that she will visit me again as she used to.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
26 Aug 23
@RubyHawk I hope so. She has always been a good daughter before. I don´t know what got into her.
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@RubyHawk (99367)
• Atlanta, Georgia
26 Aug 23
@marguicha I feel like she will. Just hold onto that thought.
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@LindaOHio (222314)
• United States
25 Aug 23
I'm glad Claudia made the effort to come and see you. Hopefully in time you will be able to get rid of some of the awkwardness that exists between you two.
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@MarieCoyle (59192)
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25 Aug 23
The fact that she showed up at your place speaks volumes. Hopefully, she will be able to take more steps and get past this. I know this hurt has been going on for quite a while, I truly hope that it will heal....tiny, baby steps. I'm so glad she made the effort, it's a start. 
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
25 Aug 23
After I yelled that I would not go to a senior home after the fire, she cut ther relation with me. And she has been harboring resentments like a child remembering all that I´ve done wrong since she was born. She told me about a stupid small thing I had done when she was 7 when I called her a month ago. After that I did not call her again except one day when I told her I wanted to hear my daughters´ voices on my wedding anniversary. I know that she has turned her children against me too but I can´t do anything there either. The ball is at their side now. Claudia has had too many terrible things happen in her life. The last one was getting an evil man for her last partner. I think that she is ill and that she has to heal herself little by lilttle. I will wait. And I hugged her today and thanked her for visiting me. She did not hug me back but I guess she has to ponder about this more.
I will wait. And I hugged her today and thanked her for visiting me. She did not hug me back but I guess she has to ponder about this more.2 people like this
@MarieCoyle (59192)
•
25 Aug 23
@marguicha
Yes, the problem isn't you, Marga.
She seems to be guilty of running her own show and making decisions for herself as well as others. I would imagine that no one really challenges her authority, and when you did, she didn't like that. But you know as well as I do, many of us have had bad things happen in our lives, things that alter us, forever.
You acted like a loving mother and greeted her with open arms. The fact that she showed up is the best move she has made so far. Like I said, baby steps...it's all you can really do. I hope she has someone--a doctor, a friend, someone in her life, to talk over her frustrations with. It always helps to vent.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
25 Aug 23
You can´t just "delete" so to say, your mother. I´ll wait.
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@wolfgirl569 (135722)
• Marion, Ohio
25 Aug 23
It is a start. I hope it continues for you
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