A bit forward, do you think?
By much2say
@much2say (57790)
Los Angeles, California
July 23, 2024 1:52pm CST
My daughter met this guy in her 5 week summer class at a local community college. It was nice that she had someone to walk around with and talk to after class before I came to pick her up.
He'd walk her up to our car door each day. We'd often have a brief chat through the open window before we drove away. There was something strange about him, but I couldn't put my finger on it . . . maybe because it seemed like he was trying to butter me up a few times by saying "You're a good parent, I can tell" or "You did such a great job with her" 
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On the last day of the summer session, he said (not asked), "One night I can come over to your house for dinner" . . . "And I'm a vegetarian". . I thought this was being a bit forward to invite himself, with his dietary preference, considering he was just a friend from class for a few short weeks . Even my daughter was shocked.
What do you think?
*** We never got back to him - it conveniently worked out that way. Anyway, at age 20, he is a recovering "drinker". Apparently he ran away from quite a dysfunctional family and went to go live with a friend's family who kicked him out recently. He asked my daughter if he could store some things in our garage if something happened - of course she said no. There were red flags all over this one among other things my daughter told me . . . I'm glad my daughter had enough sense to just keep this at a friends level.
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On the last day of the summer session, he said (not asked), "One night I can come over to your house for dinner" . . . "And I'm a vegetarian". . I thought this was being a bit forward to invite himself, with his dietary preference, considering he was just a friend from class for a few short weeks . Even my daughter was shocked.
What do you think?
*** We never got back to him - it conveniently worked out that way. Anyway, at age 20, he is a recovering "drinker". Apparently he ran away from quite a dysfunctional family and went to go live with a friend's family who kicked him out recently. He asked my daughter if he could store some things in our garage if something happened - of course she said no. There were red flags all over this one among other things my daughter told me . . . I'm glad my daughter had enough sense to just keep this at a friends level. 23 people like this
19 responses
@much2say (57790)
• Los Angeles, California
23 Jul 24
I felt bad for him, but we cannot get in a situation where we'd get "stuck" with him. Had a sick feeling he might then ask if he could live with us temporarily. No way. I think his parents probably didn't really teach him much about the ways of the world - like manners.
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@much2say (57790)
• Los Angeles, California
24 Jul 24
@MarieCoyle I did try 
. But he's only 20 and has a very common name. Since he told us what high school he went to, all I found were some high school athletic stats . His awkwardness and the way he said things was enough to make me question this kid. But luckily my daughter isn't interested in him - she held her own on this one.
. But he's only 20 and has a very common name. Since he told us what high school he went to, all I found were some high school athletic stats . His awkwardness and the way he said things was enough to make me question this kid. But luckily my daughter isn't interested in him - she held her own on this one.3 people like this
@MarieCoyle (47655)
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25 Jul 24
@much2say
It sounds like your girl has some good, solid common sense. Thank goodness for that!! I would have been worried, too.
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@rebelann (114468)
• El Paso, Texas
23 Jul 24
Yikes, he sounds scary. I hope he doesn't try to pursue your daughter in any way. Does she know his full name? If so maybe you could ask someone about him ...... I confess, I watch too many shows about lawyers, right now I'm watching LA Law and it does give me ideas about watt to watch for, I'm just glad I'm not a young pretty girl for any man to get hung up on.
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@much2say (57790)
• Los Angeles, California
24 Jul 24
The good thing is my daughter had the smarts enough to see the red flags on her own . . . she really wasn't interested in this guy that way. She held her on on this one 
. I think the guy was actually interested, but also he seemed needy and was possibly desperate to find a stable place to be (sorry, we can't accommodate that). Anyway, for now I think we won't have to deal with him.
. I think the guy was actually interested, but also he seemed needy and was possibly desperate to find a stable place to be (sorry, we can't accommodate that). Anyway, for now I think we won't have to deal with him.1 person likes this
@LeaPea2417 (38285)
• Toccoa, Georgia
23 Jul 24
You definitely dodged a bullet on that one.
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@RasmaSandra (88362)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
24 Jul 24
Good that she never started a more serious relationship, Sounds like one scary fellow, So now she no longer has any contact with him?
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@much2say (57790)
• Los Angeles, California
24 Jul 24
The summer session just ended . . . and she knew him just long enough to realize there were too many red flags. They did go on one mall outing . . . he showed more of his outside-of-the-class self and she wasn't liking it. Since then they haven't spoken.
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@celticeagle (178875)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Jul 24
Ugh! Red flags all over that one. Sometimes these types push even harder. Be glad it went the way it did. I've watched too many Lifetime movies.
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@celticeagle (178875)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Jul 24
@much2say ......There are a lot of those type of storylines in the movies on Lifetime. And, many are taken from true stories.
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@much2say (57790)
• Los Angeles, California
24 Jul 24
That's the thing - I could see how it might lead to him wanting to live with us temporarily - and there's no way we could let that happen. When they get desperate, yah, they will push harder. We sure wouldn't to end up being a plot idea for a movie .
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@much2say (57790)
• Los Angeles, California
26 Jul 24
@celticeagle I also wouldn't want to be the focus on something like Dateline either (not a movie but those investigative docu shows) .
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@kaylachan (79265)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
23 Jul 24
Yeah, sounds like a real creep.
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@kaylachan (79265)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
24 Jul 24
@much2say I don't blame you, I wouldn't want that, either.
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@changjiangzhibin89 (17013)
• China
25 Jul 24
It wasn't done thing ! You didn't know each other well, he went to so far as to want to go to your house for dinner ,without so much as asking you .Your daughter is a good judge of people !
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@much2say (57790)
• Los Angeles, California
27 Jul 24
@changjiangzhibin89 I think so too. I feel bad for him, but I cannot entertain any of his living plans. Who asks this of someone after only knowing them for a short time? Sadly, he must be desperate.
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@changjiangzhibin89 (17013)
• China
27 Jul 24
@much2say It would spell troubles if you meet his demands for his living plans.You don't know what will happen.
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@changjiangzhibin89 (17013)
• China
26 Jul 24
@much2say Since He has such a family background ,he must have harbored ulterior motive to walk your daughter to your car every day.It was a good thing the 5 week summer class was over ! He has no reason to cotton up to you.
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@LindaOHio (198909)
• United States
24 Jul 24
Oh my goodness! I'd be separating myself from him immediately. And inviting himself over for dinner is indeed more than forward. Have a good day.
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@much2say (57790)
• Los Angeles, California
26 Jul 24
@LindaOHio But she's only 19, so still I worry about these things.
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@LindaOHio (198909)
• United States
25 Jul 24
@much2say Thank you very much. Your daughter is very wise!!!
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@GardenGerty (165519)
• United States
24 Jul 24
Your daughter sounds pretty level headed. He obviously has not got any real "social graces" probably from his rough upbringing.I have been taken advantage of a couple of times and had people "in need" stay with me or store stuff with me. I took a long time to learn.
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@allknowing (152403)
• India
24 Jul 24
Love is blind and glad that your daughter was not blindfolded.
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@RebeccasFarm (95739)
• Arvada, Colorado
24 Jul 24
Your daughter is golden..she was a smart cookie to distance herself. These smart choices avoid catastrophes in life..
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@Tampa_girl7 (53273)
• United States
24 Jul 24
This was not only a bit forward, but a bit creepy. Y’all really dodged a bullet.
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