A Day With Mom

@porwest (111577)

United States

October 30, 2024 7:07pm CST

Mom's dementia seems to be progressing rapidly, so I am trying to make it a point, especially now that I am retired, to spend more time with her. So, today I picked her up and we went to lunch at Subway and we both got a footlong Subway club. Hey, you can always eat the other half later. After that, I decided to take mom to the bowling alley where they have slot machine gaming. She LOVES to gamble so I thought this would be fun. She lost her money but I won $50. After that I stopped off at the bank to cash a check and we went to Ruler Foods, as I needed some things and she bought a few things as well. All in all it was a good day. She had a lot of fun and we got things done. I would call this a win.

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@kaylachan (81190)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

31 Oct 24

I am sure she felt the love if she may not remember any of it tomorrow.

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@kaylachan (81190)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

31 Oct 24

@porwest we went through that with George's mom. Thankfully, she developed bladder cancer and didn't pass from the altimers. It meant she didn't have to suffer as long.

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@kaylachan (81190)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

3 Nov 24

@porwest My husband's mom's lived until they were 92. that is to say her and her sisters. Don't know how long his father would've lived, because he developed dementia and decided to end his life. he was 88. All I know is we're gettting by.

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@porwest (111577)

• United States

31 Oct 24

I had to tell her at least five times the entire day where we were going and in what order. It is what it is.

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@AmbiePam (107766)

• United States

31 Oct 24

I’m glad to hear you got to spend time with her. I’m truly sorry you and your mother have to experience this heinous disease.

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@porwest (111577)

• United States

2 Nov 24

Me too. Of course life often just dishes things out we don't like but have to accept. All I can do is cherish the memories and make the most of what time we have left.

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@kareng (79879)

• United States

29 Nov 24

It's a big win. I went through all of that with my mother and it is a total shock when they go into shut down mode. Spend all the time you can with her because you never know when it could be the last time that she will know you, acknowledge you, or just be totally unresponsive.

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@kareng (79879)

• United States

1 Dec 24

@porwest Yep! Hang in there. I had to keep telling myself, "That is not my mom--just her worn out body and brain."

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@porwest (111577)

• United States

30 Nov 24

Yeah, it's such a sad disease. It really is. I mean, when you can see the person you know but they are no longer inside...that's hard to deal with.

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@porwest (111577)

• United States

7 Dec 24

@kareng When she spent a couple of weeks in a nursing home after a bad fall, mainly for rehab, there were a lot of people there who had no idea where they were. It's sad to see.

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@rakski (149387)

• Philippines

31 Oct 24

making memories with mom is good!!

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@porwest (111577)

• United States

31 Oct 24

I fear the opportunities to do that are becoming less and less.

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@rakski (149387)

• Philippines

31 Oct 24

@porwest cherish the moment

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@porwest (111577)

• United States

2 Nov 24

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@thislittlepennyearns (65846)

• Defuniak Springs, Florida

31 Oct 24

What is your go to at Subway. They are a little hit and miss.

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@thislittlepennyearns (65846)

• Defuniak Springs, Florida

1 Nov 24

@porwest not unless I'm blind. Lol Eww. How anyone can eat olives is beyond me.

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@porwest (111577)

• United States

3 Nov 24

@thislittlepennyearns I love them. Green or black. Black are good in salads, on a pizza, in tacos, on a sandwich. To me they are just good eats.

@porwest (111577)

• United States

31 Oct 24

Hey, didn't I say what I ordered in the post? Hmm. lol. I always get a Subway club with provolone, lettuce, onions, tomatoes, green peppers, black olives and onions with vinegar and oil on Italian herb and cheese bread.

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@MarieCoyle (52015)

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31 Oct 24

It's great that you are spending time with her. I am sorry she is worsening quickly, I know it's so hard to watch.

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@porwest (111577)

• United States

5 Nov 24

It really is. I don't look forward to the day that she's just there in body, but not in mind. I think that's the worst part.

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@porwest (111577)

• United States

9 Nov 24

@MarieCoyle I hope the day never comes when she does not know who I am. I can't imagine that.

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@MarieCoyle (52015)

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5 Nov 24

@porwest It truly is very difficult to see the earthly shell but the mind isn’t there. A friend of mine is going through this with her 90 year old mother. Every day her mother asks her”who are you? What’s your name?” That has to really hurt the heart.

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@GardenGerty (166718)

• United States

31 Oct 24

It does sound like a win, still making memories together, still getting things done.

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@porwest (111577)

• United States

2 Nov 24

Gotta make the most of what time we have left. I hate to see her this way. She deserves so much better. But life is what life is and sometimes it is not always fair.

@RasmaSandra (91626)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

31 Oct 24

I am glad you enjoyed your time with your mom, I am sure she loved every moment,

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@porwest (111577)

• United States

4 Nov 24

She really did. And then we had a nice weekend together as well and she was just elated.

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Vicki, #1 Creek Girl

@1creekgirl (44256)

• United States

2 Nov 24

That may turn out to be a wonderful memory for you later. I'm so sorry about your mom. She's blessed to have you.

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@porwest (111577)

• United States

3 Nov 24

I am blessed to have her. I was a rotten kid. lol

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Vicki, #1 Creek Girl

@1creekgirl (44256)

• United States

3 Nov 24

@porwest Well, sounds like you grew up to be a great son.

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@porwest (111577)

• United States

5 Nov 24

@1creekgirl I guess I improved with age. lol

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@lovebuglena (48373)

• Staten Island, New York

31 Oct 24

I had no idea you could play slots at a bowling alley. Glad you were able to spend quality time with your mom. And winning $50 ain’t bad either.

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@lovebuglena (48373)

• Staten Island, New York

5 Nov 24

@porwest how about in cemeteries?

As far as I know no slots in nyc aside from the casino.

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@porwest (111577)

• United States

4 Nov 24

Slots are everywhere around here, even in gas stations. lol

@porwest (111577)

• United States

5 Nov 24

@lovebuglena No slots in cemeteries, but plenty of Democrat voters.

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@nela13 (59163)

• Portugal

31 Oct 24

That is so nice that you spend time with your mom, those moments are precious.

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@nela13 (59163)

• Portugal

2 Nov 24

@porwest That is true, life is so unpredictable.

@porwest (111577)

• United States

2 Nov 24

More now than ever in many ways. It's a constant reminder to cherish every day because you just never know when life will take a turn.

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@LindaOHio (207803)

• United States

31 Oct 24

Bless you for spending some quality time with your mom. I'm sorry she's not doing well. I hope you have a good day.

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@LindaOHio (207803)

• United States

4 Nov 24

@porwest You're very welcome.

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@porwest (111577)

• United States

3 Nov 24

You and well and thank you. It's not been easy dealing with this, but deal with it we must.

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@sarik1 (7655)

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1 Nov 24

Glad to know. you enjoyed with mom.

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@porwest (111577)

• United States

2 Nov 24

It was a good time. I might make it an every Wednesday thing going forward just to get her our and spend some time. I think it's a good idea.

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@jefferson126 (3667)

• Shenzhen, China

31 Oct 24

You were lucky to win gamble,good that you spent a wonderful day with Mom.She must be very happy with company of you.

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@porwest (111577)

• United States

5 Nov 24

It was fun to win a little bit. I guess it made the day that much better. She enjoyed seeing me win too.

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@porwest (111577)

• United States

11 Nov 24

@jefferson126 She was. Not that it was life changing money or anything, but it was better than walking away empty handed. lol

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@jefferson126 (3667)

• Shenzhen, China

6 Nov 24

@porwest ,you mother must be happy with your win.

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@allknowing (153926)

• India

31 Oct 24

That was a good gesture. Keep in going

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@porwest (111577)

• United States

31 Oct 24

I may make it an every Wednesday thing for a while.

@wolfgirl569 (126101)

• Marion, Ohio

31 Oct 24

Glad you both had fun. Hope you can have a lot more time with her.

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@porwest (111577)

• United States

3 Nov 24

Fingers crossed we not only have more time, but quality time.

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@JudyEv (366853)

• Rockingham, Australia

31 Oct 24

Certainly a win for both of you. It's sad to see parents regressing with dementia.

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@porwest (111577)

• United States

4 Nov 24

It is a horrible disease. No doubt about it.

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@RevivedWarrior (3668)

• India

31 Oct 24

It is more than just a win! This was fantafabulous! Spending time with our near and dear ones especially mother is always worth more than a win. She would have loved to spend time with you and best of all you are spending time when she needs the most. Most than the gambling or having the footlong sub with you , it was your company that she would have valued the most . You made her day as well. You got her things as well plus you won $50. I would say you had a terrific day . And reading your day , bought smiles to my face along with other mylotters. You have agreat day ahead!