Would you take children to a no children wedding ?
By Traceyjayne
@Traceyjayne (4929)
United Kingdom
September 4, 2025 11:39am CST
I have just read a post on book of the Face where someone has asked ……
Would you take children to a NO CHILDREN wedding, if your babysitter dropped out at the last minute ?
My thoughts are
…..it is the happy couples big day and they have said that they don’t want children there.
You should stick to that.
Also , although you could check with them first how would you feel if they still said no ! ….would you feel rejected ? Angry ?
Even though you already knew they didn’t want children there !
If they said yes, bring them, if there is no other option so late, how would the other guests feel ….they are may be your family and friends, and they had to make other arrangements for their children !
How would you feel if they complained to you about taking your children when they did as they were asked and did not take theirs ?
Finally, how would you feel if you did take your children, only for them to cry throughout or play up and ruin people’s day / evening ?
Anyway, I would be interested in your thoughts …..
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11 responses
@DaddyEvil (158779)
• United States
4 Sep
First of all, I wouldn't be going to a wedding, whether I had children or not. My friends and family already know I won't show up.
In the incredibly unlikely event that I wanted to go to a wedding, I don't have small children... If I did, I'd call the couple and explain that my babysitter decided to be a no-show so I couldn't attend but would be sending a gift or taking it to them when I saw them in a few days.
In the unlikely event that I was invited to a wedding of someone I really didn't care for, I might borrow children from around my neighborhood and see how much fun the children and I could have annoying people and ruining the wedding... 
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@Traceyjayne (4929)
• United Kingdom
4 Sep
Option 3 …..i would have guessed you would do something like this …..
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@DaddyEvil (158779)
• United States
4 Sep
@Traceyjayne The point of life is to see how much fun you can enjoy before you kick the bucket... Isn't it? 
The point of life is to see how much fun you can enjoy before you kick the bucket... Isn't it? 1 person likes this
@AmbiePam (102472)
• United States
4 Sep
I would never do it. Now, if it were my close family, and I mean close, I’d call and tell them the situation. If they said bring the children, I would. But if I’m not super close, I’m not going, and will send a gift and a note explaining about the kids. I’m not putting someone in the position to tell me to stay home with my children, and sound rude. They said no children. It’s only close family, who won’t mind telling me the truth, that I’d give the option of telling me to bring the kids. Because if you bring any children, other people with children are going to be ticked off if they went out of the way to get a sitter.
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@Juliaacv (54748)
• Canada
4 Sep
Bringing children to a wedding would be the very last thing that I would do.
I would not want to upset the bride and groom, nor the other guests with their presence.
It would be much more suitable if one parent stayed home and the other went, even that is disappointing, as the meal would already be paid for, but emergencies do arise.
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@xFiacre (14274)
• Ireland
4 Sep
@traceyjayne I wouldn’t be courageous enough to tramp on any bride’s toes like this. When my daughter got married it was a small affair - 24 people - so mainly family. She had a baby and a toddler herself but wasn’t bringing them - who brings a toddler to a wedding? So she invited all her siblings and made it clear that she wasn’t inviting children. Our son’s wife who is haughty and entitled decided that she was bringing her children anyway then got indignant because our daughter insisted she wasn’t catering for children. Then as we were all paying for our own meals, the daughter insisted law remonstrated with the waiter because she didn’t think it fair that our son should pay the full whack since he’s a vegetarian and had no meat. Thoroughly irritating.
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@Traceyjayne (4929)
• United Kingdom
4 Sep
Your son’s wife sounds a real nightmare ! ( sorry ! )
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@Fleura (32490)
• United Kingdom
5 Sep
That's a tricky one. If I had children and a friend invited me to their wedding but stipulated 'no children' I would be in two minds about going at all in the first place. But in your scenario presumably the guests have already accepted the invitation and arranged a babysitter, who then drops out. In that case we would probably choose for one of us to stay at home with the children, and the one who is closest to the happy couple to go.
@LindaOHio (199928)
• United States
15h
I would not go if I didn't have a sitter. Crying children can ruin the whole day.
