A Delicate Situation / myLot

United States

October 11, 2025 12:44pm CST

Some of you might remember me talking about my childhood best friend. She had so many health problems, and doctors had removed several organs unnecessarily. The final, true diagnosis was diabetes and POTS (I know you’re familiar with that, @MarieCoyle ). Over the past few years she has confided in me that her 6’4 17 year old son still wets the bed. She said she lets her husband talk to his doctor about that, and she doesn’t get involved. She’s really big on asking advice from people, and then taking none of it that you offer. I told her she might want to talk to the doctor herself since he’s 17, and this is not getting better. He’s very immature mentally too, which you might have guessed.

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snowy

@snowy22315 (200196)

• United States

11 Oct

I would think at 17...being encouraged to talk to the doctor about himself should be encouraged..or maybe he takes the lead with a parent in the room. I am sure he is horribly embarrassed by it..so whatever he is most comfortable with should be done. If he is healthy, I am guessing the problem is largely psychological, but the physical has to be ruled out first

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Amber

@AmbiePam (108242)

• United States

11 Oct

From what she has told me I think she thinks he has a mental disorder. She also seems to be scared to get him tested for a mental disorder.

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snowy

@snowy22315 (200196)

• United States

11 Oct

@AmbiePam Somebody needs to buck up for this kid. Also, he will be 18 soon, and they won't be able to compell him to do anything he doesn't want to do.

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Amber

@AmbiePam (108242)

• United States

11 Oct

@snowy22315 That’s what I think. I mean, put on your big girl pants and do what needs to be done. I know I’m not a parent, but I don’t think you need to be one to know this is something you get on top of as soon as you start to suspect something.

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Heather Echola

@GardenGerty (166765)

• United States

12 Oct

We all pretty much agree that something needs to be done, and someone needs to advocate for her son.

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Eva James

@wolfgirl569 (126602)

• Marion, Ohio

11 Oct

He needs a full check up. Has he went through school ok. If he has he isnt too immature to learn. If not it could be that. But if the physical tests are good they need to start checking other things

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RasmaSandra

@RasmaSandra (91936)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

11 Oct

That guy really needs help and it seems he is not getting the right help, I hope someone does something for him,

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Amber

@AmbiePam (108242)

• United States

11 Oct

I hope they get him a mental evaluation somehow.

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Lenore Plassman

@sallypup (67149)

• Centralia, Washington

11 Oct

That lady has her hands overfull. I hope she gets some help with the son.

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Marie Coyle

@MarieCoyle (52319)

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11 Oct

The parents are doing the son no favors by not getting to the bottom of this problem. At 17, I am sure he is embarrassed, but that doesn't fix it. Not to be mean, this is your friend--but it sounds as if the family needs some general counseling. What kind of future does he have without some help?

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Amber

@AmbiePam (108242)

• United States

11 Oct

You’re not being mean. The entire family needs counseling for a lot of reasons, and should have gotten it a long time ago. She comes from a hugely dysfunctional family.

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Marie Coyle

@MarieCoyle (52319)

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11 Oct

@AmbiePam I hope something wakes them up. They have waited way, way too long to find a solution to this problem.

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marguicha

@marguicha (229605)

• Chile

12 Oct

This is something that has to be talked seriously with a doctor (doctors). A mental illlness is something that can be helped and there´s no shame in it.

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Amber

@AmbiePam (108242)

• United States

12 Oct

No shame at all.

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marguicha

@marguicha (229605)

• Chile

13 Oct

@AmbiePam One of my closest cousins had (has) a mental problem. His parents never wanted to seek help from the proper doctor in spite of what my aunt told them. He started to get psychiatrist help when he was a grown up. In spite of it all he has a nice career as a professor, wife and children. He does not live here but when he comes, he stays with the aunt who helped him.

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annavi23

@annavi23 (6633)

• Philippines

12 Oct

Being a parent is hard but when it comes to your children, you must really see to it that they can get help with anything that is bothering them. Be there for them and not let them feel alone.

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Stacey

@xstitcher (37019)

• Petaluma, California

11 Oct

I hope that the doctor can help.

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Judy Story

@jstory07 (147030)

• Roseburg, Oregon

12 Oct

Since he is 17 she needs to talk to the Doctor herself.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (489119)

• Italy

12 Oct

You are right, she is the one who should talk to the doctor and bring her son with her too. This could be a physical problem, a small bladder, an infection, not necessarily a mental problem.

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Amber

@AmbiePam (108242)

• United States

12 Oct

Nobody gets things done like a woman. Her husband had years to get to the bottom of this.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (489119)

• Italy

12 Oct

@AmbiePam - I fully agree with you. Her husband is unable to take care of this matter, it's up to her to talk to a doctor.

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Marie

@Tampa_girl7 (53981)

• United States

12 Oct

There could be a medical reason that he has accidents. Can he wear adult diapers ?

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Amber

@AmbiePam (108242)

• United States

12 Oct

Yes, he does wear them. He’s in band, so he takes them on overnight trips as well. I don’t know how he keeps it a secret.

Vicki, #1 Creek Girl

@1creekgirl (44257)

• United States

12 Oct

I'm really sorry about that situation.

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Amber

@AmbiePam (108242)

• United States

12 Oct

There’s always a lot of drama in this family which is why I generally stay away.

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Fleur

@Fleura (33158)

• United Kingdom

12 Oct

That's crazy! In a few months he will be 18 and then doctors will only speak to him and not his parents (confidentiality and all that) so it will be too late unless he seeks help himself, which sounds unlikely. Doesn't he care, waking up in a wet bed? Surely he must notice. He should do his own laundry and then maybe he might take some action.

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Amber

@AmbiePam (108242)

• United States

12 Oct

I strongly suspect he is, darn, I don’t remember the proper term, intellectually delayed, and that is coloring everything about him. I also think she hasn’t come to terms with that. This family has a lot of drama, and there are good reasons why we only have a texting relationship as of now.

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Fleur

@Fleura (33158)

• United Kingdom

12 Oct

@AmbiePam Yes it sounds as though you shouldn't get too closely involved!

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