A Welcome Hug.

@TheHorse (231721)
Walnut Creek, California
October 26, 2025 12:46pm CST
I have written about this young fella in the past. But that does not mean you remember him. His family sees him as having ADHD and developmental delays. But I see him as on the Autism spectrum. When I first met him, he would look near me, but not at me. He plays piano mostly with his index fingers, and I have been trying to teach him to "spread his hands out" " over the keyboard. He IS one of those kids who naturally understands music. He will sit down and bang out "Joy to the World (the Lord Has Come)." He will do the same with Bach's Minuet in G. We have been together for two or three years and have established an enjoyable relationship. He has been making real eye contact with me for over a year. We can imitate each others' melodies on piano, and even have several musical "inside jokes" that make us both laugh. About three months ago, he had to stop lessons because he was playing soccer. His Grandma took his spot, and I taught her piano. I also informed her, to the best of my ability, how I was teaching piano to her Grandson. Yesterday, as I arrived at work, I was pleasantly surprised to see my young student (he may be 11-years-old now) sitting at the art table. When he saw me, he made direct eye contact and said, "Hi, Horse." Then, as we were heading to the lesson room, he gave me a big hug. In our lesson, he continued to favor his index fingers over "proper technique," but we had a great time working on familiar melodies, and imitating each other's playing. Enough for now. I look forward to making further progress with this kid. Hugs are always welcome in my world.
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@kaylachan (80183)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
12h
Glad that he's back and your relationship is going well.
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@TheHorse (231721)
• Walnut Creek, California
11h
I hope we continue to make progress.
@DaddyEvil (160409)
• United States
9h
I'm glad he's enjoying his music lessons with you.
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@DaddyEvil (160409)
• United States
9h
@TheHorse Have you checked to see if there was research money available? You never know... trump might be interested in something like that.
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@TheHorse (231721)
• Walnut Creek, California
6h
@DaddyEvil Yes, he cares deeply about Americans, especially those who are disadvantaged.
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@TheHorse (231721)
• Walnut Creek, California
9h
I wish there was more research money for studies about the relationship between musical ability and Autism.
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@GardenGerty (166156)
• United States
9h
I have noticed online that they are sometimes using a new label AuDHD for autism with ADHD. I have mentally connected both of those in people I have known. Labels can be good or bad. Good if they get the student the type of assistance that is needed.
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@TheHorse (231721)
• Walnut Creek, California
6h
I see them as different issues. But they can overlap..
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@celticeagle (181152)
• Boise, Idaho
6h
It makes me rather emotional to read about how close you two have become over these last few years. How nice. And it's great that he is playing soccer even it meant putting music on the back burner for a time. Hugs really communicate a lot. Especially in youngsters. My grandson had a hard time when he was in elementary school because he wanted to hug everyone. That was a hard lesson to teach him about life and its constraints.
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@TheHorse (231721)
• Walnut Creek, California
5h
I am glad he has an overall positive attitude toward people. But boundaries are important as well.
@wolfgirl569 (124114)
• Marion, Ohio
8h
Glad he is back. Hugs are always nice
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@TheHorse (231721)
• Walnut Creek, California
5h
Now I have to get back to encouraging him to use all of his fingers when he plays.
@Nevena83 (65905)
• Serbia
10h
Oh, what a wonderful story. The boy remembers you.
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@TheHorse (231721)
• Walnut Creek, California
9h
Totally. We have a special connection.
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@TheHorse (231721)
• Walnut Creek, California
9h
@Nevena83 Yeppers. I am really happy about it.
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@Nevena83 (65905)
• Serbia
9h
@TheHorse You found a way to reach him and that's really nice.
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@AmbiePam (104859)
• United States
9h
That’s absolutely fantastic.
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@TheHorse (231721)
• Walnut Creek, California
9h
I look forward to seeing him next week.
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@BarBaraPrz (50538)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
10h
Sounds as if it was nice for both of you. Is Grandma continuing to take lessons with you?
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@TheHorse (231721)
• Walnut Creek, California
10h
I think she is giving way to her Grandson. It appears that she had Grandpa are very supportive of this child. He usually bring him to his lessons.
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@RasmaSandra (90248)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
9h
That is wonderful you have been a good influence on him,
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@TheHorse (231721)
• Walnut Creek, California
5h
I am glad he is still enthusiastic about learning piano.
@sallypup (66487)
• Centralia, Washington
12h
He sounds like a delight. Why does he need to be proper in how he plays? Just as long as some form of melody works out, what's the big deal?
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@TheHorse (231721)
• Walnut Creek, California
10h
I am enouaging both. He'll be able to play faster and more complex melodies if he spreads his fingers out.
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@JudyEv (364881)
• Rockingham, Australia
3h
How nice is that? Has he given up soccer for the moment?