Chewed out by my boss twice at work today.
By The Horse
@TheHorse (233249)
Walnut Creek, California
November 8, 2025 3:49pm CST
A few years ago, I wrote a piece here about how I prefer working for male bosses over female bosses. I could be totally wrong, but my sense is that female bosses are more likely than male bosses to "get you" for the "small stuff," while male bosses focus on the "big picture" more.
Feel free to correct/argue with me if you think I am wrong. I will not take offense.I have never done a psychology study in this area, and have actually never even done a "literature review" in this area.
At Guitar Center, it feels like a "bromance" every day. We all look out for each other, and things go smoothly over all. We are one of the most successful Guitar Centers in the Country (the US) when it comes to Lessons.
Today, our store manager pulled me aside and criticized me for leaving expensive electric guitars in the lessons rooms when I go home at night.
I told her that I do not use electric guitars in my lessons, even when I am teaching electric guitar students.
Later, she asked me if I had taught a guitar lesson in a "guitar testing" room near the back of the store. I told her I had, as there were no other rooms available.
She said that I could not teach back there, as there are no cameras in the rooms.
I asked if GC could make more rooms available to teachers.
Do you have a preference for male or female "bosses"?
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15 responses
@GardenGerty (166918)
• United States
9 Nov
My preferences are more "age related" than gender associated. I prefer older, more mature bosses over those on the young side. I have had very few male bosses, and depending on the type of job, I either liked them or hated them. Since you are making me think about it, though, my conclusion is that there is not any gender bias, some bosses are just jerks.
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@DaddyEvil (164203)
• United States
9 Nov
I agree, female bosses can be petty and carry grudges. At least the ones I've worked for did.
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@DaddyEvil (164203)
• United States
9 Nov
@TheHorse Personally, I think it could be because they aren't sure enough in their own power when dealing with male employees.
One female boss I had at Walmart would get mad at me for something a customer said to her and had nothing at all to do with me. I was very happy when she was replaced a few months after she became my boss. It was really tiring trying to figure out what "I" had done to cause her to be upset/angry with me when I hadn't even been at work when something happened to make her upset. I reported her several times for that behavior.
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@TheHorse (233249)
• Walnut Creek, California
9 Nov
@DaddyEvil I agree with this.
"because they aren't sure enough in their own power when dealing with male employees"
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@celticeagle (183584)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Nov
Nitpicky it sounds like. The only boss I've ever had a problem with was a female. She had a huge ego and it was her way or the highway. She and I were forever going round because she disliked me. You see I had been night manager for a while, and I caught her doing some very unethical things. I told the big boss and I had proof. Yet she remained and they never did a thing to her. Business is weird and I am so glad I am retired and don't have to deal with people any longer. I hope this boss figures out whatever is going on and leaves you a lone.
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@LeaPea2417 (39316)
• Toccoa, Georgia
9 Nov
I agree with your view about female bosses.
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@RasmaSandra (92175)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
8 Nov
Very glad to hear this and I am glad you have a good place to work,
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@RasmaSandra (92175)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
8 Nov
@TheHorse never mind do you know something odd that what you wrote about the store manager was not there in writing when I first read this and only popped up now, As for the store manager she whould get her facts straight and put up a big sign lettign whoever uses the electric guitars to have them locked up at night, It could very well be some odd burb of my PC it does odd things at times. One of my worst female bosses where two females who were partners to each other and the worst male boss was of Chinese decent who thought he was God's gift to mankind,
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@TheHorse (233249)
• Walnut Creek, California
9 Nov
@RasmaSandra I hope I get left alone to do my job.
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@LindaOHio (209094)
• United States
9 Nov
I've had good and bad of both sexes; but I tend to like a male boss better as I like men better than women anyway. The one boss that pops out had me write his memos for him and took all the praise for the way situations were handled by print. He also forced me out when he wanted another woman to replace him because she flirted with him, etc. I was due for the manager's job but ended up leaving and starting my own business.
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@AmbiePam (108731)
• United States
8 Nov
I usually hear men say the prefer male bosses although their reasons for justifying this preference always vary. I pointed out to one guy friend of mine he calls every female boss he’s ever had bossy, yet somehow his male bosses don’t get that description from him.
It sounds like your working conditions have been ideal.
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@snowy22315 (200522)
• United States
8 Nov
Honestly, I prefer male bosses too. They are less likely to be petty IMHO.
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@much2say (57713)
• Los Angeles, California
10 Nov
@TheHorse They are lucky to have you there - there is a reason why your students stick with you.
I know female bosses like your boss. I feel like they might not thank nor compliment because a guy might take it the wrong way. Or that an employee might "relax" or not work as hard if they are given too many positive affirmations. Sounds weird, but I've seen that happen.
@TheHorse (233249)
• Walnut Creek, California
9 Nov
I have the longest "retention rate" in the store. Some students have been with me for more than three years. She has never once thanked or complimented me. It's odd. Do Managers have to be "trained" in showing appreciation for good performance?
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@Tampa_girl7 (53987)
• United States
9 Nov
I always preferred working with men over females.
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@Shiva49 (27740)
• Singapore
9 Nov
I worked only once for a female boss and she was nit-picking on small details and trying to find fault.
The male bosses tend to overlook minor issues as long as the job was done.
Then I had some female staff working under me who could not get along.
That tested my patience as I had to mediate and ended up displeasing one or the other.
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@Dena91 (17030)
• United States
9 Nov
I want a boss who is competent, willing to do the same work as me, and is honest. Whether they be male or female. I have worked for both, who were what I listed.
I also worked for both who were incompetent (they could not tell me how to do my job---which was what their job was to do), and lied constantly. I didn't stay long with these folks.
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@Soobinah (211)
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9 Nov
Before, i want a male boss because i thought they can handle their emotions well, (well, most of the men around me were really good in handling their emotions) until I met my boss now who is a female, she is really good. she can control her emotions well.
i think, its not about the gender of the person that matters, it's their behavior and how they handle the situation.
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