Are adult public displays of anger now normal, and here to stay?

@MarieCoyle (54782)
December 19, 2025 9:51pm CST
Yes, I'm the one who wrote of the Salvation Army bell ringer who was the victim of a young man throwing things on him. I was rather shocked over it all, such a young man attacking a man who has to be at least 80 years old, but in retrospect, I guess I shouldn't have been surprised. Nothing should really surprise me anymore, but somehow it does. And I can't live in a bubble, isolated from life. Some things have to be done, no matter what. My oldest son bought me a new phone. Mine was not always doing what it was supposed to, when it was supposed to. I hadn't said anything to him about it, but I know on Thanksgiving he picked it up and looked at it and said something about it would soon be outdated. I've always kept my phones until they croak, so I didn't think about it at the time. Evidently, he did. Since we are on a joint AT&T account, he had a new iphone sent to me, with a case and all the necessary things to make it what he thought it should be. He even bought his old mom a phone of a lovely pink color...he knows it's one of my favorite colors. It arrived yesterday. I was reading on how to set it up and transfer all the info from one phone to another, but the process is now a lot different, so I decided I would let the people at the AT&T store do it for me. It was a lot different than it was a few years ago. She punched in a few things, I did the password and the face ID, and she put the phones side by side--no cords, just the phones. It was done in a few minutes. An extremely painless process, yay! In the few minutes I was waiting and chatting with the tech lady helping me, the tech next to her finished with his customer and called the next name. An elderly lady came up and sat down, and they started their business together. Immediately, another lady charged up to them and said, you called my name, why is SHE taking my place?? They both had the same first name, Julia. But different last initials. The tech said he took them in the order they had arrived and this lady was first, and he said it wouldn't be long at all. So Julia #2 went ballistic! She went up to the old lady, got right in her face, and while I cannot type what she screamed at her, lets just say it starts with an F. And she stomped off. The entire place got super quiet...a manager was called and shortly after, here comes a police car and the nasty lady was escorted out. Yay!! But...why, why, is all of this anger escalating everywhere?? A friend who lives close to Indianapolis called yesterday. While she was grocery shopping, another lady was shopping and was by the meat counter. She took two dozen eggs out of her cart and dumped them on packages of roasts and steaks in the meat case, and smashed them on top of the packages. She yelled something about how they would have to mark down the meat now and not charge so much. I mean...seriously?? Friend said the police showed up for her, too. So, so much anger. I am truly struggling to understand all of this. I realize we have an angry, and full of hate, leader. But this kind of behavior solves nothing. Where will it all end? Pinterest picture
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@crossbones27 (52221)
• Mojave, California
20 Dec
Thats what they go for to make us angry. My only beef is how many not standing up. Behavior is mute if you cannot stand up to a bully,
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@MarieCoyle (54782)
20 Dec
I am not going to jump right in...I can't. For one thing, I am handicapped. For another, if I willingly put myself in danger, it would not end in my favor, and I can't do it. Verbally, yes. Physically, it's not going to happen.
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• Mojave, California
20 Dec
@MarieCoyle I do not blame you, stay safe. There is no reason to do anything. Trump walking all over this country, no one doing anything. Don't move and may never have to if people just going to sell our country down the drain. Give us a reason to fight for this time and leadership.
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@sallypup (67978)
• Centralia, Washington
20 Dec
@crossbones27 It's not what I ever expected to see but it gives me hope when I see news videos of church leaders yelling at ICE agents to get out of their sanctuary. Sometimes it is good to be angry and yelling.
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@LadyDuck (493349)
• Italy
20 Dec
People seem to become less and less tolerant, they get angry for very little things and show they anger in public. Christmas time used to be a time of love and peace, but no more now.
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@LadyDuck (493349)
• Italy
21 Dec
@MarieCoyle - You are so right being afraid to react. I tell my husband all the time to say nothing if he notice someone rude being violent, some people are dangerous in our days.
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@LadyDuck (493349)
• Italy
21 Dec
@MarieCoyle - This is my opinion, my husband is so frail now, I do not want that he gets hurt by an angry rude guy.
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@MarieCoyle (54782)
21 Dec
@LadyDuck Yes, it’s best to say nothing and leave as soon as possible. A person just never knows how fast something can escalate.
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@celticeagle (185545)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Dec
It maddens me so when young people don't respect their elders. I truly believe that Trumps ugliness has made meanness and negativity the norm and made it more of the norm in the world today. I wish he and his family were gone and out of the media. How nice of your older son to get you a new phone. I have my grandson change over mine and I get a new one about every two or three years. I depend on mine so much I want to be sure I have a good one that is up to date. How horrible that woman was. Ugh! I'm glad the police were called, and she didn't get away with acting that way or treating that older woman the way she did. I watched a video on YouTube this past summer about some women who thought they were entitled and what a terrible time the police had with them. I truly believe that with the demise of generational family life young people are no longer being taught how to act. By 'generational' I mean families used to include grandparents who took care of the kids while parents worked. They were taught things. But now kids just feel entitled. Like the law doesn't apply to them. This comes from a lack of being in a true family setting growing up. They are left alone while parents work and aren't seeing good family values. They are basically raising themselves. I believe this very strongly. And I also believe that the way Trump acts has something to do with it too. He has no values, no morals, no decency. People see how he acts and they think it is okay to act however they want. When we had decent presidents, we had more decency in the world. Respect and morals are no longer seen in the administration. I think we used to look to the heads of state to set a norm that we don't see now. Just my two cents worth. Happy Holidays by the way.
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@celticeagle (185545)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Dec
@MarieCoyle ...........That's very true indeed. Thank you for the good wishes. I hope things get better for you and your son in the new year.
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@MarieCoyle (54782)
23 Dec
@celticeagle My son, my family and friends, and myself--we are all striving for this to happen. It's been a long, long journey. Thanks again, so much.
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@MarieCoyle (54782)
21 Dec
When the leader is out of control, so is the country. And he is. Pretty much every day is a new mess to wade through, and it’s a deep mess!! When you lead with no morals, values, or decency, and project hate and anger, that’s what is going to come back to you—more of the same. I hope you and yours will have a good holiday as well!
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@moffittjc (127417)
• Gainesville, Florida
21 Dec
I pretty much see this type of behavior on a daily basis. It shows how far our world and our society has truly fallen. This is what happens when we remove God from our lives.
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@moffittjc (127417)
• Gainesville, Florida
23 Dec
@MarieCoyle The majority of the customers I encounter daily are pretty decent, but we all know it takes just one bad apple to ruin your day.
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@MarieCoyle (54782)
24 Dec
@moffittjc Yes, it does. I always have to wonder just what they hope to accomplish, acting like that.
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@MarieCoyle (54782)
22 Dec
I think anyone in retail or running any type of business is sadly seeing these behaviors pretty much every day. And I know how much it means to have God in my life walking with me. I wish more people did.
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@sallypup (67978)
• Centralia, Washington
20 Dec
I hear you. These are weird and desperate times. Very uncertain times and people are uneasy and have no leader to prove different.
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@MarieCoyle (54782)
20 Dec
@sallypup In my wildest imagination, I never could have predicted this—until he arrived on the scene. Now there are no rules at all—he gives the orders to do whatever he wants to do.
@Nakitakona (59787)
• Philippines
20 Dec
Getting angry is natural man's reaction to the bullies. However, there's a practical thing to observe. That's controlling one's ire.
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@Nakitakona (59787)
• Philippines
21 Dec
@MarieCoyle Unless the mind and emotion fail to coordinate with other.
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@MarieCoyle (54782)
21 Dec
@Nakitakona I think some people have a broken mind at this point.
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@MarieCoyle (54782)
20 Dec
What ever happened to self-control? Do these people even know what that is??
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@AmbiePam (112728)
• United States
20 Dec
The fact that these things keep happening is ridiculous. But the fact that you have to witness them bothers me even more. And that poor woman who was verbally assaulted! I just don’t seem to witness these kind of things, and it is pathetic that anyone does. The entitlement of that woman reminds me of what I saw a couple of months in Philadelphia at a baseball game. A lady went up to a boy who caught a baseball, and started verbally assaulting him because she claimed that ball was really hers. People, get a life! On the plus side, yay for a new phone!
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@MarieCoyle (54782)
20 Dec
Lately, it seems as if many instances like this happen daily for people to witness. It bothers me terribly. People seem to have no problem displaying their bad manners, horrible language (and it doesn't matter if it's in front of small children, etc.) rudeness, and above all, hate and anger which as we know, often escalates into violence of some sort. Yes, the new phone is very nice, for sure. Not a gift I expected, with times being what they are. He worries about me, and about his brother, tries to help from a distance when he can. I admit I do not always tell him when the chips are down in the gutter, so to speak, as his plate is so, so full...but sometimes, he just guesses.
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@FourWalls (82922)
• United States
20 Dec
I think this is the natural progression of the kids not being disciplined when they were acting up in public. Or the baby-in-chief not being disciplined when he does it.
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@MarieCoyle (54782)
21 Dec
@FourWalls Baby-in-chief....so well said! You may be right in some cases about the discipline thing...but the people I have been seeing doing this ridiculous and mean stuff are grown adults. Yesterday, that lady who yelled at the old lady had to be at least 50 years old, she was no kid. Sometimes when I see these things happen, it almost makes me embarrassed to be human.
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@LeaPea2417 (39504)
• Toccoa, Georgia
20 Dec
It's going to continue because lots of people lately lack empathy towards others. Nearly every week I read news articles about people either being killed or assaulted by "road ragers". It's sickening and scary.
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@MarieCoyle (54782)
21 Dec
And yet we have to keep on trying to help make things better somehow. It’s either that or give up, and I don’t ever give up!
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@wolfgirl569 (129632)
• Marion, Ohio
20 Dec
It's going to take a long time to get things back to normal. I would not have minded an old lady going in front of me at all. As for the meat it's usually wrapped in plastic so not hard to clean. So that didn't help anything. Glad they were both taken away.
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@MarieCoyle (54782)
20 Dec
That's just it--this type of behavior solves nothing at all. Actions have consequences, whether the actions are good, or bad.
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@wolfgirl569 (129632)
• Marion, Ohio
20 Dec
@MarieCoyle Maybe we need to build some rehab centers just for angry people.
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@MarieCoyle (54782)
21 Dec
@wolfgirl569 Maybe so, but they would have to be very large, and there would have to be a lot of them at this rate!!
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@RasmaSandra (94257)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
20 Dec
There is evil afoot and it is affecting lots of people , Now I know I am staying put at least until the NEw Year, If you want to know how seriously I hate this bad world I have not gone out since the summer began and i only go into the front yard when I need to wait for my grocery delivery.
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@RasmaSandra (94257)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
21 Dec
@MarieCoyle I am not saying it is the right choice just that it is what it is with me. Kind of scares me when the though comes into my mind that I would be relived to be in Heaven with my loved ones but need to go naturally,
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@MarieCoyle (54782)
22 Dec
@RasmaSandra Uncertainty does breed fear in people, I get that. All that goes on now has really made me even more aware of my surroundings.
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@MarieCoyle (54782)
21 Dec
I can’t do that. It just would not work, and I have obligations for my son, myself, and other things that I feel are needed and necessary.
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@JudyEv (371841)
• Rockingham, Australia
21 Dec
Do you think it has something to do with less public 'shaming'? People seem to think they can say and do anything. Like you, I wonder where it will all end.
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@JudyEv (371841)
• Rockingham, Australia
21 Dec
@MarieCoyle Our local area has its own FB site but they can be incredibly cruel and unkind in their comments to posts. And once someone says something nasty, others jump on like a pack of wolves. It's really awful. I never go there now. There seems nothing you can do that would help and it's too upsetting.
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@MarieCoyle (54782)
22 Dec
@JudyEv Oh, we have a few of those groups, too. And they certainly do get nasty!! I only go to them when I am wondering about local road conditions or power outages. We do have one that isn’t nasty and is strictly monitored. Sadly, it doesn’t have many members. And yes, that shows what society here has become.
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@MarieCoyle (54782)
21 Dec
I never thought of that, honestly. I find myself wondering just what these angry people are trying to accomplish through their actions towards others. As we know, anger and hate just breeds more anger and hate. Nothing positive ever comes from it.
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@aninditasen (18017)
• Raurkela, India
20 Dec
With age some people tend to lose patience. Sometimes it's the more acidic content in the blood stream.
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@aninditasen (18017)
• Raurkela, India
23 Dec
@MarieCoyle That's true which such old people don't understand.
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@MarieCoyle (54782)
20 Dec
There is no excuse in the world for this type of behavior unless you are senile, or just mean and angry. It is not acceptable, ever.
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@MarieCoyle (54782)
24 Dec
@aninditasen I am not sure what you mean here, sorry...I am an old person compared to you. And I like to think I do understand.
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@LindaOHio (213871)
• United States
20 Dec
People are forgetting how to be civil.
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@MarieCoyle (54782)
21 Dec
Or decent, kind, and honorable.
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@jstory07 (147492)
• Roseburg, Oregon
20 Dec
People seem to be getting worse instead of better.
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@MarieCoyle (54782)
20 Dec
@jstory07 Yes, they are. And hate and anger just breeds more hate and anger.