Why people always think that the youngest child is spoiled and having so much fun?

Anna

@LadyDuck (502729)

• Italy

20 Jan

@valherma00 - Male children are always Moms' favorite children.

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@valherma00 (3950)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

20 Jan

As i said at the beginning of my post, we all must have different experiences.what is one family,might not be in other.also,it depends of the country,even region,male/female, the year and such.ah,male children,worshiped here as well.sorry.

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@valherma00 (3950)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

20 Jan

@LadyDuck they are.my late grandmother mentioned so many times,my son this,my son that.even i had too much hearing that,even though her son was/is my father

.here, on some islands and on the south of my country,men pray that they have only sons,not daughters.people are sometimes messed up,awful!

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Kayla Tsukino

@kaylachan (84837)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

20 Jan

While I agree with a lot of what you've said, you're only higlighting the negative side to being a last born. A negative that is no one's fault, except maybe time, that often makes a child left is out, is a younger child has to wait to do something an older child could already do. That being said, life isn't always roses of gold for older siblings, either. In some cases in multi-child housholds, older children often become the babysitter for their younger siblings. Which can often cause resentment especially when the older child might want to hang out with their friends. But life isn't all negative, either. My husband has an older sister, and he grew up well-adjusted. He suffered from depression, and sucicidal tendcies before he met me, but that had nothing with being a last born. Sometimes it's a net positive to being told it's okay if you succeed or fail. We need to learn while we're young failure is okay, and failing is a good thing.

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Kayla Tsukino

@kaylachan (84837)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

20 Jan

@valherma00 Well, I hate to break it to you, in terms of failure and disappoitment, there's been a shift dramatically in how society is starting to view up. I grew up in a time where you either won or lost a compition. Now a days, it's more common to give participation ribbons for just showing up. People are becoming afraid to disipline their children. Now, every child suddenly has some nero-devergent disorder. Again, not in all casses. But, this is a shift that I'm seeing more and more. Adults today don't know respect, disipline and pain. You might think things like second-hand and hand-me-downs crushes a chiled's spirt, but it's not as harmful as you're trying to make it sound. You only highlighted the negative pssivble impact of those things, but if there really is this balance, the younger siblig is learning valuable life lessons that the older one isn't. By getting everything first, can create a sense of entitlement. If the parents treat hand-me-downs and second-hand clothes and toys as a bad thing, then a younger child might start to feel it's a bad thing. If a parent treats a child badly for failing, then the child will grow up thinking failure is bad. It's how you parent your kids. And age or birth order has nothing to do with it. Again the older sibling will get to do things first, but that is biology, nothing more. ANd in some families, the gap isn't a huge one.

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@valherma00 (3950)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

20 Jan

It may appear negative to you but,to me,i wanted to show some more sympathy towards youngest children.there are so many factors from the country to gender and that's why i wrote at the beginning that our experiences must be different.also,not all older siblings take care of baybysitting and i think they never should have.hopefully,today,maybe it's not happening the way it had. This is a portrait of the youngest,just that.i wish every child,whether older or younger hears that failing is okay and that siblings support each other and not in the most cases, that there is unhealthy competition,jelaousy or even hate.

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@valherma00 (3950)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

20 Jan

@kaylachan again,it's not all negative,as you see it and there is no need to be a devil advocate

ah,these generations,i can't comment them,they are aliens for me

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Stacey

@xstitcher (39061)

• Petaluma, California

19 Jan

I'm the oldest of two, and my brother seems to think I got more attention (maybe to some point I did) because of all my health issues as a child.

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Stacey

@xstitcher (39061)

• Petaluma, California

20 Jan

@valherma00 No, the last surgery I had when I was a child I was 11 years old.

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@valherma00 (3950)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

20 Jan

I'm sorry you had health issues.if i'm not intruding,do you still have these issues?i had a tough allergy as a child.by time,it got better but i remember going to doctors too many times and i hated it.yes,that attention factor breaks the supposed harmony between siblings.

@valherma00 (3950)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

21 Jan

@xstitcher i'm glad you're good since then

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@DaddyEvil (174657)

• United States

19 Jan

I don't know. I wasn't the youngest or the oldest child. I was number 15 out of 16 children. My older brothers said I was spoiled because mom bought a milking machine when it was my turn to milk the cows twice a day but my brothers didn't care or want to understand that I had arthritis in my hands and had trouble milking the cows. (Mom told them it was none of their business and that really made them happy.)

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@DaddyEvil (174657)

• United States

20 Jan

@valherma00 We'd need at least 15 more kids to make up one school class.

Thanks. Arthritis rarely bothers me now unless I'm doing the same thing a lot...

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The Horse

@TheHorse (238349)

• Walnut Creek, California

20 Jan

@valherma00 Heh. Cain and Abel.

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@valherma00 (3950)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

20 Jan

That's one school class here,15children

i'm so sorry you had arthritis at such a young age and sorry you weren't understood right.that factor of jelaousy or attention is so strong between siblings.i mean,chinese dynasties are coming to my mind

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The Horse

@TheHorse (238349)

• Walnut Creek, California

19 Jan

First borns often have great pressure to succeed. I can see how the youngest could be seen as just "cute" or "funny."

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@valherma00 (3950)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

20 Jan

I wonder do others pressure them or that is within them,perhaps.in some families,there is even no pressure but we all have different experiences and there are so many factors.watching Godfather movie recently,i forgot,was Fredo the oldest or Sonny?

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The Horse

@TheHorse (238349)

• Walnut Creek, California

20 Jan

@valherma00 Oh, my goodness! I cannot remember.

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@valherma00 (3950)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

21 Jan

@TheHorse i'll look it up too but i think michael was the youngest.

Dr Souvik Chatterji

@sathviksouvik (23252)

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7 Apr

Generally i have one observation. Generally the younger child is born at a higher age of that of the father and mother. The amount of discipline or effort in upbringing that parents do for the elder ones that gets a bit diluted in the case of the youngest one.

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@valherma00 (3950)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

7 Apr

it feels it's less of a discipline or lack of emotions, who knows. everyone has it hard but there are still prejudice against the youngest. higher age; you mean, when the parents are older or?

Lenore Plassman

@sallypup (69217)

• Centralia, Washington

7 Apr

I'm the youngest of 8 kids. I barely knew my oldest sister. Maybe I was spoiled but I got very little help from my family when I could have used it.

Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (323168)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

20 Jan

I'm the first born. It wasn't a picnic being first either.

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@valherma00 (3950)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

21 Jan

yes, there are so many factors whether we are the oldest or the youngest.

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@dgobucks226 (37621)

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30 Jan

I would think each family situation is different. Being the youngest can have disadvantages like being babied, getting your sibs used clothing, or feeling inadequate when compared with their older brothers and sisters. But being the youngest has some positives like getting away with things and bearing less responsibilities than their siblings. Also, the older sibs could be more protective of him/her and the parents may provide more support. Really, whether being the youngest is a detriment or not is a totally subjective viewpoint. And not the same for everyone.

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