What have you been asked to do lately
@shaggin (74976)
United States
March 16, 2026 5:24pm CST
Last week a friend of mine asked if I was heading a certain direction by any chance. I said yep and asked what she needed. She wanted me to pick up food for her at a restaurant. Okay sure.
Then when I was headed home she said her son was napping and she couldn’t wake him so she would either pick it up later from my house or I could drop it off if it wasn’t to much trouble. It’s maybe 10 miles extra so I just dropped it off to her so she could have it ready for her and her kids as soon as her son was home from school. She did offer gas money but I said no.
Friday a woman I don’t know very well on Facebook asked if she could give me a list of books she wants and if I could grab them out of little free libraries for her if I see any. My kids and I visit them all the time so no problem. She offered gas money but I said nah since we live so close I can just drop them off.
However I have to many books so I try not to look at the adult books to keep from being tempted by more. Today she sent me the list and when I confirmed some were paperback she wants she said “She only wants hardcover”.
Okay miss picky pants isn’t even getting them for herself. So she has me looking for books for her to give someone else. Good grief whatever if it makes someone happy I guess.
Photos are mine from last summer. Unrelated to the post.
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@wolfgirl569 (133912)
• Marion, Ohio
16 Mar
I don't mind helping people but would not go out of my way to find hardbacks
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@shaggin (74976)
• United States
17 Mar
@wolfgirl569 if I see something I can help someone with I offer. It usually bugs me when people ask me for help because 99% of the time it’s something I would never ask anyone else to help me with.
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@celticeagle (188536)
• Boise, Idaho
17 Mar
People pleasers do just that--people please. If it bothers you change. If not, enjoy the fact that people know they can depend on you.
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@shaggin (74976)
• United States
17 Mar
@celticeagle I suppose at times it does bother me just because I would never ask anyone else for help like that and think most the time they can figure things out on there own as well. But I do like to help people when I can. Usually on my own terms though so when someone asks me to do something it’s more grudgingly I do it. I do have a hard time saying no.
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@celticeagle (188536)
• Boise, Idaho
17 Mar
@shaggin ........I think it feels good to help others where you can.
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@toniganzon (76923)
• Philippines
17 Mar
I don't mind helping out when I could. But I rarely ask help from people especially those I'm not close to because I don't want to bother them at all unless they offered me help when they see I'm needing one.
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@toniganzon (76923)
• Philippines
18 Mar
@shaggin I just don't want to be a burden to anybody.
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@shaggin (74976)
• United States
18 Mar
@rakski I do to but with it being my idea. I don’t like being asked for help when it’s something I think they can do themselves. Like driving a mile to a Chinese restaurant instead of having me pick it up and drive an extra ten miles to drop it off to them.
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@RasmaSandra (96888)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
16 Mar
Lovely flowers, I just do what I do for myself. You were already kind enough to say you would loog for the books,
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@shaggin (74976)
• United States
18 Mar
@RasmaSandra I think it’s rude to ask for me to look for books for her to give someone else. I only said yes because I thought SHE wanted them.
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@Jehanne (1327)
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17 Mar
I won't mind helping especially old people or homeless. We have a small store that sell food so sometimes there are homeless people came by and we offer them food. Some keep coming, still we gladly gave them food.
Also there's an old man we always accompany crossing the street whenever we see him standing by the road.
It really felt nice being able to help as long as it's not being abuse.
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@shaggin (74976)
• United States
18 Mar
@AmbiePam it wasn’t really me volunteering though it was kind of grudgingly accepting. I do volunteer to help people when I see they need it and I am able to. I don’t like being asked to do things though unless I feel they have no choice which is rare. People ask others for favors to easily when they can do things on their own!
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@shaggin (74976)
• United States
19 Mar
@LadyDuck thank you! My grandmother planted them back in the 40s. I’m luckily they continue to bloom. My mother planted yellow ones and they never came up :(
Yes I find it annoying. I’m not even sure she is correct because the photo shows pb by certain titles but she told me the person wants all hardcover 
. I think I’ll just avoid looking for those marked pb either way.
. I think I’ll just avoid looking for those marked pb either way.1 person likes this
@DaddyEvil (173316)
• United States
17 Mar
Some people don't mind how they spend your time or money. I'd tell people like that I don't have time to do their errands. It's really rare for us to ask anyone for help. I will ask my brother but I know he'll ask if he needs something, too.
I'd just tell the last person that I haven't seen any of the books she's wanting for her friend. You don't have to tell her that's because you aren't looking at the books for older people.
A few days ago a friend I haven't seen in quite a while asked if they could use my credit card to buy some stuff they needed and they'd pay me back when they had the money. I don't have any credit cards so I explained Pretty and I didn't use credit cards so I couldn't help them. He didn't ask how we're doing or anything... 
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@shaggin (74976)
• United States
17 Mar
@Daddyevil wow I am shocked someone would ask you to do that with the credit cards. My husband and I did do that a few times with our patents. My father in law wanted the money back within a month so my parents let us pay them back slowly. My husband was working for his father and only getting minimum wage so there was no way we could pay the amount back in a month. He had a lot of money so we didn’t think it would be a problem.
I did think about that I can just say I haven’t seen any. I guess if I happen to see any I can grab them but I won’t be trying hard to find them.
The friend is always asking for favors I would never ask of her . However I do think if I needed her help she would try.
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@shaggin (74976)
• United States
17 Mar
@DaddyEvil my daughter would love that she’s into that genre right now. It’s my least favorite 
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Aww I’m sorry you had to learn that the hard way .
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Aww I’m sorry you had to learn that the hard way .1 person likes this
@DaddyEvil (173316)
• United States
17 Mar
@shaggin I did do that for one friend years ago and ended up suing him to make him pay for the stuff he wanted. I learned my lesson.
I have hundreds of books packed away in the garage. If she's asking for Sci-Fi/Fantasy, you could send her here and I'd let her look through all the totes out there.
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@Marilynda1225 (90379)
• United States
27 Mar
You certainly made me laugh when you called her "miss picky pants" That really is going above a normal request especially if she's not even looking for the books for herself.
I don't mind doing a favor as long as it's a reasonable request.
Your flowers are really pretty!
That really is going above a normal request especially if she's not even looking for the books for herself.
I don't mind doing a favor as long as it's a reasonable request.
Your flowers are really pretty!1 person likes this
@shaggin (74976)
• United States
28 Mar
@Marilynda1225 I should have just asked who they were for. If it’s for like say her elderly mother I’m more happy to look for them then if it is for her racist granddaughter.
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@Marilynda1225 (90379)
• United States
28 Mar
@shaggin that would make a big difference.
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@DianneN (254687)
• United States
17 Mar
I don’t mind helping people out, like having my nephew and his girlfriend stay here or picking up something for a friend or relative if asked, but going through free libraries looking for the names of books and then specifying only hardcovers, is a bit too much. And not for herself tops the cake!
Did she realize you have a baby to care for?
So, what did you do?
Beautiful peonies! I absolutely love those colors.
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@Traceyjayne (10458)
• United Kingdom
16 Mar
You are very kind to do all these things for other people……I would be careful Miss Picky Pants doesn’t take advantage too often though !
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@shaggin (74976)
• United States
19 Mar
@Traceyjayne thankfully it was only a list of two different authors. That makes it easier to look for the books. I looked on a free shelf at a library today but didn’t see any on her list.
@Ineeddentures (31061)
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17 Mar
Nobody really asks me to do anything these days since I got rid of social media.
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@shaggin (74976)
• United States
19 Mar
@Ineeddentures well that is one good thing then about not being on social media. I think I’d rather just get asked favors .
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@shaggin (74976)
• United States
20 Mar
@Ineeddentures oh boy yeah that sounds annoying how many messages you got after that
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@Ineeddentures (31061)
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20 Mar
@shaggin
Ah well
Iw don't mind doing someone a.favour
Bit when I had social media , some guy let slip I sorted his laptop and set up internet and a smart TV
After that my inbox was full of requests every day
Need some me time, so no more social media
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@snowy22315 (206931)
• United States
16 Mar
They are asking too much. If you ask for something, would they help you, or make up an excuse?
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@shaggin (74976)
• United States
17 Mar
@snowy22315 I just wouldn’t ask for things like these people have. I do think the friend would help if she could though. The other woman I barely know.
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@JESSY3236 (22003)
• United States
17 Mar
pretty flowers. I haven't be asked to do anything lately.
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@andriaperry (118793)
• Anniston, Alabama
17 Mar
Sometimes for peace of mind, say no can't today.
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@shaggin (74976)
• United States
19 Mar
@andriaperry I should have but once I said I would be in that area I felt like I was already half way into the agreement. Next time I will say I’m not sure if asked if I’ll be heading a certain direction
@LindaOHio (220203)
• United States
17 Mar
You can always say "no".
Pretty flowers.
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@shaggin (74976)
• United States
18 Mar
@LindaOhio I can but that is one thing I am not good at 
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