The Casual Use of Love You

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I know this is a strange topic, but there are people I am not close to, who continuously will say "I love you", or one person will say, "you know I love you, so..." and it is very uncomfortable. I'd like to get your take on this. Some will argue it means they feel affection towards me and I should be happy I'm loved. The thing is, these people have never been deep in my life to learn anything about me to know me enough to "love me" nor have I them. The phrase, "love you" has become so casual, it can easily be misinterpreted. Some use it as a form of saying, "take care" with no other meaning behind it. That is find, but just say, "take care." It becomes awkward for me, especially if I don't wish to return the emotion, casual or otherwise. As someone who is old school, I treat the word love as something meaningful and earned, not casual. Using it lightly, just feels inaccurate and fake. As a peacekeeper, keeping others comfortable felt safer than disappointing them, and sometimes, that meant mirroring, "love you", when I didn't feel it. One time, that ended up carrying emotional responsibilities that were never really intended and turned into a stalking nightmare. Now, I just say, "have a wonderful day!" or something close, but the disappointment on their faces, or in their next message, shows. How do you respond when someone says this? I am not talking about your close relationships. I say I love you to my kids, grandkids and close friends/family. I have to learn someone else's disappointment does not mean I've done something wrong, yet, many times I feel bad after. This photo is what I had created for me about my life in the travel trailer. I thought it fun and cool.