Have you ever needed to tell someone really bad news, and you just can't manage to get the right words out?

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That would be me, today. Well, actually, I knew this was coming but didn't want to tell my son. He really doesn't need any more bad news in his life...but here we are, and tonight's the night. The ex's parents live in Florida--they moved there from Illinois about 5 years ago, to be near 2 of their sons, one of who is my ex. Yes, they are my ex-in-laws...but they have been part of my life even longer than my parents were, they love me and my children, and I can't imagine not caring about them. Grandpa is now 95, and Grandma is 93. They both have some bad health issues that have been addressed and fixed as much as their frail health can take. Grandma is in a wheelchair full time and has a portable oxygen tank, Grandpa isn't but he should be--he has a cane and can't navigate well, and his balance is pretty much gone. They live in a safe place not far from the ex, and he is there with them daily as well as there is always a full-time caregiver, so they do not lack for care. They are both extremely frail at this point. Grandpa has been in the hospital--he had a quadruple bypass years ago, but his heart is failing. He was sent home yesterday and is at the ex's home, next week Hospice is coming to help care for them. My son cannot make the trip there, and neither can I. I haven't told him yet about the Hospice, and that his Grandpa is in very bad shape. I told my ex I would tell him by late tonight or tomorrow morning, but I am going to try to do it this evening. I haven't been able to rest hardly at all, and I need to tell him. I just know he is going to be so, so sad. His grandparents have always been a big part of his life. When Grandpa passes, it won't be long at all that Grandma follows. They have been married 75 years. They basically live for each other and no matter what, Grandma will be so lost without him. They have had a good life together, there's no question about that, had 5 sons and lost one, and have many grandchildren and great grandchildren. I am being a huge chicken about this and that's really not like me. I just hate telling my son bad news right now, he has been trying so hard for wellness and has struggled so much. But he's a grown man, I know he will be OK, it will just make him really sad. Go ahead, tell me I'm a chicken, 'cause I know I am. Ugh.