Advice please …..male friend , newly single ….58 years old

@Traceyjayne (11185)
United Kingdom
June 2, 2026 5:01pm CST
I have been talking a lot over the past couple of weeks to a friend I have had for over 40 years. He is 58 years old , been married, divorced and last week his last relationship ended after 6 years. He works away Monday to Friday, but loves going out at the weekend …. He is worried he is stuck in a rut, and too old to meet anyone, So, dear MyLotters ….any advice for him please ……
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@GardenGerty (169383)
• United States
2 Jun
He is never too old. He just needs to keep his eyes and mind open.
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@Traceyjayne (11185)
• United Kingdom
2 Jun
I do agree with you .
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@AmbiePam (120377)
• United States
3 Jun
They have dating sites here, and I assume there, solely geared towards people over 50 who are still looking to meet a life partner. So, obviously, there are plenty of people out there still available. He can ask friends if they know anyone, join a club, if he’s religious, go to church, and hey, if he’s willing, try the dating sites of people over 50. I’m 45, and I haven’t given up yet. As long as we’re breathing, we still have a chance to meet someone. Hey, my stepmom got divorced when she was 33, and dated like twice until she met my dad and married him when she was 61. She said he’s the best thing that’s ever happened to her, and was worth waiting for. So, love still happens!
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@Fleura (34926)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun
That's so sweet!
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@Traceyjayne (11185)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun
That’s a beautiful story about your step mom and dad ….. We do have dating sites online ….to be honest, a lot of the people you get on there are dodgy!
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@AmbiePam (120377)
• United States
3 Jun
@Traceyjayne Oh yes, they definitely are dodgy. My childhood best friend met her first husband online, and he was a nightmare. They lasted two years. Her second husband she also met online, and has been married to for 20 years, and they have two children. Where the first one was a turd (pardon my language), the second has been a stalwart through everything, including her bad health.
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@kaylachan (84660)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
2 Jun
He needs to make his own choiceses and remain open to relationships. Perhaps it might do him some good to be single for a while and heal from his last relationship before jumping into a new one. When you end a relationship, there can be some depressive moments and grief attached no harm in just being himself.
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@kaylachan (84660)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
3 Jun
@Traceyjayne If it's meant to be, it will be.
@Traceyjayne (11185)
• United Kingdom
2 Jun
Yes, I’ve told him not to rush into anything …..
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@Orson_Kart (8230)
• United Kingdom
2 Jun
Yeah, tell him you’re married.
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@Traceyjayne (11185)
• United Kingdom
2 Jun
He knows my situation …..lol …. As I said we are friends over 40 years …….
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@JudyEv (381503)
• Rockingham, Australia
3 Jun
Here there are organisations like Singles Without Partners who organised social outings as a group. Maybe there is something similar there.
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@JudyEv (381503)
• Rockingham, Australia
4 Jun
@Traceyjayne It's not a dating club which some really like. Over time, some do hook up but it's more meant as a social club where people can feel safe and just enjoy being with others.
@Traceyjayne (11185)
• United Kingdom
4 Jun
@JudyEv I think that’s what he needs right now ….company and to be with people but without the pressure of having to find a partner…..
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@Traceyjayne (11185)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun
I will tell him to find out …..it sounds a great idea.
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@Soobinah (402)
3 Jun
He is single since last week, please tell him to heal first from his past relationship and dont rush. if someone's meant to come, they'll come on their own. No need to rush it, he might just get hurt more that way.
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@Traceyjayne (11185)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun
Because of how the relationship was going he says he feels like he has been single the last 18 months …..
@Shavkat (141906)
• Philippines
3 Jun
In my view, age is just a number to find the right one for him. He just needs to keep on mingling and socialize with others.
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@LadyDuck (501899)
• Italy
3 Jun
He is not too old, he just need to be very careful, not to fall into a trap.
@rakski (155949)
• Philippines
3 Jun
As long as he is willing, he can meet others. Just lower the expectations and don't pressure himself to find 'the one's It is better for him to enjoy himself, love himself, enjoy life and the rest will follow
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@RasmaSandra (97824)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
3 Jun
Never too old and always good to keep an open mind he should just use the weekends for fun with someone and see how it goes,
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@Traceyjayne (11185)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun
I think thats good advice
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@Fleura (34926)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun
Take a break and don't just think about single/couple status. Do things you enjoy and you may just find someone that way.
@Fleura (34926)
• United Kingdom
4 Jun
@Traceyjayne I had a couple of passengers yesterday; the wife told me her husband was 88. He was telling me he had taken early retirement so I asked the wife whether she had retired at the same time, and she replied 'We only met 12 years ago'. I teased them about young love
@Traceyjayne (11185)
• United Kingdom
4 Jun
@Fleura he is going to a car show on Sunday on his own …. There are other friends going I believe so I think he will enjoy spending time with friends,
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@thelme55 (79317)
• Germany
3 Jun
He needs time to heal the pain that he is experiencing now. He will still find someone he likes. He is not old. Age is just a number. He should not lose hope.
@LindaOHio (222180)
• United States
3 Jun
He needs to get involved in some sort of community activity. You are never too old to meet someone. I wish I could meet someone.
@MarieCoyle (58947)
3 Jun
You're never really too old. But he does need to take some time before seeking someone else to have a relationship with. At least, that's my recommendation!
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