When someone begs you for something and won't stop, what do you do?
By Marie Coyle
@MarieCoyle (61231)
August 1, 2026 6:01pm CST
Oh, boy.
I realize that there are people out there in crazy wild physical pain. I get that, been there, I live with pain every day. Many of us do. I am not crazy about taking pain pills. Of course, there are times when a person has to or they can't function or even think--I think most of us have reached that point in our lifetime. But don't ask me to do something illegal and then use the line ''everyone does it, I will pay you whatever, I have to have pain pills!!''
First of all, if you sell or give away pain medications, you can be charged with a felony. It's also illegal to take drugs that were not prescribed to you. It's considered drug trafficking. I have no desire to do this, none.
A young woman that went to school with my two sons knows my son has been very ill. She isn't a bad person, has had a somewhat tumultuous life and a lot of husbands, but I'm not judging her on that. She has a gazillion health problems, is waiting on surgeries and has basically been sick for years now. She is dramatic, and that's an understatement.
Out of the blue, she messaged and called me and is still sending messages. She offered me $500 to give her pain pills. Um, no. A big, big no. I told her we didn't have any here (true) and we don't, other than OTC stuff. Son has injections for pain as he fights such terrible nausea at times from taking pills. I wouldn't sell medication! She could go to jail, I could go to jail..son could go to jail, too, if we had any and we sold them or gave them away. Do I think she is sick and in pain? Yes, definitely. But I cannot help her with that. She says the ER has labeled her a drug seeker and they will only give her a pill or two and send her home. How sad.
When a person reaches the point of begging pills from others, it's gone too far. Putting someone in that spot isn't kind, and it isn't legal either to do this. Then they get mad because you can't produce what they want or think they need. Maybe they do need it, I get it, pain is terrible. But putting someone in this position is just wrong.
Do I feel sorry for her? Yes. Pain can rule your life, I get that. This young woman needs big time help, I hope she gets it. But we cannot help her.
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@MarieCoyle (61231)
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2 Aug
Pain or no pain, she definitely falls into the addict description. I want no part of that at all, ever.
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@kareng (81239)
• United States
2 Aug
@MarieCoyle I think so too! She sounds too desperate to not be in that category. I don't blame you.
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@MarieCoyle (61231)
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2 Aug
@kareng
I've never done anything like what she suggested, and I never will. I think the only reason she asked me is because she knows my sons from school and she knows my son here has been ill.
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@MarieCoyle (61231)
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2 Aug
I think it seems she is on a huge downward spiral. She mentioned she couldn't go to this place or that for help. When I asked why, she said she no longer has a car. Now this girl always had a car--always a nice, very new car or SUV. She spends money like water, always has the best of everything with her clothing, home stuff, all of it...and now it appears she is losing her grip on this. She is selling Coach purses, elite brands of clothing, etc. I fear the crash is imminent. She has always been beautiful and smart. She's still pretty...but the smarts have evidently disappeared. So sad.
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@celticeagle (192169)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Aug
I would set this woman straight immediately. If she continued, I would block her. Over the years I have become very strict, and I tell it like it is. I figure life is too short to put up with types like you describe and I set them straight from the get-go. Sure, I feel badly for the woman, and I'm glad you could honestly tell her you had none there.
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@celticeagle (192169)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Aug
@MarieCoyle .......I wouldn't either. Some people you just can't help, they need to help themselves.
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@celticeagle (192169)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Aug
@MarieCoyle ........sometimes it takes a long time for these type to want help.
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@MarieCoyle (61231)
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5 Aug
@celticeagle
They are not going to accept help unless they decide they want it for themselves. If you try to convince them, you are usually wasting your breath.
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@MarieCoyle (61231)
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2 Aug
I wasn’t even tempted. She went to four different ER’s in 24 hours, or so she said.
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@LadyDuck (507017)
• Italy
2 Aug
I feel sorry for those who are so much in pain to need to ask pills to the others. They should ask a doctor and not put the others in an embarrassing situation. I know you would be in trouble giving medications and later knowing they are having a problem because of them.
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@LadyDuck (507017)
• Italy
2 Aug
@MarieCoyle - Exactly, it is illegal, people with that kind of pain must see a doctors because only a doctor can prescribe strong medications.
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@MarieCoyle (61231)
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3 Aug
@LadyDuck
I think addicts reach the point of not caring who they hurt, or how much they spend, or what lengths they have to go to--they want what they want and they want it right now, and seem to be willing to go to almost any length to get it.
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@MarieCoyle (61231)
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2 Aug
I realize she has a lot of pain. But we cannot help her. Even if we had what she wanted, we still would not sell or give medicine to her. It’s illegal anyway. But she doesn’t seem to understand that.
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@wolfgirl569 (138746)
• Marion, Ohio
2 Aug
It does sound like she might be using them to heavily and now they are not doing her any good.
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@wolfgirl569 (138746)
• Marion, Ohio
2 Aug
@MarieCoyle If she is truly addicted and, it sounds like she is, she would find the money somehow. That's just how they are
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@MarieCoyle (61231)
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3 Aug
@wolfgirl569
Oh, she kept messaging me to tell me she had the money ready to give to anyone who would supply her with pain pills. She is trying to sell stuff like crazy, because they are so broke. Yet the pills are first priority.
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@MarieCoyle (61231)
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2 Aug
It's just not smart to contact people and want to buy prescription meds from them. In one breath she was telling me how broke they are, and in another she was offering me a lot of cash if I had pills to sell to her. What a mess...and yes, it sounds as if she has taken so many that they don't work well anymore.
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@GardenGerty (170405)
• United States
2 Aug
My older sister had anxiety pills that she seldom used. Her neighbor would beg her out of them, occasionally. Neighbor's adult daughter would come into the house and steal them for herself, or say they were for Mom, give Mom maybe 2 and keep ten out of a dozen. My sister did not like to take them and did not miss them, but her neighbor was a mess.
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@MarieCoyle (61231)
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2 Aug
Oh, my. Sad to think she just came in and took the pills from your sister.
@BelleStarr (61712)
• United States
2 Aug
You did the right thing. Obviously she needs help but not from you!!
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@MarieCoyle (61231)
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2 Aug
She messaged me about an hour ago (why, I have no idea) to tell me that she went to another ER and they gave her pain meds. So she finally got someone to give them to her.
You’re spot on, she needs help!
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@RasmaSandra (99804)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
3 Aug
Sounds like she has a heavy addiction and really needs a doctor's help. Besides, no one should ever take another person's medication. Unless someone steers her to a doctor, I don't think anything will help her, I have seen my ER DVDs enought times to know that hospitals label people as adictics,
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@JESSY3236 (22543)
• United States
4 Aug
I did give Aleve to an older women who lived down from me, but I had to tell her no a few times. I don't take Aleve anymore. I wouldn't give anyone prescription pills.
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@Traceyjayne (12848)
• United Kingdom
2 Aug
I think you did exactly the right thing …..
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@MarieCoyle (61231)
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2 Aug
Thanks, I didn’t feel I had a choice. She even asked me if I knew anyone that had pain pills that I thought they would sell. Insanity
@Dreamerby (10348)
• Calcutta, India
2 Aug
Yes its true sometimes some people are beyond our help.
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