Unexpectant guests

@TerryZ (22083)
United States
January 19, 2008 8:27am CST
We all get them! If your making dinner and either a family member or friend just pops in do you invite them to dinner? My family is good at doing that. I do offer them to stay and they usually do! I always call before going over to someones house. I feel like Im intruding on their privacy. Even family. So how do treat unexpectant guests?
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
19 Jan 08
We don't get too many of them, but if they come over at dinner and we're making enough for more than 2, we'll feed them.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
19 Jan 08
As long as I have enough food I dont mind.LOL
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
19 Jan 08
I dont get many uninvited guests, i have made it a point to let people know they are to call before they come, not because i am rude or dont like company, but my hubby sleeps through the day and works all night, and my daughter takes naps at 12 noon! and i live in a small apartment, so company isn't always a good idea or even plausable!! If someone DOES stop in unexpected, sometimes i wont even answer the door, lol! If they dont wanna take the time to make a 5 second phone call to see if i'm home or not then Why should i bother to let them in! Also i'm in the basement and have no peep hole or no way of seeing who is out there at all! so sometimes its not a matter of me not wanting to open the door if the pe rson is unexpected, i just get a little worried and scared of whom it may be!! Some people you really have to prep yourself for their company dont you!? lol.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
19 Jan 08
I do agree with you on prepping yourself to see them!hahaha
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@palonghorn (5486)
• United States
19 Jan 08
That really does pose a problem for me, since they would have to drive 1600 miles to just pop in. lol The only ones that show up around here is the guys that work under my s/o, every great once in a while one of them will stop by, but normally don't stay for long, so it's not an issue. I've never minded anyone just popping in, since I keep my house clean and always have coffee on, and I was raised in the south, where friends or family popping in is just an everyday occurance.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
19 Jan 08
Well my house is always dirty!LOL Just kidding!hahaha I dont mind and I always invite them to stay but I would rather know their coming.LOL
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@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
20 Jan 08
It depends on who the unexpected guest are. Most of our friends and family are welcome at any time and in that specific case would be invited to diner. IN any case they usually call in advance unless there is something wrong and they need to talk or just be with someone who cares about them - in which case it's understandable that they don't remember to call. My self I tend to call ahead.
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
20 Jan 08
I call too. Except for my family I will just pop in them too. Hey they do it to me!LOL
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 08
Hey Twin so would you let me stay if I turned up un expected
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@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
21 Jan 08
When I was growing up I was thought to always call so I still do it, but it is not necessary for my friends or family to call when they drop in they can always come, and stay. Twin dear you can come and stay any time :):):)
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• United States
19 Jan 08
I don't have any unexpected guests. Because if I am not expecting anyone, I don't go to the door.I am usually home alone and I was taught not to go to the door unless you Know who is there. The police and the fire department are the two who I will let in, but they will tell me they are at the door. Anyone else should call first.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
19 Jan 08
Oh I could never just not answer my door!LOL
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• United States
19 Jan 08
I have been doing this since I was about 8, it is second nature by now.I am assuming you are in a safe neighborhood.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
19 Jan 08
Oh yes very safe. I wouldnt have it any other way. And I can see who is at my door.
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@carolbee (16241)
• United States
19 Jan 08
I solved that problem long ago. I quit cooking..lol Seriosuly, I haven't made a meal in probably 5 years. Just my husband and I here and he's gone so much that I don't bother to cook. I prefer to go out because he will talk when we are out together. When we did eat at home he would turn on the kitchen tv and not pay a bit of attention to me or even the dog. Yeah, when the dog is ignored I know things are bad..lol In your situation, you are really backed into a wall and almost have to offer to feed your company. I agree with you about calling before going to someone's house especially if it's around meal times.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
19 Jan 08
I dont think I will ever stop cooking because most of the time I really enjoy it. Im glad to hear you got that resolved. My hubby used to watch tv when we were eating so I just turned it off.LOL He can watch it when we are done eating.LOL
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@carolbee (16241)
• United States
19 Jan 08
I'm not so fond of cooking. Never was that great unless I made a meatloaf every night. That gets sort of old! I could turn off the tv but he would turn it right back on....lol I do enjoy my time with him alone while eating without any outside interferences. He doesn't mind going out every night and maybe because he doesn't want to eat meatloaf every night!
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
19 Jan 08
Thats so funny Im having meatloaf tonight!hahahah Come on over.
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
19 Jan 08
The unexpected guests...I remember those and yes, I used to invite them to stay for dinner or lunch depending on when they showed up.. Now we can't, we live in an enclosed community, and they are stupid, no one can get in because of paranoid people who think they are safe here. But in reality they are not, their neighbors kids break into their homes..lol
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
19 Jan 08
Right I can understand that carmelanirel.
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• United States
19 Jan 08
I don't get unexpected guests to my house. I live across the street from my mother. She is never considered a guest. my sister lives next door to my mother. She has three sons they are not guest either. These are the people who come and go in my home daily. I have a friend who is sleeping over tomorrow night. She is in Jersey and calls me daily. She is not considered a guest either. So Lucky me.. So I don't have to worry about this.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
19 Jan 08
LOl Yes lucky you.
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@alamode (3073)
• United States
19 Jan 08
We almost always have enough, but if we don't, I can whip up some 'fillers'... we love feeding people!
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
20 Jan 08
Awwww thats nice of you!
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@alamode (3073)
• United States
20 Jan 08
Its the way it was when I was growing up... my parents both believed that it was no big deal to throw another potato into the pot! Besides, when the conversation is good, we don't pay attention to the fact that sometimes the plates aren't quite full... we can all make a sandwich later!
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@OURDEW (4812)
• United States
19 Jan 08
That doesn't happen to me to often. My family and friends don't live close enough to just stop by. I don't think they want to drive all that way and find out were not home. So most of the time I know when they are coming over. It has happened a few times, then I just tell them sit down and join us and they do.:)
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
19 Jan 08
Sounds good to me!LOL
@sissy67 (225)
• United States
21 Jan 08
This happens to us alot. We always offer the invite...if they decline, then we wait to eat.
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
23 Jan 08
I never mind unexpected guests, TerryZ, and they are always welcome to share whatever fare I have. I come from a family who loves to eat(and a bunch of good cooks), so there is usually food at any given household that you happen to arrive at on any given day.
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
23 Jan 08
Sounds good thanks for sharing. Enjoy that food!!LOL
@maddysmommy (16235)
• United States
22 Jan 08
Pretty much what you do, invite them to eat if we are having dinner or to stay for coffee and sorts. I prefer that family and friends call first like we do before we go and visit someone as I think its rude to turn up unnannounced. I want the house to be tidy and in some kind of order too. My husbands friends apartment is like a drop-in center. We were visiting their place the other night (after they invited us LOL) and they had like 3-4 unexpected visitors drop by to eat, sit and talk and sorts. I felt for them because it seems like its a regular thing that happens in their household most weekends. I would get tired of people constantly dropping by unannounced.
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
23 Jan 08
Sounds good to me.LOL
• United States
21 Jan 08
I'm like you Terry,..I always call if I'm going to stop over, just in case they're not in the mood for company, ya know? Sometimes you have a bad day at work, or bills are getting you down, or you just don't feel good. I'm always as polite as can be when someone drops over, but, I do wish they would call ahead...I think that's more considerate.
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
21 Jan 08
Yea I guess they dont think like us.heheheh
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 08
Well like you I normally phone to so they know I am coming but yes I invite them to stay of course I would lol I will make them a coffee and of course they are to feel welcome So when can I expect you Sweet
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
21 Jan 08
heheheh I wish I could just jump in the car and come see you! Love you!xxx
@SViswan (12071)
• India
21 Jan 08
Though sometimes I do get irritated when someone walks in without calling (those are the days I have lots of things to do), we usually invite them to stay for a meal...some do and some don't and if it's last minute, we just order out. I do like having people over but the last one year with a baby at home, I prefer it if someone called before coming. I don't visit anyone without calling ...but my husband doesn't think twice before popping over at anyone's place and he finds it wierd to inform family when we are coming. My mother usually has salad or something light when she is alone at home and dropping in without informing emarasses her because she likes to cook for us. My husband doesn't understand that.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
21 Jan 08
I know my huibby is the same way!LOL
@polachicago (19073)
• United States
20 Jan 08
I am lucky to have friends who call first. Who would like to drive for 45 minutes to find out that I am not home? All of my friends are at least 10 miles away...
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
21 Jan 08
Yea thats how I looked at it too!LOL
@luvstochat (6914)
• United States
20 Jan 08
I don't offer for people to stay and eat with us who show up for at suppertime for one I can't afford and it for another it is rude. My husband used to have a friend who would come home with him for lunch everyday I did feed him for awhile until one day he brought his daughter with him that was the last straw I yelled I can't afford to feed everyone all the time and from then on I just let him sit there and watch us eat he has his own house he could go to.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
20 Jan 08
I can understand that luvstochat!
@peanutjar (5211)
• Canada
20 Jan 08
Hi TerryZ:) No we do not invite them for dinner because no one ever comes here or just drops in at that time and its usually people who want to know something about a machine,fixing it and my boyfriend is the knowledge base around here that knows alot about fixing machines that work in the woods like delimbers,skidders and such.He tells them whats the problem by hearing it said,they get the information and float the boat,haha!Time is money,hehe! Peanutjar:)
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
20 Jan 08
Thats right!hehehe
@williamjisir (22903)
• China
20 Jan 08
Hello dear TerryZ. You are so nice and kind to welcome and invite your unexpected guests to have dinner with you. Usually our guests would call us first before they come so that we would have enough time to make some preparations for the food to serve them.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
20 Jan 08
Hi williamjisir I would like it if they called thou!LOL
• United States
20 Jan 08
Well it definitely sounds like your in a pickle, do you be rude to the guest and tell them you cant really have people over because of whatever reason. Or you just inivite them. I personally would invite them in, even though they are totally unexpected you should still be polite, but also drop a casual hint about like Oh, if I had know you were coming over I would have set out an extra place setting. Next time you should call.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
20 Jan 08
I always invite someone if they are over and we are getting ready to eat. I cant be rude.LOL Thanks for sharing.