Male logic

Much as I respect you Nanna, and normally willingly submit to your wise counsel; I must speak up for Mr Croc. From his perspective he knows that the upstairs gets dusty and untidy. But it's only upstairs and it's down below that gets the action. Therefore, his priority is down and not up. The fact is that undried pots can be an eyesore and need urgent attention. He no doubt felt that he was assisting you in your day's prioritization. It is also a well known fact that the fairies clean upstairs so you really had no business helping them out unbidden. You may well ask why he didn't feel able to dry the pots himself. After all he was there. There are some things that we men do well. Drying up is one actually. But to do so deprives our spouses and partners of a stimulus that they have spent many years honing. Home making. It's been so since Adam and Eve. Now you are probably feeling suitably better informed and ready to let off a little steam. I suspect that I am on drying pots duty for a week now and bed making for a fortnight! Now where's that vacuum?

Please explain to him how dust mites get into your household and maybe that will help him. if not then next time you clean upstairs let him know ahead of time he will have to help you with the chores downstairs where he lives. I own my own cleaning buisness and when people let even one room go that is when everyting starts spiralling out of control. Its great to know that there are some people left that still do housework

Well you don't live upstairs as much as you live downstairs, upstairs is for sleeping and going to the toilet, but downstairs is for all kinds of things, so downstairs gets messy every day and upstairs gradually gets messy, so it looks less lived in.

He is a man. This is the explanation, there is no other. It's just what men do. They only see what is right there and obvious (although sometimes they even have trouble with that). They do not tend to have the ability to think too far out of their direct vision. It's like when I ask my other half to help tidy up, he will clear "his" area around the computer and won't help with anything else because, although much of the mess includes his clothes and things, he does not see it as his mess and does not see a reason to help clear mess that's not his. He will tell me there is nothing else to do because, I think many men do this, he has some weird ability to not see mess which he did not directly make. I think men just see the usual jobs and don't understand that other things need doing too just because they are not seen or they are things which they don't see done regularly

Its funny how the male brain works Nana!!!...maybe he thought out of sight and out of mind....im like you I like to have a good clearout now and again!!! The only thin thats puzzling me..is why didnt he take the towel and dry the pots himself!!!!!

lol oh dear my partner feels that way he thinks shutting the doors and cleaning the bathroom is good enough I tell him it is not! Id maybe also told him to dry the pots himself if it can not wait until im not busy!

Hahaha...I'm thinkin' that's just 'guy logic' at it's most normal: one of those 'don't fix it if it ain't broke' type theories. I'm with you, spring cleaning isn't just limited to the areas you CAN see, but also to those that aren't used as frequently. If anything, those unused areas probably need it more simply because those areas we live in constantly are always cleaned, dusted, and scrubbed.

Mr.Panda says things like that too, it must be a 'man' thing. If I spring clean I tend to start upstairs and leave the downstairs until later. What I don't understand is why men can't just wash the pots that are in the kitchen instead of asking us why we've not done it. I don't mind if Mr.Panda's gone to work all day, but it really annoys me when he's done nothing all day and I'm busy and he still expects me to clean the kitchen as well as doing everything else.

I will venture to say he doesn't use it or rarely uses it for more than storage...