How to make my wife happy?

@XoyyoX (1055)
China
July 5, 2008 10:08am CST
i ask this question coz my wife is in bad mood now, u know, we have two computers in our home, one is a desktop, the other is a laptop, but the desktop ceased to work due to the virus attack, i use the laptop to work at home, but my wife wants that laptop to watch some online video to learn how to dance Cha Cha, and i didn't let her use it...the quarrel began, now she is lying on the crouch and having a sad facial expression, but i do have to work now to finish some urgent work before tomorrow.
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16 responses
• United States
5 Jul 08
well first off you guys are going to have to come up with a compromise s that both of you will be able to use the computer since the other one is down. but at the same time i think you completing your work is alot more important than her learning a dance. but what you cando is just let her know that you will try and finish your work sooner so that she will have an opportunity to use the computer.honestly i dont even think she should even be mad or sad she should automatically know that your work is more important.good luck.
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@XoyyoX (1055)
• China
5 Jul 08
thank you all for your advice and your concern, i've fixed the desktop with the help of the latop by which i found online why the desktop stopped working, now both of the two computer are back to be normal and can work now. lol
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@trickiwoo (2702)
• United States
5 Jul 08
Maybe you could get your work done now, but then surprise her later by getting the other computer fixed or by buying her a new computer? I'm sure that would really cheer her up! Because as long as you guys only have one computer working, these fights over who gets to use it will be more and more frequent!
@Giacomand (104)
5 Jul 08
You could bye her something special, and let her go on the laptop while you're somewhere else.
@wendyloo (184)
• France
5 Jul 08
Maybe she could go to classes. Perhaps u could explain that work is pretty important,you know, need to live and eat and pay bills. Liesure is very important too but you get that after work..Hope you can get the other computor repaired real soon lol
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5 Jul 08
now this is tough...hhmm...just watch some videos and try learn some steps..while u do ur work..and then dance or try to dance with ur wife...i hope she feels nice dancing with u...
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@Wizzywig (7859)
5 Jul 08
Hmm! let's see - which is more important? you working to put food on the table or your wife learning to cha cha? I can't believe your wife cant see that! She has to just wait till the works done - she can cha cha all day tomorrow. Maybe i'm insensitive but, if my husband got grumpy 'cos he had to wait for me to finish working to watch his video, he'd have to just stay grumpy. (just my opinion)
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@successlog (3172)
• China
5 Jul 08
hi friend I think you should fix your desktop computer when you have time.I think it is the best way to resolve the small problem between you. and at this time,when your wife feel depressed.you should comfort her a lot with your gentle smile.Maybe when you do this,she will forgive you at once.Take it easy!! I hope it is helpful to you. good luck
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@spalladino (17924)
• United States
5 Jul 08
Wow, did you get yourself into trouble! Tell your wife that you'll do something special with her today to make it up to her...then do it! And hurry up and get your work done so she can learn how to dance the Cha Cha.
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@bbsr13 (4198)
• India
5 Jul 08
Hello,XoyyoX! If for petty reason you both quarrel how would manage a married life?it is your primery duty to satisfy your wife,else this type of querrel will continue to increase and ultimately marriage life would be disturbed.so,it is my advice to you that you spare your laptop for a while,while you do your other works.and in the meantime you called for a software engineer to make the desktop ready for use by either of you.thanx.
@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
5 Jul 08
Explain to her that you are only doing it because you both need the money and that you will give her the laptop as soon as you are done with it. I am sure that if you explain that to her and that you are not trying to be mean that she will understand.
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@qhwater (393)
• China
6 Jul 08
trust you will be a great husband after you receive many replies to this question. as a wife, i do hope my hb could help me, understand me, consol me, and enourage me. for example, accepting all my shortcomings and praise all my goodnesses. and do as more housework as he can, and make much much money... haha, is it too hard to be a good husband? hope you have a happy family life!
@XoyyoX (1055)
• China
6 Jul 08
Thank you for your good wishes, and thank all of mylotters' help and helpful advice and suggestion. the desktop has been repaired acturally just some fan dust cleaning work, it's back to work well now. and my wife is a understanding wife, she kept being upset only for 1 hour, after waking up the next day, she had forgotten all about it. the life returned to be a good and harmonious one for us. lol
@sid556 (31002)
• United States
6 Jul 08
If it is work you are doing then I think your wife should be more understanding. You should tell her that she can have it when you are done with your work. Your work is more important than her dancing.
• United States
6 Jul 08
Oh wow,viruses suck. im sorry to hear about your other computer...mabey one way to make her happy is.. while you are out in town tomarrow you can go to the video store and see if they have tapes teaching how to do the chahca... that way you can work on the computer and she can be in the loving roo learning to do that chacha... everyone is happy:)..
@cdeanda2 (84)
• United States
6 Jul 08
Hm I'm assuming in order for to put those CHA CHA moves to use you need to bring in the bacon. She should be a little more understanding BUT guess what? Us ladies do not respond well to no and on top of that we are sickly sensitive and emotional. Why dont you get online and look for a local area that gives those classes and set up an appointment and suprise her with it. I'm sure she will love it and it will make her happy. If you cant do that. Give her a hug and kiss and say I'm sorry I understand you want to do this but I need to get my work done honey. :) goodluck
@jakesun (100)
• China
6 Jul 08
i advise you to continue your work.as the time you do your work ,your wife will do homework or read books too.after working, you should do something that makes her cheer up.work and dancing ,which is more important?your wife knows.
@Hatley (164389)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Jul 08
you need to repair her computer so she has her own computer again or else buy her a new one if it cannot be repaired.You have your work to do on the lap tap so she needs her own outlet to do what she wants to do.if she wants to watch a video to learn how to cha cha fine, none of your never mind, as long as she has her own computer. do not put her down for what she wants to do on the computer, if she has one of her own its none of your darned business. lol lol lol.