A DNA test?

Hi Dear i think the is best to know about the father of kids as if she was with 2 guys only So no need to DNA test and trust the lady. And why to hide from hubby as they go out with his knowledge and he knows they are more than friends Not a good situation Take care

The situation is really stupid. From the beginning, there indeed is something wrong with the picture. How could the husband allow his wife to do that? Unless he is gay and doesn't really love the woman and married her just to keep his gay life. Anyways, about the question. The little girl deserves to know who her father truly is. Then a DNA Test is the best way to find out. Anyhow, if the woman doesn't agree with it, your friend should ask her why? Because anyone who's been sleeping around with more than 1 man (in this case maybe more than 2) would be afraid to know the truth. It's not a matter of who's agreeing or not. As long as the truth will come out. How bout other details like the kid's blood type?

Yes. My daughter looks exactly like her dad and she acts like him too even though he has nothing to do with her in her life. We had a DNA test done to prove it to him also because he kept denying her. I think all children need to know who their real parents are no matter what, even though the child may not ever be around them.

Hi checapricorn! Although looks and attitude could be factors,in this situation it may not be enough. If there's a possibility that the husband could be the father, then a DNA test should be done to make sure who the father is. But in this case both parties seem to be comfortable with the situation, my only concern would be for the child, who has a right to know who his/her father is.

for me let us just leave it that way for the moment...the child is happy and no one is asking her who her real father is anyway..let us leave it that way. it could be better for the truth to be in silent...he could break a marriage with what he wants...why did the relationship with the mother happened when she has a husband anyway??? your friend took that risk, it is possible that for the sake of the family and humiliation the husband will just ignore what happened and took the child in his care and be one of the family, so i suggest, let it be as long as the father the child knows will take good care of her then it there will be no problem. apparently that is just my opinion, so that only one will suffer than many, which is the child, the mother, the husband, the children against just one soul. i know it is kinda bias but for the sake of everyone, one should sacrifice. anyway when he knows that it is his child then what???does he think he can get the child???the answer is still no...the child is still in the custody of the mother till she can decide for herself...lots of things to consider..if ever the court agree to give him the child, can he take care of the child???would the child be happy when what she knew is that her father is the other guy, then this other came saying he is her real father?it would just rise confusion with the child. hope my opinion is looked at and be considered by your friend.

Well, what about the husband..? his friend is cheating, his wife is having relations with that guy.. Husband is not bothered about it?

I think the guy needs to back off and leave this family alone. What right does he have to disrupt this little girls life. This would be a terrible blow for the little girl let alone the father. Does he intend to pay all the child support that he hasn't for the last 5 years? Some time we just have to suck up our stupidity and let other lives alone. Tell the guy to get on with his life and leave the little girl alone. If he doesn't he is a real jerk as far as I'm concerned.

I think the likely hood of him being the father is very possible..They were sexually active,she got pregnant,and the child looks and acts like him?...I think its very possible that he could be the father..You really do not need a valid reason for a DNA test,all you need is a doubt..now if the mother is married and she refuses a DNA test ,then he cannot do anything...The mother and father,the married ones has all the rights when it comes to this..

To my mind, let the things rest as it is. A family's life is going on smoothly and they are not sure about the real facts, due to one reason or another. I think, if DNA test or something like that is done to confirm the identity of the real father and it turns out to be that guy, I think, the husband would feel shattered and cheated. Till now, now one is sure who is the real father of the child, this way all are happy, so I feel they should not go for the test. It is strictly my personal opinion, I do not know whether you would like it or not.

That may not be true. Even kids of the same couple differs from each other but there are some traits maybe same though. I even had a daughter out of marriage, long before I met my present wife and I can't say totally that she is really my daughter. It's really the best solution to know the truth, have them undergo DNA testing. KEEP SMILING = NEIL

I grew up without my biological father, and i have no hard feelings toward anyone for it. I dotn even know who he is, i just know that the man which happened to be my uncle that raised me, was my father..a father or mother isnt the one that shares your bloodline, its the one that raises you, feeds you, clothes you, sits with you when you are sick or sad, makes you laugh and smile..so although the child has the right to know, let it be when they are ready, if the guys involved dotn want to find out dont do it just for the kids sake..it may not end up making a diff to the kid. But if the men want to know, then yes do the test. As for the resemblances, that can help give an idea but DNA is the only way to know for sure the bloodline, so if it must be known DNA is it.

This is very unfair for the husband.His own friend betrayed him.This is very painful for him if he knows.The truth always prevail no matter how we hide things.I think a DNA test is the only way to prove everything but i am sure if the husband knows about their affair a marriage might be broken or someone gets hurt.

Maybe. I think DNA test is the best answer to his problems. And why did he was involved with a married woman in the first place. He only make matter worst.

It doesn't even matter if she looks like him or not - if the guy was sleeping with the married woman at the time that she conceived, then he should get a DNA test. That little girl deserves to know where she comes from.

Well DNA is the best option for that to know if it is really his daughter. But the looks or physical appearance might also be a sign that it was indeed his. What are his plans if that is the case. Does the husband know about this. This will just mean trouble in the marriage.

It doesn't matter if the kid looks like him or has the same mannerism or attitude... the important thing is to be 100% sure that they are indeed flesh and blood... so if he doesn't have the money right now for a DNA test... then the moment that he does have it... i suggest he prioritize it over other things in his life...

If the child looks so much like him, how can you doubt that it is his child. Also with the simularities of attitudes. I wouldn't question it if he is so sure, let him think it because he probably is the father. I think men know these things, like a sixth sense. I wouldn't want him or the child to have to have a DNA test to prove it because that then tells me he has doubts and since he doesn't, why bother with the tests. Also if the husband finds out, and chances are greater he would find out from the child, then it may destroy a family life for the child since some men wouldn't be able to deal with it and the child is the one then to suffer. So in my opinion, I think you need to stay out of it and let the man do what he thinks is the right thing to do.

hi checapricorn He really should gather up funds and have a DNA test done so he know whether or not the kid looks like him.Resemblences and attitudes can be misleading but DNA will tell the whole truth. It usually does not take long to get the results then he will know for sure.This should also be done as the child has the right to know who his birth father is .

I think that the right thing to do is to get a dna test. That way there are no questions and everyone knows the truth. I do not think that looks and attitude are enough to say that the child is his or not.

A man should always get a DNA test in my opinion alot of women lie to keep the man around and get money off of him.