Does it bother you if your spouse falls asleep on you...

How long have you been married or together? I still maintain that people do have their different limits, regardless of years of marriage or age. I have also found out that many couples don't actually go to bed at the same time, and some don't even spend the majority of time home together in the same part of the house. I prefer to be at least near my husband, even if we aren't talking a lot. I usually feel the same about my daughter unless she's been crawling up my leg for an hour lol.

I have figured that different people have their different limits. Some couples don't seem to need a lot of time together, it's enough to just be in the same house or the same room. I'm not like that and I never have been, I want some undivided attention which usually means we choose something we both want to watch together or if the squirt is sleeping we can forget about the tv and entertain ourselves lol.

I suppose it becomes different as you grow older. We've been married a long time and things just don't bother us like it used to when we were younger. We are still up together tonight watching Phelps about to complete his swimming in the Olympics. We are both up to cheer him on. And, we've both been to sleep together here in the Den.

I hear ya boo. And thanks for the info about sleeping in a chair. I think I'll get the hubs a recliner, a pillow and a blue blankie and he can spend all his nights in the chair and I can finally get a straight through the night sleep! LOL

The snoring gets annoying. Apparently I snored when I was a kid, my dad and sister used one of those stupid little portable recorders to RECORD me and then they mercilessly teased me about it for weeks. Thing is though, dad snores much louder than I did. I don't snore any more unless I'm sick, according to hubby. Since our daughter still crawls in bed with us, I end up in the middle between two snorers sometimes. She's a very quiet snorer but nonetheless she makes noise, and if I'm really tired and loopy, it's so funny that I shake the bed from laughing and I have come dangerously close to waking her up!

I end up having insomnia much more often than I just fall asleep. I also would prefer to spend a few hours that I'm awake, even if I'm really tired - with my husband than doing something ELSE if I hadn't seen him all day. Oh, I'll explain the snoring thing. In the chair they are propped up ever so slightly more than in bed, even while reclined. This is why they don't snore. My hubby is snoring a little now, not much but I can hear it. I'm keeping an eye on the Olympics as I'm typing.

We all see things from different perspectives and the same things affect different people.. well differently LOL We have gone trough him working night shift and I didn't enjoy it either, but hey, we had to deal with it. Although if given a choice that kind of situation would be a no-no. But in the case of him - or myself - falling asleep, for me it will not bother me. It might if it happened all the time, but occasionally it doesn't. Most times we do spend time together before going to bed, either watching some favorite shows or just talking. SO when it happens we understand that the other one is really tired. There will be other time, many other times:) I was thinking if I remember it bothering me in the beginning of our marriage, but as far as I remember it didn't either - ok so both of us has much more energy at that time, I don't even remember if we feel asleep like that LOL but just the idea doesn't bring any special incidents. Now, many years after, it still doesn't bother us. Actually we are even more in tune now, I guess, and we can see when the other is tired or needs rest even when it's not showing:)

I have a hard time if I've spent all day away from him (on normal days he's gone 11 hours anyway including commute) and don't get to spend any physical time with him before he falls asleep. I don't ask for much, even 20 minutes would have been sufficient. I have never been the type of person who can be married yet alone, I couldn't deal with deployments, a night shift (where I would never see him), lots of traveling like for business or trucking, etc. I know some people function quite well with a scenario like this, but I don't, and I never have, and just the thought of it gives me the shakes lol. I'm fine if I know in advance he's working late or working the weekend, because then I can make plans so I have something to do while he's gone. It's the exception rather than the rule though, which makes it something I can deal with.

That's cool mommyboo! ENjoy!

I suppose I was extra disappointed yesterday because I knew he'd be working late but I didn't realize it would be THAT late, and I had been looking forward to spending a little time with him. I'm fine today, he didn't have to work lol.

It's disappointing to spend all day away from them, then rather than spend time with you, they watch something while you do something else, then fall asleep. It wouldn't have been a big deal if he had gotten home at his normal time, but he spent the 2 hours he was home and awake not with me.

When I want to spend time with him, I do. And as I see it in your discussion, you could have chosen to spend time with him. Did it really matter what he was watching, and whether or not it was something you were interested in? I have watched things he was watching, that I really didn't care for, but I was there with him, cuddled up next to him with his arm around me. So, did it really matter what was on tv, not really, what mattered is, we were together.

LOL! We have kind of worked out a system - if I'm watching something he's REALLY not interested in, he usually goes and browses on the computer. The same for me. I suppose I could use the laptop and sit on the bed, I didn't think about that. That's actually what I was doing, giving him his 'alone downtime' but it didn't end up being a trade that night.

Apparently I am a bit out of sorts after uh... 14 or 16 hours away from my husband lol. I should know better than to post a gripe when that has been the case. I have found out that I'm not the only one to ever land in this boat though, which is good.

Well, I guess everything will be okay between the two of you. It just a matter of talking sometimes. Understanding each other is very important in a relationship. If adjustment is needed to be done, maybe give it a try.

Now and then I have insomnia and it is BAD, I'm up half the night or longer. It's nice to have something to do when that strikes instead of just lying there tossing and turning.

I'm actually guilty of this - but in general I will warn him, and if not we HAVE spent at least a little time together before I zonk out lol. I was mostly disappointed because I felt like I hadn't seen him the entire day, and then he preferred to watch a show and then fall asleep instead of hang out with me. I'm not the type of person who can be married but live mostly alone. I know some couples live like that but that isn't acceptable to me.

Just happens every now and then. I was irked at the time and was looking for some company lol.

LOL! My hubby was just tired out. I was just disappointed because I was just being nice and letting him watch what he wanted while I was hanging out here. I didn't realize my tradeoff would be him falling asleep right after.

He's making up for it today

Awww! What a nice thing for a husband to say. Nice to see you, I had seen you in the thread about the gymnasts earlier.

Ordinarily I don't mind, but he was gone all day from like 4:30 AM till after 8 PM, and he fell asleep around 10. We had dinner right after he got home and he shut off his recorded show right before 10. We did chat some but I was leaving him alone to watch his show while I was browsing. I figured I'd go join him after but since he fell asleep on me, I stayed up till 4:30 am browsing and watching olympic recaps. I wasn't tired lol.

Oh man, the newborn baby blues. I nursed my daughter when she was a newborn, so it's not like my hubby could help. He was fond of saying he didn't have the correct plumbing, which is true. I think she tried attaching herself to him once and he was quick to tell her that daddies don't make milk lmao! After having some sleepless nights because she hated the bassinette, I started cosleeping and then it was easy, if she woke up, it was easy to get her attached and go back to sleep.

Well there ya go, that's the thing. If he's watching something i don't care for, or sometimes care for but am not in the mood for presently, I will sit at the desk and browse on my computer. The understanding though is that eventually when the show is over, then I'll get up and go rejoin him. I find something to do that I enjoy while he's doing something he enjoys. It just irks me if I've left him to his own devices and then he doesn't spend time with me AFTER. LOL!