It is that bad, we are sleeping in seperate beds......

thankfully.. mal doesnt snore.. or dr00l like my ex did (nassssTy!!) but he does have a tendency to get very violent in his sleep from time to time. not the usual shove.. push, steal the covers.. maybe flail a bit. he will act out his nightmares as if i was the enemy. ive woke up quite a few times with him over me.. sometimes even fully pinningme down with his knees across my chest.. eyes open, appearing fully awake.. fingers wrapped around my throat choking me.. or punching me square in the face. i can usually manage to tell hes actually sleeping by the vacant darkened look in his eyes.. and can manage to wake him up without pummeling him too too much to get him off me. then his eyes change, like a light has come on, and he has no memory whatsoever of the dream or of anything hes done. normally occuring when hes intensely stressed.. and doesnt wanna trouble me with it so he keeps whatever it is to himself. now he talks to me more.. vents things, and it doesnt happen so often.

Hi Gemini, I haven't a partner so don't have this problem but when I did have yes it was a pain and quite often I would get up in the night and go and sleep in the spare room to get some sleep and if he had been drinking I think the whole neighbourhood used to get woken with his snoring. Hope you enjoyed your nights sleep. Also yesterday when you posted a discussion about viruses being stopped and you were only on myLot at the time, I couldn't respond so had to go into your home page to be able to instead but my computer completely froze and I had to shut down and restart afterwards. I can't send PMs as I was going to send to let you know but there do seem to be a few blips at the moment and then there was also the warning we had about hackers and how they were using friends list to attempt to get into peoples account so just be aware. Huggles. Ellie :D

That is an interesting one! I thought it had to do with some "incompatibilities" or issues of infidelity. With those reasons, I must think you are not taking it lightly! lol Perhaps you could just nudge him when he gets into that never-ending snore than abandon him!

If and when I ever get married, I've always joked that we will have a huge master bedroom with separate full sized beds! I hate sleeping with other people. I have sleep apnea, and anytime my son gets in my bed, he's always getting caught on my hose. I also do not like to share blankets, so I always have to have my own. I would buy your husband a nice little air mattress so you can get some rest!

That is just so not good! :¬( You are so lucky that he will go and sleep in a different room. I remember a time when my hubby was snoring a lot and I asked him if he would go and sleep in the spare room cause he kept waking me - no chance! If I wanted him to go that badly, I could go! In the end I went shopping and got all sorts of snore remedies to try to sort him out. In the end we found some herbal oil that let off heaven only knows what into the air and that seemed to help - strangely! Then he stopped smoking and pretty much stopped snoring altogether. Now he smokes again, but only snores when sleeping with his arm over his head. Go figure! Luckily he doesn't sleepwalk - that would be fun :¬) Goodluck with your man and hope you get more sleep tonight. Violetdreams

My wife is a cover theif, a night puncher and kicker, and every single time she wakes up in the middle of the night - when she comes back to bed I get body slammed. Seriously. But it's been six years, so I'm pretty much used to it. Plus for us, since I'm the man and she's the woman and I'm the one getting beat up, it always makes for something to laugh about the next day. But I am sorry to hear about your situation. I hope you get some more sleep!

Yes. My husband snores very loud sometimes and it keeps me awake. I have to get up and go to the couch sometimes because of it. I need to be the one to fall asleep first but that hardly ever happens.

I used to be a really bad kicker when I was young, in fact when my Mom was pregnant with my youngest brother we shared a room and I'd kick her so much that she finally had to make me sleep on the couch b/c she was worried I'd hurt her with my kicking. I also used to sleepwalk some when I was a kid...once in a great while. These days it's usually talking in my sleep...I talk so much sometimes that I wake myself up. [b]~~IN SEARCH OF PEACE WITHIN~~ **AGAINST THE STORMS, I WILL STAND STRONG** [/b]

It sounds just awful to not get sleep because of your husband. I don't blame you for wanting to sleep in another bed. I am the one that does the tossing and turning all night long, so a lot of the time I would wake up and my husband was sleeping on the couch. Poor man. I didn't mind most of the time, but some mornings on the weekend, I would have loved to wake with him beside me in bed. Oh well, at least he went to bed with me and slept half the night with me. My daughter has been seeing this guy for a few months now and just the other day they spent the night together for the first time. Well, it turns out he is a snorer and real loud. She had to go sleep on the couch because he kept her up half the night and she knew it was the only way she would get any sleep. Awww. I felt sorry for her since she really likes this guy a lot and will have to either get used to it, or not spend the night together, or spend a lot of those nights on the couch.

Hello,Gemini! We have been sleeping in separate beds perhaps for the last twenty years baring some intimate times in the night when we sleep together and soon after the work I go to my bed for a good night sleep leaving her to sleep alone comfortably.We are comfortable in our beds.thanx.

hi gemini rose My husband tossed and turned and took all the covers night after night so we got twin beds and we both' slept like logs. I never walkedin my sleep but I know that I snored like crazy all the time. We were still happily romantic and still got our eight hours of sleep too.

There have been nights my husband will sleep on the sofa in order to give me a good nights sleep. It's not normally a problem, but occasionally he will toss and turn and hit me in his sleep as well. It hasn't happened in quite awhile, but the last time it did happen I was coming down with a cold and really needed the sleep. So he slept on the sofa so I could get a good night's sleep.

I wished I had a spare room to go to. I am not the best sleeper, but when my husband gets into bed, that's it for me. We only have a full size bed, so it is not very big. Instead of him staying on his side, he continuously rolls on my side, I have to yank his head off of my pillow, he tries to sleep corner to corner, so that his feet are always on my end. I spend most of the night, pulling my pillow from under his head, pushing his body over to his side, trying to remove his feet from my end. I usually try to go to bed before him, so at least I can get a few minutes of undisturbed sleep.

I think that at some point in time most couples have some sort of trouble sleeping together. That is why I always like the I love lucy show. They slept in seprate beds but, in the same room. So, the love was there but, not killing their good night sleep. Also, head phones with your favorite music helps with the snoring. And, as for the sleep walking my niece use to do that and one lady told me it is usually a person who feels like they have not finished something. Try tucking the blankets in on the sides of the bed under the top mattress. This way the sleep walker will have to fight the covers to get untucked to get up. This could make them wake-up. Or, put a lock on the door for some reason sleep walkers have trouble with the locks on doors if they are at the top of the door the little bolt kind. good luck sleepless rose.

I'm glad you mentioned this as it happened to me with my last partner. We ended up never sleeping together again...lol. He would come to bed later and later, disturbing my sleep then fall into a deep (drunken) sleep and kick and push me till I was right on the edge of the bed. He would be sprawled diagonally right across the bed leaving no room for me. I ended up sleeping on the mattress on the floor in the spare room for months. Eventually he moved into the other spare room saying it wasn't right that I sleep on the floor while he slept in MYbed. I don't know anyone who sleep walks but my first husband would talk in his sleep. That was an eye opener.

I often have to sleep in another bed. The snoring along with the Tv on - I just can't sleep. Got to get a good nigts sleep if you get up early.

When two people love one another, it doesn't take a bed to stop that. Besides, when we're asleep, neither one of you know the other is there or not. lol Hubby and I sleep separately most times because I can't stand our mattress. It's too darn soft and hurts my back. It doesn't bother hubby and we can't afford a new one so I sleep on either the love seat, which is very comfortable or our old mattress which is in the spare bedroom now. It doesn't bother either one of us. Now before my husband got his sleep apnea machine, he snored unmercifully and kept me awake so I made him turn on his side facing away from me which helped a great deal... that is, till he turned back over which would wake me back up again. Now I'm so far deaf because of it getting worse, I bet I couldn't hear him anymore. LOL But my luck would be, if he didn't have his machine, he'd shake the whole room and awaken me that way!! LMBO!!

Ive never had this problem. I dont think I would be able to sleep knowing that one of us is on the sofa and the other in bed. i like the idea that I can roll over and have my BF next to me to cuddle. Apparently I sleep talk though...who knows what say!!!

I too snore while sleep. But my wife says without hearing my snoring, sleep will not come to her eys. What to do? The fact is that I fully unaware that I snor while sleep.

Hehehe... I've been in that position. My husband sometimes snores and since we just moved to a single bed after a queen sized one, he's always hogging the bed that I feel either suffocated (he's already on top of me) or else I'm hanging by the edge. What I do is nudge my husband awake and complain... heheh... My husband is such a sweetheart, he doesn't get mad at me. So then after that, he let's me sleep first, and when I sleep, I'm out!