Having the last word!

@jillhill (37383)
United States
January 25, 2009 8:41am CST
Do you know those people who just always have to have the last word in a conversation or argument? My DIL always has to have the last word....yesterday it was almost an embarassment as she kept on and on. I finally raised my hand as a gesture for her to quit as we were out in public and she kept on and on about something that should have been dropped! Everyone around us was staring and getting very tired of her ranting on and on! Do you know someone who always has to have the last word in a conversation or argument? Do you try to stop them or just let them rant on and on?
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@carolbee (16241)
• United States
25 Jan 09
Can you explain to your daughter-in-law when she's not angry or out of sorts why it bothers you and if she has a gripe to bring it to a quiet place such as home? Maybe, just maybe, she will see it your way and stop it when you are out together in public or explain to her that you have no interest in going places with her if all she's going to do is argue. I had, keyword here is had, a friend who did this all the time. At first I argued with her and attempted to get her attention by getting the last word in. After a period of time I could see I was getting no where. Changed my behavior by letting her rant and rave and make a total fool of herself. And you know something, it worked. If we were in public and she disagreed with something I said, it was best to let her go and ignore her. People would look at me and roll their eyes knowing she was making a scene. We no longer go places together. I don't want to take her calls either so once in awhile we email each other.
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
26 Jan 09
It gets very annoying....very!
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@carolbee (16241)
• United States
26 Jan 09
I totally agree with you. It grates on the last nerve.
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@carolbee (16241)
• United States
14 Feb 09
Thanks for giving me the best response.
@kezabelle (2985)
25 Jan 09
I like to sometimes! Not in public though and il drop the matter if its just getting silly or i feel ive made my point, my partner though he will say the silliest things just to get the last word usually ends up in us laughing and forgetting what we were even arguing about so then its not usually so bad.
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
26 Jan 09
That's a good way to handle it!
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
25 Jan 09
Hi Jill, I just figured out what DIL means. These little shortcuts are brain teasers for me. Is there a book for them? Anyway, doesn't everyone know someone like that? My TS(see if you can fugure it out) anyway she and her husband are always arguing because she thinks her memory is better than his. Of course she thinks her memory is better than everyones. And she's got the loud mouth to prove it. Even when we prove her wrong she still can't believe it. Where do these people come from?xoxoxo leenie
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
26 Jan 09
Beats me.....I just want to say....give it up!!!! Oh and it took me a while to figure out what s/o was in a discussion! LOL
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
26 Jan 09
By the way, TS is Twin Sister.
• United States
26 Jan 09
No, I don't but knowing me, I would just walk away and let them rant and rave.Or if I can't leave for some reason, I would just stop listening.They can have the final word but it won't change my view.
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
26 Jan 09
We all heard her the first time! LOL...She doesn't get it!
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• United States
26 Jan 09
Sadly she never will.To change you have to want to change.
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• United States
25 Jan 09
Was it just you and her? If there were more people I just would have started another conversation and completely ignored her rudeness. If it was just the two of you, I probably would have told her to chill out already and drop it, or just walked away from her and looked at something else. Can't stand people like that.
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
26 Jan 09
It was at a hockey game with a whole bunch of people around....it was an embarassment.
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• United States
26 Jan 09
Ohhhh, I thought you were shopping or something. So you were with other people that you knew? Then I would have started up some other conversation with someone else. I bet one of these days you're going to let her have it because you have mentioned her before, you just watch. I can tell she's really getting on your nerves.
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@onlydia (2808)
• United States
28 Jan 09
My sister is one of those and I just let her rant if not to embarassing other wise I walk out of the store to the car. I leave her there and wait until she gets to the car and I tell her listen nobody wants to hear your mouth and all that is coming out of it. But if she is not cussing or yelling then I just keep walking. Your friend onlydia
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
28 Jan 09
It's so irritating!
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• United States
27 Jan 09
Whenever I am in a situation where the person in the group or I am with tries to out talk everyone else, I simply shake my head and walk away. That usually gets the point across that I have heard enough and they have gone too far. Even if they continue I am happier and more relaxed in knowing that I don't have to listen to it.
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
27 Jan 09
That's why I raised my hand.....but you know what? She continued anyway....we heard her the first and second time.....and she just kept on!
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@makingpots (11922)
• United States
27 Jan 09
Uuuugggghhh!! Yes, my sister. I have to leave her presense when she gets like that. It is the only way I can deal with her at those times. She gets annoyed at me and complains that I 'walk away' when things get tough. Thank goodness we live 1600 miles apart.
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
27 Jan 09
Yes! That is a good thing! LOL
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• Canada
26 Jan 09
i have to admit that i'm often to blame for this. but in the last few years i've learned to stop this attitude. it's just not worth it. anyway when i was younger my step dad was and still is one of these peple and when we argues he'd say to me you always have to have the last word. and i'd say no you saying that means you had the last word and he'd say see. so it was just rediculous. it never ended cause he'd say see and i'd say see you just had the last one again. so childish
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
26 Jan 09
What a competition! LOL
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
26 Jan 09
Hey jill! I did know someone like that, and I am no longer friends with her! She was my best friend for 45 years! We knew each other from the time that we were 10! I had put up with her nasty mouth for long enough and finally had it with her and cut her out of my life totally about a year or so ago. That was only one of her really bad traits! She was very embarrassing because she was very nasty all the time! She also believed she knew it all and was always right! Not! So besides always wanting to have the last word, she was rude and talked down to people and she knew me better than to do that to me and I am happy to say that I no longer even speak to her anymore!
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
26 Jan 09
It can really get on your last nerve can't it! LOL
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@my2boys (821)
• United States
26 Jan 09
I dont think that I do know anyone like that. Not anyone that comes to mind anyway.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
26 Jan 09
You are so lucky!
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@AmbiePam (49877)
• United States
25 Jan 09
My mom says I always have to have the last word. We rarely argue, but when we do, I admit I always try to have the last word. It's a nasy habit I should get rid of.
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
26 Jan 09
It's a new year Amber! LOL
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@ellie333 (21029)
25 Jan 09
Hi Jill, I get really annoyed with people like this and I just get to the stage where I say look lets just agree to disagree as this is getting us no where, in fact since my son has started school he has this thing about having to be right all the time and I am beginning to find it wearing but as a mum I try to explain it in a different way but yesterday I lost patience and told him to ask his teached instead then if he didn't want to believe me grrrr. Huggles. Ellie :D
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
26 Jan 09
From a mouth of a babe!
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@anneshirley (1517)
• Philippines
25 Jan 09
I know lots of people like that and yes, they are really very irritating. It is wise not to start an argument with those people but if it happened that they start bickering on me, I just let them rant on and on till they get tired of talking but they are sometimes too insensitive to notice that I am not interested in arguing with me so I will just make an excuse to go out. I believe those people who have this ind of attitude is somebody whose not confident with themselves and they need other people to boost their ego. I am not a nice talker, I will always say what I want and direct to the point. If someone argue with me, I will just make my point clear and will never argue because it will just lead me to nowhere and it's a waste of time for me arguing with people who doesn't know how to listen.
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
26 Jan 09
That's for sure!
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• United States
25 Jan 09
My lovely daughter always has to have the last word. Anymore, I just let her go on, because she is going to anyway. Public appearance though is very important to her, so she doesn't create a scene in public. She will wait until she is in the car or at home, then it starts all over again. She is getting better now that she is getting older, but when she was in her teens it was impossible to deal with. I would explain to your dil that it was embarrassing for her to go on like that in public and that next time you are just going to walk away from her.
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
26 Jan 09
That is very good advice!
• Philippines
25 Jan 09
hi Jillhill.. I think the best way to make someone stop ranting is to make that person realize that he or she has no audience..
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
26 Jan 09
VEry good advice! I think I will use that one!
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@PearlGrace (3172)
• United States
1 Feb 09
Hmm, I can't think of anyone right now who meets this criteria but I have seen people who were quite vocal and insistent about getting their own way. I probably wouldn't directly try to stop a person from saying what they want. But I might try to offer my opinion that would contrast with their own opinions to see if that would get them to re-think their ideas. Good luck.
@messageme (2821)
• United States
27 Jan 09
I don't rant on and on but I do think most the times I seem to have to have the last word. So as long as you don't say something after me the arguement will be done.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
27 Jan 09
Am I supposed to respond? LOL
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
28 Jan 09
LOL see there I go again!
@forslahiri (1042)
• India
26 Jan 09
Hi, Why? "I" always have the Last Word. I 'repeat' what my Wife said. =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
26 Jan 09
Smart wife! LOL
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@sacmom (14315)
• United States
26 Jan 09
I'm guilty of doing this, especially when I feel strongly about something. Though one time I got slapped because of it, by my mom. I must have been maybe 9 years old. My sister and I were arguing about something and I just knew I was right. But our mom didn't want to hear anymore. She warned me more than once to stop or she was going to slap me. Well, as my sister would always get away with doing the very same thing without so much as even a warning, I continued to argue. Sure enough I got slapped. Now I know better than to do this around certain people, like my mother. I don't like to argue, but if someone is ranting on and on I'd probably just roll my eyes and walk away...either that or tell them to shut up already. LOL
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
26 Jan 09
I really wanted to say shut up....but didn't because we were in a public place!
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