He sure had a lot of nerve!

He's lucky you're so kind. I probably would have lost my temper. It's amazing how jerky absentee fathers can be. I mean they don't do any of the work, how hard is it to contribute to their child's life monetarily? I know there must be some absentee mothers whose ex-husband's or boyfriends take care of the child(ren), but I think that situation is much more rare. Guys are usually the ones who don't pay the child support.

I realize this is an old discussion, but I'm going to throw in my 2 cents anyways... I didn't take Javy's father to court until he was about 6 years old. Up until then I wanted nothing from the man. However, the twins had just been born, and I was just married. I didn't want any of this "different last name" junk in my house, so my husband was to adopt Javy so we'd all have the same name. This is the only reason I went to find the man, and the only way I knew how was to go after him for child support. Well I live in NY. He lives in Florida. He's married with other kids too, he was married when Javy was concieved. So after our court date, which he only had to do by phone, he calls me and attempts to convince me to not go through the court. Tells me he'll send me money when he can, just don't go through court. Yeah, basically he just didn't want his wife to know. So I tell him, give me the money for the adoption, which is $1,500, and you'll never hear from us or the courts again. Well he didn't have it. So he was ordered to pay $50. And he did, like clockwork, for about a year. Then suddenly the payments stopped coming in winter, but in the spring he'd double up on payments, and sometimes they came every 2 weeks instead of monthly. Over the next year or two it got even more inconsistent. Last spring I got a few double payments, a few regular payments, and then a couple $30 payments, and they were all sorts of spread out. I got my last payment in August. In April I went down to child support. A few weeks later I got $100. Nothing since. I just called child support earlier this week, they did a check on an employer to see if they could take the support out of his checks, and apparently they can't find an employer. I'd have to go downtown again and file some sort of grievence or something... but because he's in Florida there might not be anything they can do.

lol... i would of laughed at him and keep him hoping... i would of said will see... bajajajaja. if its a random some one ya ur ready to tell them off but ur babys daddy is more like a bottom kick and u can teast there shoe in ur mouth... I wish things could just go smoothly with them... especially when there still love :(

Don't you dare ever give him his tax return back if it is sent to you for child support!! You need that to raise your child. Once it is sent to you, the child support agency will deduct it from what is owed you. They are not going to help you re-collect it again. If you can afford to hand it over to him then think again and go buy your child an extra cool gift or better yet....put it in a savings for the child and someday you can say..."this was from your daddy". It's hard being a single mom...I know. Don't ever ever give him back $ once you finally get it.

I had this happen with my son's dad a few years ago...I had no idea that when you are late on child support they will steal it from your tax refund, so boy was I surprised and thrilled to see $1000 or so magically appear in my account! He never mentioned it at all so I didn't say anything about it to him - I only called the child support people to make sure i really got to keep it because i was in total disbelief! So, if they give it to you then definitely do not give it back to him. He's the one who has to pay it. It's the law in a lot of states I guess, so there's nothing he can do about it. If he threatens you or harasses you about it even once again, call the police.

I can not recall anyone telling me I better do something. Your daughhter's father has a lot of nerve wanting the money, if in fact the check comes to you. He should be thankful that he only owes $717.00, and his tax refund can take care of it. I wouldn't even consider giving him anything back. It is his responsibility to support his daughter.

I don't remember.....but he owes you it so you should get it....and I wouldn't even consider it even if he hadn't been a jerk...its for his child after all and if it were me I'd also lay a big guilt trip on him....but that is just me.....

No nothing like that has happened to me. That certainly was crude. I would have told him no too. Good for you.

Don't compare your child feelings from money. Childs are away from all woory of the world. Child is another name of God. They don't know anything about world.

After 7 years I am owed well over $10,000 so you guys are lucky. I told my oldest's dad during our last phone conversation that I was going to re-open the child support recovery case and he responded by telling me I could do that but he would just quit his job. I actually found the sh**head on Facebook- he says he won't send me any money. I reminded him there is a court order in place and I've heard nothing else from him.

He owes the money, and if you could afford to give it back to him (meaning you don't need it)...you could put it in a college account for her. Begin saving now and it will be a lot easier in the future!