mY friend Jack.

@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
United States
October 8, 2009 1:59pm CST
I have put off since may talking about this. jACKIE WAS MENTALLY CHALLENGED BUT A SWEETIE. Jackie died in may. He was a brother to an old boyfriend that i have always carried about even tho we no longer saw each other & he lives a long way from me. Even w/that said i had continued to help jackie for years. I washed his clothes every week, took him wherever he needed to go, handled his money . paid his bills & i'm sure by now u get the picture. he had 2 brothers. one right here in town that did not even go see him or do anything for him at all but u can bet he was there when it come to cleaning out his apartment w/his hand stuck out. The other one[the boyfriend] didn't want anything. Why should he . He's rich & i found out the hard way he's going to stay that way & spend it all on himself or whoever he chooses but it sure wasn't going to be spent on jackie. I had taken out an insurance policy on jack years ago. I paid for it w/his money & when he told the insurance salesMAN TO MAKE ME THE BEFENICSARY I told him to make it to his brother [the boyfriend]. From day 1 after jack died the brother made it quite clear that there would be no money spent except what the insurance paid for. He buried him in a pasteboard box that was made to look like medal & didn't even buy a spray for the casket, i did. Could u treat a family member that way??I never want to see that brother again. I hate to be disappointed in someone i love but i was. wouldn't u be?
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
9 Oct 09
I think Jackie might've been mentally challenged, but he knew his brother - you should've let him make it out to you
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
9 Oct 09
probably claimed they didn't know him and let the county handle the costs...
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
9 Oct 09
U are probaly right. Elic. That would have broke my heart. Hope u have a great weekend.
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
9 Oct 09
Thanks, but we're pretty broke this weekend, so its bound to be kindda boring!
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@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
9 Oct 09
Oh yes I would be very mad at him and no the kid should have been buried better than that. BUt you can hold your head high just knowing you did for him just because you are you and he needed a good friend!
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@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
9 Oct 09
So glad the director understood bet he gave brother a dirty look!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
9 Oct 09
no more than i was giving him.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
9 Oct 09
I bet I can just see it!
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@quita88 (3716)
• United States
10 Oct 09
I would have been more than disappointed ---but you made things right for Jackie and I'm sure he knows who truly cared for him. Always remember Karma--the boyfriend will get what he gave out----nothing. You were good to Jackie and that makes others jealous. As with me and taking care of family all those years, it has already come back to me for being a caring person and you will see it too if you have't already. God Bless, quita
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
10 Oct 09
thanks quita, i figure it will all come around one of these days. Thanks for the kind words.
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
11 Oct 09
I'm quite sure you got as much out of Jackie as Jackie did out of your care. Still the brother was a pain wasn't he??? I think the brother will find as he goes thru life that care of others is reaps its own rewards. You did great and he didn't. Someday he'll wish he had.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
12 Oct 09
tHANKS, QUITA.
@cyrus123 (6383)
• United States
9 Oct 09
Hi Jo! No, I couldn't treat a family member this way, either. It's terrible that his brothers did him this way, especially since he was mentally challenged. That's the way family members do sometimes, though. The way I look at it is that there's going to be a judgment day someday and they will answer for their wrongs. It was so nice of you to help Jackie all that you could, though, and I know you miss him. I couldn't bury a family member in a pasteboard box! That's awful! Yes, I would be very disappointed if someone I loved did this way. I don't blame you for not wanting to see that brother again. He's selfish! Kathy.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
9 Oct 09
Thanks for your kind response, Kathy. It is terrible the way they treated jack always. They just couldn't be bothered w/him, i guess. I do miss him. It's hard when u have done for someone & they are not hear anymore. JACKIE was like having another child to look after even tho he was 6months youger than i. I will never regret doing for him. Have a great weekend, Kathy.
• United States
9 Oct 09
That is a shame and I am sending a hug too! Thank you for sharing your story about Jack. It sounds like the brothers missed out on truly knowing a great person and it also sounds like he had a great friend in toy while he was alive. Try to take comfort from that - at the time when it most mattered, when he was still here, he had you.
@marguicha (100312)
• Chile
9 Oct 09
DEarest Jo, Jackie had the best family: you. And I´m sure he knew that. Those brothers of him are people I pity more than anything. They have no capacity to love and they are missing the real thing in life. Jackie is now resting in peace. And you think that you had him and could and wanted to help him. You are a sweet.Bless you!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
9 Oct 09
Thanks dear.I appreciate your kind words. Thanks for responding.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
8 Oct 09
I would be terribly disappointed. It's such a shame the way people do others..especially a brother..wow. No way you missed out on anything with that ex. Your to good for that guy. It was really nice of you to care for Jack. I think the world could use a few more Jos running around.
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@AmbiePam (49884)
• United States
8 Oct 09
That is tragic. It's hard to believe people can do that to family and have no visible regrets. I could never do that. I have a relative who is loathsome. And every single one of his problems is of his own making. But I still send him a card on his birthday. At family reunions I still make an effort to talk to him. And to have a sweet man like Jackie, one who has done no harm to anyone be ignored by his family is a downright crime. I am so glad he had someone who cared so much for him. You must have been a bright light in his life.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
8 Oct 09
tHANKS FOR YOUR RESPONSE, aMBIE. iT WAS TRAGIC bUT I SAW THAT JACK HAD WHAT he needed & i'm glad i was able to do what i did for him. U are very kind to treat your relative like that. I bet not many do. I'm sure he appreciates your effort very much. Your kindness to him will not go unrewarded.
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
8 Oct 09
I could never treat anyone I loved that way...what a shame. Too bad they missed out on having their brothers love. How very sad!
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@ronnyb (6120)
• Jamaica
8 Oct 09
Oh my Antique ,this is a very touching story but what I take away from this is your capacity to take in someone in need of your help and showing that person love and not expecting anything in return.I understand your disappointment but wouldn't feel to bad about it ,you did the best you can do and you will be richly rewarded for your kindness as I guess his brothers will be rewarded for their treachery too. I don't think I could treat a family member this way especially someone who was so in need of my help but well done to you Antique
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
8 Oct 09
Thanks for the kind words. I would do it all again for jackie if i could. He had a very sad life.
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@thea09 (18327)
• Greece
8 Oct 09
Hi Aunty, sorry to hear about Jack. You make him sound like better company to be around than his brother the ex. I expect he was different when you were with him or maybe love just blinded you to his real character. Sounds like you've had to go through two losses at the same time here Aunty, Hugsxx
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
8 Oct 09
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Oct 09
Very disappointed. :-(
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
8 Oct 09
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@rusty2rusty (6767)
• Defiance, Ohio
8 Oct 09
I could not treat a family member like that. I tell ya what, those family members who treated Jackie like crap will learn to regret it. some how karma will bite back. even if it means those brothers end up having a mentally challenge child. Or they themselves end up suffering from altimers in old age. But mark my word...karma will make sure they know how they screwed up.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
8 Oct 09
I hope u are right. Thanks for responding.
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@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
I appreciate how love your friend because of his very end you never left beside him. It did not happen to me my friend. If the situation is like in your situation I'll make sure being that one and do what you can do...have a nice day!
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
9 Oct 09
Thanks for your response. We all need to be a good friend & i'm sure u are. Have a great weekend & thanks for responding.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
11 Oct 09
Yup! I will do that if happen that my friends, suffer that. But my friend, is away from my location and were only meet once in a year...Have a nice day!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
16 Oct 09
Thanks.
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
16 Oct 09
You have a big heart and I am certain that Jack was grateful for everything you did as his parents would have been. You can't spend too much time thinking about the two brothers who obviously did not know how to be there for him.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
16 Oct 09
Thank u. his parents or none of his family ever treated him right. sad but very true. What goes around comes around , i believe. Have a great weekend.
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
17 Oct 09
It may take a while but everyone gets what they have coming eventually.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
12 Apr 10
I hope i live to see some of them gets what's coming to them. Happy days to u.
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
9 Oct 09
This has brought tears to my eyes. I have NEVER UNDERSTOOD MAN'S HATRED FOR MAN.It is a horrible story but Jackie is o.k. now and he is perfect. Not mentally challenged any more. No, I cold not treat a family member that way at all. And I also feel that i would never wantto see his brother again, I am so happy that Jackie had you. All I can say is that in heaven there is a special place for angels like you.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
9 Oct 09
Thanks CYnti, u are such a kind & good person , am hoping some of your goodness will rub off on me. Jackie has a sad life. I hope he is happy in heaven & noone makes fun of him anymore. His own brothers did that to. I don't understand people being so cold-hearted but they are. I could have written a book on the way jack was reated all his life. Thanks for responding, hope u have a great weekend. hugs, jo
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
10 Oct 09
I hope u are right. Thanks, dear. Have a great sat,
@riyasam (16578)
• India
10 Oct 09
hi,antiquelady,some people are so selfish like the one you pointed out.but i firmly beleive that he will sow what he has reaped................
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
10 Oct 09
Hi there, I think u are right, Thanks for responding & have a great weekend.
• United States
10 Oct 09
o yes you can be very disappointed in someone but you have to look at it like this the money went to his head and i bet if you had it to do over again you would of stayed his benfenicsary and aren't you glad that you didn't end up with him just think if he would do his brother this way want would he do to a wife. but you know what go around come around and he will get his god know what he did.
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@littleone3 (2065)
9 Oct 09
That is so sad. Thankfully that he still had you in his life. You sound like a very caring and loving lady. Unfortunately I know someone like them two brothers. He is my eldest niece adoptive Dad when he and my sister divorced he decided he wanted nothing to do with my niece he said she was just too difficult to parent just because she was autistic. This made me so mad my niece is a beautiful young lady who I am very close to. I helped my sister raise her till she was 4. She use to call this man Dad and he treated her like this.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
9 Oct 09
There are alot of sorry people in the world & it's too bad it has been our misfortune to know them. Thanks for your response & have a great weekend.
@EARLZHAN (934)
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
Ohh.. what a very sad story. What kind of bothers are they. I am really disappointed of what they've done to their brother.I couldn't treat my bother like that even if he's mentally ill. Well I do believe in karma. What they've done to their brother will be done to them also in any other way and only God knows about it.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
9 Oct 09
Thanks Earl, for your response. They are cold hearted brothers for sure. Always heard what goes around comes around. Have a great weekend.