Fighting or Running Away...

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@twoey68 (13651)
United States
October 13, 2009 12:20pm CST
Everyone handles stress differently. Some ppl will dig their heels in and put up a fight to the end…others will run like the wind without ever looking back. The worse the situation, the stronger they react. I’m a runner most of the time. If things get really difficult, I want to just run somewhere else…as far a way from the problem as possible. Of course running never solves anything but it’s just the way I am. I think I’m that way b/c my Mom moved a lot when I was a kid and most of the time it was b/c of trouble. So are you a fighter or a runner? what do you think makes you the way you are when it comes to facing problems? Are you looking forward to seeing The Great Pumpkin on Halloween? [b]**AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
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@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
15 Oct 09
I am not a runner. I used to be, but after having my son that has special needs, I have learned to fight. I guess the is a good thing, but it gets tiring fighting for everything, but you have to.
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
15 Oct 09
Well if it is something that i can fix i will just stay and fight or try & work it out....If it is beyond my control then i just sit back & see whats going to happen, meanwhile i go shopping...
@jess07 (319)
14 Nov 09
Hi, I'm the sort of person that puts up a fight and digs my heels in and doesn't budge until it's over. But until a while ago i was a runner too, then My Mom ran because of debt and cos she had stolen money from my grnad parents. She ran, she ran to a man she had never seen but had talked to on facebook. I stayed and still am with my grand parents. And ever since then i'm kinda changed, now if there's a problem i'm the first one there. I don't leave till it's ended. thanks for posting =)
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@DavidReedy (2411)
• United States
18 Oct 09
i'm still trying to figure the answer to this question out. You see, most of my life, I've been a "runner" so to speak, but I've found a lot of inner strength over the past couple of years, but what I find is this reocurring nightmarish scenario, wherein in the course of these type of events when I choose to "stand" I suffer the conseuqences as if I should've run (or at least walked away) and when I run it seems I should have stayed... I wonder, is that how most people percieve it?
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@jezzmay (1845)
• United States
16 Oct 09
I am a runner too, I really do not know what makes me that way. I do look back at the way I was raised and there was no peace in our home. I like peace and will avoid conflict. I guess that is why I am a runner. We are giving out candy at the church for Halloween, I do look forward to seeing the children. Have a great day.
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
15 Oct 09
I find that I'm a worrier - i worry til i get the problem solved so If i run then i worry more and its no good so I end up fighting my problems and solving them. I dont like letting others take care of problems for me.
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
15 Oct 09
Interesting discussion coming from the person with the signature "At peace within" and "Stand strong in your beliefs." Maybe you should carry that on a little card in your wallet and look at it in times of stress? Maybe the addition of a worry stone as well? Awareness is a great tool. Write reflectively to help control how you are affected by stress and how you react to things that happen.
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@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
15 Oct 09
I don't fight much either. I don't run either, unless I have to do something and don't want to be taken away from it. I stubbornly stick to my opinion and I won't do what they want me to do no matter what they try. If things get difficult, I get help from experts or advice. but in general if I haven't done anything wrong I won't give in. they have to prove me wrong or it will be endless fights. I could do this for years lol pretty much until I win. but yeah if I'm wrong I would sure back off. some fights are not worth it though. sometimes the person knows he is wrong and no matter how many people try to correct him/her, they still don't see it. these fights I used to shrug it off but I will mention it if anyone ever asks why I leave the fight and I will ignore everything that particular dumbness says.
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@xParanoiax (6999)
• United States
15 Oct 09
Depends on the cause of the stress. When it comes to people, I tend to run away...unless I need to save them. When it comes to conflicts with those I love, I usually go hide somewhere and wish I could fall down some pit that I can't climb out of for eternity, xD When it comes to everything else, I square my jaw stubbornly and fight. What makes me this way? Those I love, I truly honest-to-goodness-sincerely love. I don't want to hurt them. If they accuse me of something, even if it's true...no one can punish me worse than I can punish muself. If I can't resolve it, and goodness knows I try every time...I leave. I don't storm off. I don't usually get mad. I get hurt and I leave. I've gotten hurt by people I love more than I've gotten hurt by anything else. Alot of the time I think that the only thing that can hurt me are people I care about. And this a deepset psychological thing going back to my childhood. Although I have more or less conquered the habit of self-blame/self-hate since then. For the rest...well, I am a stubborn person. Who am I to let a little thing like stress get in my way or the way of things happening? I'm not so weak as to let stress just push me over without fighting it tooth and nail. I'd consider it a personal failing if I didn't choose to fight stress in this general category.
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@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
15 Oct 09
Hello Twoey. I used to run away, but I've learned that the sooner I face and deal a stress or a problem, the better. For ongoing and unavoidable stresses, I do my level best to control the amount of damage they do to one! I love the serenity prayer. It helps me keep many things in perspective. I have it posted several place about my apartment. I guess that makes me a fighter! Karen
@suzzy3 (8362)
14 Oct 09
Most of my problems have been managable by standing my ground and sorting the problems out.I have never felt the need to fight probably because I am a woman.Sometimes men seem to be more confrontational,I was never built for fighting so I learned to run fast at an early age.I always tell mine to walk away from trouble if you mix with trouble ,trouble will find you.
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• United States
14 Oct 09
It all depends.If I can see staying and fighting will make things better ,then I will fight. But most of the time I don't see how it can be resolved and being as stubborn as I am ,I Know I won't change so I just write it off and leave.
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@BarBaraPrz (19848)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
14 Oct 09
I'm like Wall-E... I fold myself up into myself and pretend I'm a suitcase...
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@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
14 Oct 09
I think for me it just depends upon what the problem is. Some you just have to deal with. Others you can just leave it alone.
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@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
13 Oct 09
I'm not a runner, because there isn't any place to run really, but also that people that threaten are really cowards and if you stand up and act unafraid, they will become afraid and back off especially when you inform them that if they lay a FINGER on you you will have them in JAIL so fast they won't know what hit them and that you will charge them with everything you can think of that might stick and insist on seeing it thru the LAST place these cowards want to be is in jail
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
13 Oct 09
I am not a runner I always stand strong and will tackle it It is what I have had to do most of my Life even though sometimes I wish I could run, but I just can't I have to tackle it no matter what it is
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@Destiny007 (5820)
• United States
13 Oct 09
I is a fighter... I think it is my innate stubbornness and overwhelming desire to win no matter the cost that makes me that way. I is waiting on the Great Pumpkin to appear, so that I can have Great Pumpkin pie.
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@enola1692 (3325)
• United States
13 Oct 09
I am a fighter I know thats bad but worse thn that I hold back till I explode then whoever is near look out yes I can't wait to see the great pumpkin
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@manleyjoe (1599)
• United States
13 Oct 09
I tried to run from a problem once, It really caused me a lot of stress and then it caught up to me and I still had to face it. It was not as hard as I thought it would be and if I had faced it to start with I could have done with out the stress that it caused me worrying about it. So now when a problem arises I try to find a solution and let some one else have the stress.
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Oct 09
Well if withdrawing inside myself = running, I"m a runner...
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