Losing contact with someone you love

@solared (1210)
United States
October 16, 2009 12:17pm CST
How worried would you be if you lost contact with someone 26 days ago, don't answer phone, don't answer texts, an you know them well enough you have passwords to their emails, an the box is cluttered up with unanswered mail. The phone goes straight to voice mail 4 rings sometimes straight to voicemail, now the voicemail is totally full. The other phone rings no one answers, the internet phone goes straight to voicemail. Well this is what I'm going through, an they are out of state, so I can't just visit whenever I like, we have a long history together lost touch for a lil while, an have reconnected, they have a new address an I know the street but can't remember the entire address, because lets face it no one sends postal mail anymore. Also did I mention I didn't even get to talk to them on their birthday, although they did some really nice stuff for me on my birthday the week before. So yeah their was no fallout, everything was good, but now all I can do is worry that they are ok. I worry if something serious happened so I check obits an records can't find anything, I think the family wouldn't do anything if that happened an that worries me. Just to make sure the social security death index was up to date I put in details of someone I knew that died earlier this month an their name didn't come up either, so all I do is wait an worry, an hope for any news. I even checked arrest records, vinelink, nothing, nothing else I can do, just pray they are ok, I guess. I do know their cell phone dosen't have the best service, as I was told, but I can't imagine them staying in that area for 26 days. .
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14 responses
• United States
21 Oct 09
I was going through the same exact thing last month. I met him online . We live so very far apart. I didn't get his phone number. We connected but then he disappeared.About three weeks later we got bake together , but then he just disappeared.I emailed him but he didn't respond. then I saw via my hotmail that he was deleting my messages.I saw it was over.It broke my heart . But thankfully with the help of my best friend I realized that it wasn't love .If you really love someone,you don't come in and out of their lives like that.I miss him but I know it wouldn't have worked. Ihope your love calls or writes real soon. Take Care.
@solared (1210)
• United States
23 Oct 09
I don't understand her motives, considering how much she did for me on my birthday, I have no idea what's going on, an this girl was a ex a reconnected with back in August so we do have history together going back 9 years, so I didn't just meet her, I don't know what's going on all I can do is wait a little longer. As far as her emails go I know she hasn't checked them because I have the pass, because I created it for her, because she asked me to do so.
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• United States
24 Oct 09
I am sorry.Do you any of her friends you can call or email? That may be a way to see if it is over or she may just be out of town.
@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
that is weird,where she go?do you know that person very well?i think if shes dont answer her phone but it is ringing maybe she dont want to talk with you.but dont be upset maybe shes busy at work or doing important things.anyway i hope youll contact her so that you wont worry much.
@solared (1210)
• United States
22 Oct 09
I really don't know, an yes I know her very well, I have no idea why she would do this on purpose, especially since she was being very nice before she left. She is ok, all I know is she is helping out her sister with her new baby, I don't know anymore than that, an why she would not contact me I dunno, but I know she is safe.
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@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
as long shes safe that would be fine lol...
• United States
28 Oct 09
I am glad that you got an answer and your friend is alright. Sometimes there are things that keep us from getting in touch with people that we are close to, even though we might want to. I hope that once she realizes how worried about her you are, she will contact you as soon as possible. It sounds like she is just very busy at the moment, and if she doesn't have your number memorized she might not be able to contact you. I hope you get to talk with her soon, though.
• United States
9 Nov 09
I just noticed that you awarded me the honor of BR. Thank you very much! I hope that you have been in contact with your friend by now and that all is well.
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
hello solared, You know it's been weeks since my mobile phone broke down. i fear that anytime soon my sim will expire because that phone of mine had been around for at least two to three years. if it expires, all of my numbers there will be gone. i missed using my phone, if i ever get my phone back on power, it will never be the same again
@solared (1210)
• United States
23 Oct 09
Well i suggest you find a way to save all your contacts, or write them all down.
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
11 Nov 09
Where does this person work? Have you tried calling their job? Do they live in a house or an apartment? You can check with the landlord if you have the steet address.
@riyasam (16582)
• India
28 Oct 09
i also would be very concerned if i was in your shoes.hope things have been sorted out by now.it seems she has lost interest in you,otherwise she could have informed you before hand that she was going to her sisters.
• Canada
26 Oct 09
I would be devestated. For example, I have a cyber lover whom I've know for like 5 years. We had cam & phone, Sadly, we never met cuz he's he's not into airlines. I offered to treat him ticket to Canada, but he refuses. Now, I understand his reluctance..sort of.. He's had lots of other girls.. Godd for him. He's real hottie,. He yells at me alot but I don't care cuz that whats true love is, right girls? Well, answer topic, I would never wanna lose contact with him, cuz I'm love him
@zed_k4 (17634)
• Singapore
26 Oct 09
Either that person has moved somewhere, or something really urgent has happened that they have to vacant. Any updates? Since it's been a week already..
• India
17 Oct 09
hi.........oh its too bad...i tink u should go to their place if u have d address... i pray that they are safe...and don worry..if they to love u,they vl cal u back for sure..jus wait for sometime and watch...have a nice day !!!! Be happy !!!!!bye
@Amasid (25)
• Philippines
17 Oct 09
yeah i lost contact with someone i love, never did see her again
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
17 Oct 09
I'd be very concerned. I would set out on a search mission as soon as I could. If you can't remember the exact address you can ask the local polic. They will be able to help you locate this person.
@Hatley (157810)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Oct 09
hi solared I would be worried too after almost a month, ' and their mailbox full. sounds like there may be some sort of trouble.have you any friends or relatives in that'aeea that could check on them for you? Maybe it might be wise event to contact the police in the area where they are and explain to them what you have told us, they might think it would be wise to check on them at least. I see you do not have a complete street address but still ifyou could think 'of someone who lives where they are maybe you could find out about them somehow.
@xannebull (1806)
• Philippines
17 Oct 09
it happened to my brother a month ago, we lost contact with him, they had moved in to the new place where we don't know his exact address,his contact number can't be reached, my parents are so worried of him and his family because we never talked to him for months. i research in the internet about the city in which they are living, i tried looking for friendster people who lived in that place and was glad that someone answered my searching. She was a neighbor of my brother there, i gave her my number and then she give my number to my brother,and was glad that my brother had contacted us after that.
@kykidd (6824)
• United States
16 Oct 09
I don't blame you for being so concerned. It seems odd that someone would go for so long without at least checking their phone messages and their email. Especially in the technical world that we live in today. Do you know where they work? Perhaps you could call and leave a message if they work at a company outside of the home. I know some businesses do not like for people to receive phone calls, but if you just leave a message then that isn't usually out of line. I do wish you luck in finding your friend. And perhaps if this person doesn't have anyone close to them that might report them missing, you may want to get the authorities involved. It sounds like a very scary situation and unfortunately there are a lot of creepy people in the world.