I tried to be supportive..what would you have said?

@ersmommy1 (12600)
United States
October 23, 2009 12:11pm CST
I have a friend who recently had a birthday. She and her hubby were arguing. He had tried to go and get her coffee the morning of her birthday. Since she had to work both of her jobs that day, I think he just wanted her day to start off on the right foot. She told him just to go to work. He also bought her a nice shirt. Wrong size. She is a medium and he purchased a small. She got annoyed. I guess after 17 years together she thought he might know her size. I would have been happy if my hubby thought I was a "small" lol
4 people like this
15 responses
@katsmeow1213 (29029)
• United States
23 Oct 09
Husbands do silly things like that. Sounds exactly like a mistake mine would have made. Actually he probably has made the mistake in the past. I always dread opening presents from him, because he rarely gets it right. He'll get a wrong size, or something I'd just hate. I know he tries, but really... one Valentine's day he gave me a computer game... Zoo Tycoon. Yeah, it was a great game and I loved playing it... but for Valentine's day? Really? So I totally know how she feels.
1 person likes this
@crys7881 (267)
• United States
23 Oct 09
LMAO!! Zoo Tycoon? That is so funny, at least it was something that you liked though! Guys are just clueless I think, but if they try you have to give them credit!!
@jugsjugs (13045)
23 Oct 09
I would think my husband would have been trying to pay me a sort of compliment if my husband had got me a top that was smaller than i was not unless he was trying to say lose some weight and it might fit on your next birthday.Poor man could not do nothing right on your friends birthday,at least he tried that is more than some men do.
1 person likes this
@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
23 Oct 09
I agree! :)
1 person likes this
@coffeebreak (17820)
• United States
24 Oct 09
I"d be happy if Mine just remembered it was my birthday and mentioned it!
1 person likes this
@dmrone (751)
• United States
23 Oct 09
Hi! She might have felt that way, true enough, but he was thinking about her. So maybe he made a few mistakes, it is the thought that counts. He did remember her birthday, and was trying to express his feelings with the gifts for her. If my husband remembered my birthday it would be a blessing in and of itself. I give him an A+ for the efforts her made for her birthday.
@lindiebiz (1013)
• Canada
24 Oct 09
I agree with you after 2yrs of marriage my husband cant remember my birthday, it was very thoughtfull of him
• United States
24 Oct 09
Hi, Its sounds like your friend is under a lot of stress and pressure. As a friend you should try to really talk to her and find out whats really going on. Its sounds like it was more than a cup of coffee and the wrong size shirt. I have a friend, we have been friends since we were 6 yrs. old. I guarantee if myself or she were to act that way, we would be talking until it was out. whatever she is feeling, Sounds like she's hurting a little to. but, to be honest, I would be a little aggravated to if I were working 2 jobs. Especially on my birthday, and the least he could do, is remember my shirt size after 17 yrs. together. Another words, be a good friend and hear what she's feeling...
@williamjisir (22905)
• China
24 Oct 09
Hello ersmommy. I am so sorry that the husband did not choose the right size for his wife, but I don't blame him for that because I myself often ask my wife for her exact size when I happen to be in a big city trying to buy some garments for her. lol. But I always get her the right size after making a call to her first. Of course, there is no problem at all if we go shopping clothes for her.
@daliaj (5689)
• India
24 Oct 09
I think most of the men are poor at selecting gifts for their wives. Being a woman, I admit that I am not good at selecting gifts. It is normal for a woman to get angry if she finds out that after being together for so many years, her husband doesn't know her size. Our wedding anniversary is fast approachind and I have not yet decided about the gift to give to my husband. I can understand the feeling of the husband mentioned above.
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
24 Oct 09
My guess would be that she and her hubby may be having some deeper issues than just him getting her the wrong size. I mean, like you said, he got it a smaller size so she should have been flattered. At least he took the time to get her a gift. It seems trivial for her to get so upset.
@Hatley (164755)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Oct 09
ersmommy she should know that no matter how long you are married your hubby will always get a size too small in any thing he buys for you. maybe its wishful thinking or just a compliment. And bringing coffee to her, was a nice gesture. guess she was just out of sorts. I always took it that my hubby thought I was smaller than I was. lol lol lol.
@laglen (19782)
• United States
23 Oct 09
That does sound pretty ungrateful. Thats a shame. Maybe next year he will just ignore her birthday, then she will be hoping for a cup of coffee and a shirt!
@rmuxagirl (7568)
• United States
23 Oct 09
I would be happy that he even thought to try and get me something that he liked or that he wanted me start my day off nice ith some coffee. I don't understand why the friend would be angry with him for trying to be nice and make her day somewhat special since she had to work tw jobs.
@rainmark (4306)
23 Oct 09
Atleast her hubby do hi best to please her on her special day. My hubby always asks me, what i wanted on my bday's. So he never get wrong to pick the stuff for me.
@snowy22315 (43928)
• United States
23 Oct 09
I think it was sweet that he thoght she was a small. I wish I was. It is really not that importatn tin the overall scheme of things. I would have just kind of made a joke about it and said men! at least he didnt get her a large. I dont like my boyfriends getting me clothes because they invariably will get the size wrong. Men just arent that attentive in general I think.
@weasel81 (2502)
• Australia
23 Oct 09
at least he hubby tried, the shirt could have been a big small that looked close to a medium in hubby's view. men never pay attention to our actual size, nor do they go clothes shopping. my mum has written out a list on what she might like for her b'day next month, all i said was i'll get money of dad and go buy his present for him. dad doesn't leave the farm unless he really has to, and is for forgetting b'days etc. they've been married 29 yrs. thou my partner did forget my b'day this yr his mum told him, and he very quickly came home to wish my happy b'day. men what will do with them??? you can only do so much, but being there to listen is the best thing.
@crys7881 (267)
• United States
23 Oct 09
I would have been thankful if my guy got up to go get me coffee in the morning!! I think that was him trying to be sweet!! I am a medium and guys always think I should be able to fit into a small, I have had guys get me shirts that are way too small and I'm like, "Really...you think I can fit into that??" lol but it's better than him pickout out a large!! That would really upset me!! I was looking at panties with my boyfriend one time and I said I need a medium or size 6 and he just looked at me like I was crazy! I was like what? and he said, you don't really wear that size do you?? I think guys are just clueless and we have to get over it!! lol I would have told my friend that at least he tried, and I would have let him go get me coffee for sure!!