My niece is getting a tattoo!

United States
October 26, 2009 10:49am CST
My oldest niece is getting a tattoo less then a week after she turns 18! Sunday is her 18th birthday, I'm not a fan of tattoo's! I think they are ugly and some people go overboard getting them! I know I can't stop her! I do hope to find out what part of the body the tattoo is going on,how big will it be and what does the tattoo look like! Hopefully I'll find out more when I go on her Facebook page! I'm not spying! She's on my friend list!
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25 responses
• United States
26 Oct 09
It is her body and therefore I agree you really don't have anything to say about it and the thing is I also wouldn't even talk to her negatively about it. It doesn't mean you have to say something positive to her about it, because that would be lying in your case, but just don't say anything at all. And also I'm pretty sure you can just ask her about the tattoo and she would be completely fine with telling you about it. As long as you're rational about the situation I don't see there being any problem. Tattoos are an expression - you're expressing your thoughts on mylot, she's expressing her thoughts on her body.
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• United States
27 Oct 09
I know tattoo's are expressions and it is her body. I will be nice about this situation! If i want to ask har about it I known she'd be fine with it and I'll keep my opinions to myself on tattoo's!
@Bionicman (3967)
• Czech Republic
26 Oct 09
Nothing wrong with it. Perhaps you'll start liking tattoos after you see it on your niece. And stop spying
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• United States
27 Oct 09
I'm not spying! I just don't want her to regret getting one!
@di1159 (1580)
• United States
26 Oct 09
I suppose it depends what she gets, where it will be and if it has any special significance. Many young people these days do it out of a sense of fashion. I myself am 50 years old and recently got 2. (It was on my bucket list). One is on the nape of my neck and the other on my lower back. I am pleased with them and they both symbolize milestones I've accomplished. I think 18 though is young to get something you have to live with the rest of your life. Maybe you can convince her to get a piercing instead. Good Luck!
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• United States
27 Oct 09
I don't think my niece would listen to me about what I think of tattoo's! I know her mom has two and her dad one. I know they aren't going to talk her out of it!
@ebsharer (5517)
• United States
26 Oct 09
I am a pretty well educated, professional person and I have 3 tattoos. They are in places that you would only see if I wanted you to. I plan to get another very soon! I got my first when I was 18. My should has a small lady bug. My ankle has a large lady bug. My lower back has a heart, wings, and horizon which comes out to be about 3inches by 4inches. I don't see anything wrong with getting tattoos as long as they are hideable.
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• United States
27 Oct 09
Thanks for the response. Hideable is ok but I'm a sports fan. I see tons of tattoo's on the athletics and it is turn off!
@Wizzywig (7859)
26 Oct 09
I can understand that,as her aunt, you care very much about her and would not like to think of her doing something she may regret but, it is HER decision and really has nothing to do with you. The fact that you dont like tattoos doesn't make it "wrong" for her to have one. Why do you need to know the details beforehand? Why dont you just ask her instead of trying to find out via her facebook page ?... if she wants you to know, she will tell you - she may even appreciate your interest & your open-ness. She may be on your friend list now but you could find yourself removed from hers if she feels that you are 'spying'. In her position, I would make a big deal on Facebook saying that I was having a huge tattoo of something really bloodthirsty and violent where it could be seen by everyone just to freak you out.
• United States
27 Oct 09
That is how I found out about the tattoo in the first place! It was on her Facebook page! I just wanted to see what her senior photos were like and that is how I found out about the tattoo! My niece was one of my first facebook friends and I have been a member since January. I don't think I'm making it a big deal! I think I'll be fine with it in time! It is hard to get used to the fact she's an adult! Time sure goes by fast!
@Wizzywig (7859)
28 Oct 09
Yes, time certainly does go fast! It doesn't seem possible that these cute little toddlers grow into independent young people so soon does it?
@mariposaman (2967)
• Canada
26 Oct 09
Personally I think there is nothing more beautiful than clear unblemished skin. However today it seems like you are odd if you do not get a tattoo, so getting a tattoo is almost conforming. While having a new tattoo looks great and you show it off, as you get older frequently you become dissatisfied with it as your skin ages and the tattoo bleeds into surrounding tissue and some of the colors fade. A lot of people go overboard as well. While at one time it was novel to see women with a small tattoo of a butterfly on their shoulder or ankle a lot of them now have several and they seem to get bigger and bigger.
• United States
27 Oct 09
You are so true on what you say! Thanks for the response!
@Galena (9123)
18 Jan 10
surely it's worse though, when women get a tattoo like a tiny heart, or butterfly, or flower, or dolphin, because they seem to be the default "womens tattoos" and it's like they just want to HAVE one, and don't really care what it is or what it means, so they just go for the bog standard womens tattoos.
@weasel81 (2501)
• Australia
26 Oct 09
it took me nearly 10 yr to finally go get a tatt, i got it on my wrist. got plans for more, i've decided if i can't have my earrings (i'm having a terrible time with them and had to take 3 out in a space of 4 weeks i think it was) i'll have extra tatts. but it's a hard choice on what i want got an idea just need to find the right tatts. long as she makes the right choice on what she wants.
• United States
27 Oct 09
I hope she find a tattoo she'll like!
@weasel81 (2501)
• Australia
27 Oct 09
take time she'll know when shes found the right one, i'm still looking for my rose or heart. got a few ideas, but not sure yet which one i like best.
• Boston, Massachusetts
26 Oct 09
For the teens having tattoo is a fad, a fashion, peer pressure. If it's not yet too late for you-- explain to your niece the advantages and disadvantages of having a tattoo. If she changes her mind and not go for it great. But if she still wants to have it by all means she can do it. She's 18 and she's find it a big thing to decide on. On the other hand, be sensitive to know the real reason for having a tattoo, this can be a sign of a "self-inflicted" thing for her.
• United States
27 Oct 09
I won't be judemently when she gets one. I don't know the reason why she is doing it! I know I'll find out soon!
• Boston, Massachusetts
28 Oct 09
It's good that you are monitoring the activities of your niece. I hope she will appreciate your concern and be grateful enough that you're always there for her no matter what.
@jb78000 (15173)
18 Jan 10
tattoos can be tasteful, and hidden. it is her decision though - she is an adult. however it is possible to reverse tattoos if changes her mind when older.
• United States
22 Jan 10
I heard before my niece had her tattoo done her mom,my sister-in-law,made should she thought it through and she hopefully won't regret it in the furture!
@Galena (9123)
18 Jan 10
my husband and I both enjoy tattoos. it's a real art form. it's true that when you have one it's a real act of committment, as you can't really get rid of it. but I don't understand why people are against tattoos in general, or think ALL tattoos are ugly when they haven't seen all tattoos. we each have a body, and can choose to decorate it as we please, or not. I hate that some people assume every tattoo will be regretted, without realising the thought that goes into 90% of tattoos. and the other 10% messed up and just need to find a way to deal with it. my tattoos, I happen to think are beatiful, and my husbands tattoos are lovely too. and when you watch a good artist at work, there is no doubt that it is art.
• United States
22 Jan 10
I know it is a type of art form doing tattoo's. I don't care for them but that is just me. My nience got her's on her back around were her waist is. It is a rose and I have not seen it yet. I'm pretty sure it id similar to the alot of the rose tattoo's I see on women in the same area. Her brother has 2 and he did regret his for awhile. One was never done finished when he had it done. Now he has expceted his tattoo's and had the bad one fixed! He's dad even had one put on hie right arm! A barbed wire! That surprised me but it a tattoo perfect for my brother! Some people do surprise me!
@Rondita (92)
• United States
26 Oct 09
i like tattoos but yea some do go over board with tattoos i agree but its that person choice and since your niece is 18 its time for her to make her own choices in life but guide her along to try to make good choices not bad ones thats all you can really do now that she is a adult now.But show her that you care and tell her what you think and go from there...
• United States
27 Oct 09
Thanks for the response! Thanks for the advice,too!
@CRSunrise (2964)
• United States
26 Oct 09
I have no problems with tattoos. Some of them can be quite intricate and beautiful. My problem are those people who go excessive in this category. There's a fine line between beauty and too much. There just people who go over that line. I think wouldn't mind a tatoo, but I don't like needles and the pain you get from them. So I think the only kinds I'll ever get are the temporary kinds.
• United States
27 Oct 09
I don't like it either when a person goes overboard on tattoo's! Some NFL and NBA players are great examples of that!
@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
26 Oct 09
I wanted to have a tatoo for the longest time, but my parents and my boyfriend are all against it. I just wanted a small sexy or artsy tatoo you know. And they won't budge on their stand. I think tatoos are an expression of oneself, or the need to express art towards their own bodies. There is nothing wrong with it, except for the pain of course and the risk of disease hahaha. I have a rare bloodtype, and I'm kind of anemic, those are the reasons they disagree with it, and another reason is, they said I will have a difficulty finding a job someday haha.
• United States
27 Oct 09
thanks for the response. I know tattoo's can be art and a way to expression ones self!
@jugsjugs (13045)
26 Oct 09
I had a small tattoo done with the word mum which was inside a heart,i was only 16.My tattoo is on the top of my arm and it is a small one.I think it is ok to have one done as long as like you say it is not big or nasty looking.I can cover mine up by wearing a top,just incase i have an interview or have a job where as they do not like tattoos.
• United States
27 Oct 09
I just hope she has one that she can't cover up or is big and ugly! We will see!
@Craicha (801)
26 Oct 09
i like to see tattoo butterfly but small one but im nah fun in putting tattoo in my body.....will hope she will get a small one and in a hidden place..and she must choose a good one that she will nah regret it afterall....
• United States
27 Oct 09
I hope it is a small tattoo and it can be hiden! I'm still trying to find out what she plans to get!
@LaurenInLA (2272)
• United States
26 Oct 09
I like some of the smaller ones, like a butterfly on the ankle. With the others, I always wonder if people are thinking ahead to when they get older and skin wrinkles and sags. I mean do you really think that when you're 80 you would want the tattoo that you think is so hot when you're 20?
• United States
27 Oct 09
I don't think alot of people who get tatto's at a young age think what they will look like in their 70 or 80's! They are clueless!
@jazzsue58 (2672)
26 Oct 09
I don't know how anyone can do that - permanently paint over their body. At least with a piercing you can choose to just have the holes - that makes it invisible. How do you make a tattoo invisible - apart from a quick flaying session with a laser? And how can anyone bear to have one of those sleeve tattoos? What happens when you want to change the pattern?!
• United States
27 Oct 09
I have seen those kind of tattoo's and they make no sense! To alot of people tattoo's are art. They should arent't o me!
@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
26 Oct 09
I am not a big fan of tattoos either, and really actually see no point in them. However so many of the younger generation is getting them now. I just wonder how many people regret them once they get older (the elderly), and all they can see is the wrinkles covering the tattoos.
• United States
27 Oct 09
My nieces brother,my nephew, has two and regrets getting that second! He is only 22! People can regret tattoo's at any age!
@enola1692 (3325)
• United States
27 Oct 09
I don't know whats going on with young kids getting tattoos , don't get me wrong I have one on my ankle but I was 30 when I got it an it was something I thought about a long time it is a dreamcatcher but where we live 17 year old can cross the state line an get one an they also can get peirsing at 16 I have been argueing with my 2 daughter 14 an 16an my oldest want to get a tattoo an she told me at in a few months she will be 17 an can just cross over an the state line an get one all she wants is a tiny fairy on her ankle but i think she she wait lto make sure thats what she wants an same with your neice make sure that is what she wants because it will be with her every day
27 Oct 09
I am not a fan of tattoos. We have something called Mehendi, but those are for girls only. Boys are not permitted to have tattoos in my culture, though I dun see anything wrong in it. I myself might not be a big fan, but some of my friends are. There is no harm to make yourself look good in the way you like, only try not to show them off at places which are inappropriate, like meetings,jobs,etc.