Would you cover up a crime for a family member or your best friend?

United States
December 3, 2009 4:13pm CST
Would you cover up a crime for a family member or your best friend? Lets say that person killed someone by mistake or because they were being attacked. And they did NOT do it to make the person suffer or anything like that and they tell you about it. Would you go to the police? would you tell them to go and if they dont you would? Would you just keep your mouth shut? Would you help cover it up?
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@jazzsue58 (2666)
3 Dec 09
Too many people these days get "sent down" for protecting themselves or their property, when criminals get $$$$ for being "victims" of their own wickedness. We can't hang 'em, so for sure I'd do the next best thing - keep schtum. Why give the police even more work to do?
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
4 Dec 09
Jazz, Would you honestly cover for someone who killed someone? That person should not be sheltered but should face the consequences. Leenie
• United States
5 Dec 09
If a family member or my best friend did something like that, honestly I would be in total shock and wouldn't know what to do for quite sometime. But I would most likely tell them to be completely honest with the police because I personally don't want to be involved in it anymore than I was already because they told me about it so I have the duty to report it. So what I would do, is I would tell them to tell the police with complete honesty that the other person was killed in complete self defense and swear on it. If they didn't dare to tell the truth, I would go and tell the cops myself, whether or not my family member would hate me for life or if my best friend became my ex-friend, because since they told me about it, I'm officially a part of the crime and if I don't say anything and they find out on their own, I could be dragged to jail along with them. I would go and be completely honest with the police and whatever my family member or best friend told me. I don't think I would help to cover it up unless I panicked and really didn't know what to do and couldn't think properly abou the consequences. I'd be more likely to keep my mouth shut and pretend nothing ever happened and move away from that area as soon as I could because I wouldn't want anything to do with whatever didn't involve me in the first place.
• United States
6 Dec 09
Nice answer! I would hope i would have the strength to do just that. Even after reading all these responses and i still don't know what i would do for sure!
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
5 Dec 09
I would never cover up a crime. In the US, I would urge the friend to go to the police. If it happened in Mexico, I'd get my friend out of that country as fast as possible and advise her or him never to go back. Maybe I just contradicted the statement I made at first. Now, I'm confused. Does the advice to leave the country constitute covering up the crime? However, an accident is not a crime in the U, but leaving the scene of an accident is. So I'm right back where I started.
• United States
5 Dec 09
lol you sound like me... i keep going back and forth... i'm still honestly not sure what i'd do. You had a good idea i think i would tell them just to leave but i would not help them leave because then i could go to jail for helping them.
@rjvb26 (2518)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
It depends upon the situation, if it is not intentional and only for self defense, i will turn him/her to the police and will defend her, meaning, we will do anything just to settle things and get a lawyer. But... if the situation is, intentional or let say, he/she killed because he/she wanted too, i will sure bring him/her to suffer the consequences, for the reasons of, it's not only because i am afraid of being a partaker but also, i want him to learn the consequences of what he/she did. By that i can teach him, of learning to decide for things, and decide for the right things. And one things, he/she already killed someone, and i am sure that he/she can do it again, so it is better to prevent it. A ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. It is also for him/her protection, cause i am sure the family of the victim will seek for revenge and that is not really good.
• United States
4 Dec 09
Nice comment I think you made a really good point. How will they ever learn from what they've done if they never get anything for it. Even if its a mistake they need help dealing with it!
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
4 Dec 09
Well, this is a pretty difficult decision to make, because covering a person for that is a crime too. Anyway, if you really care about that person and it wasn't intended, that person shouldn't go to jail in my opinion, so even if it puts me at risk I would probably cover for that person.
• United States
4 Dec 09
I dont know if i'd be able to cover for someone... i'd be so scared! What if the police find out you had something to do with it and takes you to jail to!
@pipayst (140)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
I think I'd get a mental breakdown trying to think about it. Maybe I'd just go mute. My life would never be the same again. I'd just tell them to own up, please, because if you didn't mean it you could be pardoned.
• United States
4 Dec 09
lol your right.... if that happened to me I'd be freaking out! I'd die before i could even make the choice weather to help or not!
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
5 Dec 09
If I was not sure I might keep my mouth shut, but if I knew for a fact someone I loved killed someone and did it in a vicious way and without conciounce as much as I might love them they have proven themselves to be dangerous and possibly mentally ill and they need to be put away. If it was an accident or un-intentional I would not try and help them hide it. I would encourage them to go forward and admit what they did and tell their side of the story. If it was an accident and un-intentional it is only going to look worse if they don't come forward and try to hide things, it will only make them look more guilty and will make it look pre-meditated. It would not be wise.
@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
4 Dec 09
That's a tough choice right there and it's also a really sketchy situation. I would help my loved ones though in any time of crisis and I guess if I felt morally wrong while I was helping them or got a bad feeling in my gut or something then I would quit.
• United States
18 Jan 10
That's hard. I would want to protect my family or friend, but I know that I would have to do the right thing. I would probably persuade them to turn themselves in and be very supportive.
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
4 Dec 09
If someone close to me committed a crime I would try to get them to turn themselves in. If it's self defense they shouldn't get any punishment anyway. If they try to hide it or run or something they would be in even more trouble. If they reported it they would get even more lieniency. If they wouldn't report it I guess I would have to turn them in but it would be hard. I think the best thing would be to get them to turn themselves in
@wlee9696 (595)
• United States
4 Dec 09
I honestly don't know. I know I wouldn't do it for anyone other than my kids or spouse. For my kids or spouse I might - it would depend on the circumstances. I like to think I would convince them to turn themselves in - if it was accidental the sooner it's reported to the police the better. But put in the situation I'm not really sure. I hope I never have to decide though - it would be really tough.
• United States
4 Dec 09
I think the only people i would even consider covering up a rime for would be my husband or my kids (when i have them) but even that would depend on a lot of stuff and i would always tell them to turn themselves in and be honest.
@jewels49 (1776)
• United States
4 Dec 09
Help them cover it up so I could be charged after the fact? No I have my own immediate family to take care of. Encourage them to take resposibilty and stand by them while they did would be my first choice. As to keepng my mouth shut? That in all honesty would depend on the crime. Legally you can keep your mouth shut when a family member is involved, you just can't help them.
• United States
4 Dec 09
Great point. Your family comes first and you have t o protect them! That is the biggest reason why i think i would have to go to the police because i wouldn't want to get in trouble
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
Hi. It most likely depends on who's the "victim." If the crime was committed by a family member or a best friend, I'm not really sure I could turn them to the authorities. But I would definitely encourage them to voluntarily turn themselves to the authorities. I would lay down the pros and cons if they would not surrender. But if the victim of the crime is another family member or bestfriend, I would definitely cooperate with the authorities.
• United States
4 Dec 09
I think I'd do the same thing even though it would be super hard it that right thing to do.
@epikna4o (49)
• Latvia
4 Dec 09
If i get in that situation i just don't tell any body because sometimes its the best choice. And i don't wanna risk with my life. But if the police known who did that, then i trued to help.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
4 Dec 09
I guess it all would depend on the exact nature of the crime. If it was in self defense then I probably would try to help them out. Though I would recommend that they turn themselves in and trust in the system to find out the truth that they did nothing wrong or that it was in self defense. If it was my child I would probably do whatever I had to do to protect my child.
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
If that's the case I will encourage her to report to the police anyway its self defense & she is always at the right side for that. I will support her all the way & never leave her while she is in the state of shock.
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
hey jenn.. a crime is a crime.. so i think i would do the right thing.. lets say for example, he did it on purpose like robbing a bank or killing somebody then surely i would do the right thing and turn him over to the proper authorities.. however if in case he shot a person in self defense and no on purpose then i think there are still legal ways of doing it.. i can still help him with that since it was not his own doing and it was triggered by someone who tried to attack him and he was just on defense mode.. i hope this clears things up for you.. bottom line just do whats right and you will never regret what you did.. have a nice day..
• India
4 Dec 09
i ll support the truth bt will do my best to make sure he dont have to suffer much mo matter whether he or she is my family member or best friend
@novyvery (21)
4 Dec 09
Of course i would go to the police when i knew my family member was doing a big crime for example. Actually, i just want to be a wise one. Like my president in my contry does. He doesn't differentiate between the wrong one just because of the family member of him. he consider everyone is a mortal who can do every crime they want. I will defend the right one and do not cover up the wrong one. Although I would be given much money if i really covered up my family member's crime.
• Romania
4 Dec 09
no no no it's not fair everyone ho dose something rong thei have to pay for the wrong that he did nobody has cover me for nothing it's just fair do pay for your crime