Are friends really someone to whom you can reveal all your secrets?

@nar8988 (409)
December 28, 2009 3:00am CST
Actually it is said that ur best friend is the one who helps u in time of need.But that means that we can reveal all our secrets to him.But tell me really ,can u tell ur friend how u had got good marks if those marks were from cheating by replacing the original copy,If yes then he must be really close to u.Actually I had made the mistake of this kind ,but that was at the time of innocence,I willnever make the same mistake,will u ?
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@cerebellum (3873)
• United States
30 Dec 09
I have a few close friends that I tell most everything to. I am disabled so I am depressed a lot and I try not to dwell on bad things or my mental state with them. I don't want them to feel sorry for me or think that there is something they could do. So I guess I share most things with them but I try to take their feelings into consideration also.
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@nar8988 (409)
30 Dec 09
frnd,you are not disabled ,disabled are those who make you feel disables,don't keep anything in your mind if you feel realxed telling them to others,hope you feel healthy and have better health.
• United States
1 Jan 10
My friends don't treat me like I am disabled. They help me, but don't make me feel different. I am realistic and I know that going anywhere with me means extra work. They don't make me feel like they care, but I do. That is part of the reason I get depressed and don't want them to think they make me feel worse.
@laylil (24)
• Morocco
29 Dec 09
[u][/u]I consider my close friend like a brother thas is not born by my mother. All we need a close friend whom we can confess what we have.
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@nar8988 (409)
30 Dec 09
Yes some friends are like brothers and you can really have faith in them ,so continue your friendship ,and may it continue forever.
• United States
29 Dec 09
I am blessed with a best friend who I can tell everything to without her judging me. Although she might disagree with things I do she never turns her back on me. In a lot of ways, I think of her as my conscience. She helps me make the best decisions by listening and being honest with me.
@nar8988 (409)
30 Dec 09
You are lucky to have a friend like that whom you can tell everthing that makes you feel better.
• Spain
30 Dec 09
Hiya nar, Well if that was me I would keep my "secret" very much to myself. It would never get out of my mouth. I saw People cheat in Class at School but I kept it a secret I never told anyone. I thought that they must have their reasons for doing it and although it is´nt right it is´nt that wrong either once in a while. Maybe the stress has gotten to them.
@nar8988 (409)
31 Dec 09
I also agree with you ,in school eeryone just told other's seret ,in college too ,I could hear ither's secret,that was really bad ,to reveal other's secret,so same here not reveal your secret to others.
• Spain
1 Jan 10
Hiya Nar, Yes we should honour Secrets as much as we can for me they are almost sacred of course this depends on the secret specially if it´s a secret that someone can use against another in a malicious way. When I say sacred I mean to say that wild horses would not drag the secret out of me and I know a few too believe me.
@sanuanu (11241)
• India
29 Dec 09
It depends how close the friend is to you. I would trust only my child hood friends. Even to him I hide some secrets. You can't trust anyone any one and anyone in this world! Anything can happen in tbis world!
@nar8988 (409)
29 Dec 09
yes no one can be perfect in this world,everyone has faults ,so we should be careful while telling our secrets.
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@sanuanu (11241)
• India
30 Dec 09
so do you have anyone with whom you share your secrets?
@warvial (1154)
• Singapore
29 Dec 09
I would say friend, not friends. Till now, my only close friend knows almost all of my secret, from the darkest moments to my happiest ones. Because I need someone to share with me their opinion, thus I always seek advice from her. From gossiping to chit chatting, I can share with her every thing and she can relate to it as she knows me well. But if you were to ask me if I can reveal all those friends, no, but if just friend, yes.
@nar8988 (409)
29 Dec 09
yes,if you have a friend for a long time then that means you really are good friends ,so you can bank on him.
@warvial (1154)
• Singapore
30 Dec 09
Yes, it's been like 10 years (I knew her from high school days) and although we met fewer times nowadays, somehow I can just feel the close connection with her whereas people whom I met nowadays, I seldom see myself opening up to them and I don't know why.
@apexiph (123)
• Malaysia
28 Dec 09
Hi. For me, I can't revealed any of my secret to anyone and not even my best friends. I only can revealed it to my mother. She is the only person that I trust in this world although that I'm building a trust between me and my wife. But it is still early because we've just got married for 7 years and it is consider still young and lack of experience. I trust my wife but there are something that you cannot share all with your wife. Let it be a secret for you..
• India
28 Dec 09
i also previously used to think that i can share my secrets with my friends then i realise that i was wrong as i saw many friendships getting broken and after it friends make fun of your secrets telling other people and harassing you that they would tell your secrets to everyone.It feels so bad hearing something bad about yourself from others due to old friends.
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@nar8988 (409)
28 Dec 09
Yes ,we must reveal our secret to our mother,u r good guy,Best of luck ,as no one had given priority to heir family while telling their secrets.
• India
28 Dec 09
I still haven't found a friend who is as worthy . will be delighted if one can find a person like that. If i put myself in the other persons shoes even then i think e am also not capable of holding other persons secrets and helping him.her.because like every other person i too have limitations. But i do agree sometimes it is best to share because it gives you an opportunity to offload but be careful of the choice of the person.
@nar8988 (409)
28 Dec 09
Yes it depend on us and everyone has limitations.As we ourselves can't keep the secret.
@nar8988 (409)
28 Dec 09
Frnd ,U are true most of our frnds made are just for gossiping and if it comes to some need they all move their way,Hope u find someone on whom u can rely and trust upon.
• India
1 Jan 10
Sure Ive friends to whom I'll say if I replace the original copies of the paper to get good marks my friend. But I won't say the same to my relatives my friend.
• India
2 Jan 10
ya its right we can say to our friend but we should never say to relative friends :)
@acer5540 (354)
• China
30 Dec 09
I think yes if he/she reveal me his/her secrets.Otherwise, i will not. As the saying goes,no friends forever and no enemy forever.Though you are friends, maybe a little disagree with make you two become enemies,and at that moment, it is very dangerous if he/she knows your secrets,maybe he/she will threat you... Though i don't want this things happen, i don't want my friends become my enemy, i decide not tell my secrets to friends.
@nar8988 (409)
30 Dec 09
Yes that's tre ,what will we do if he becomes our enemy,will certainly reveal all our secrets.
@bellis716 (4811)
• United States
30 Dec 09
One can still be close friends with someone but know when to keep certain things to themselves.
@nar8988 (409)
30 Dec 09
Yes ,you don't need to say all your secrets,keep something with you so that it re mains secret.
@jdyrj777 (6564)
• United States
30 Dec 09
I have found that the past is exactly that...the past. Leave it there unles it can be used ina good way.
@nar8988 (409)
30 Dec 09
yes ,past has to be left behind,future is there, enjoy it.
@ladygator (3469)
• United States
30 Dec 09
My best friend is one that I can tell anything to. I tell her everything, she knows everything about me and still I am her best friend.
@nar8988 (409)
30 Dec 09
you tell her everything ,that itself means she is your best friend and no need to use still ,she will always be your best friend.
@34momma (13920)
• United States
29 Dec 09
i have a great best friend. i can tell her everything and anything and i know that whatever i tell her she will keep it to yourself. she is the best lady ever and i love her dearly. we have been friends now for 15 year... wow i can't believe we have been friends that long. she really is a great lady and i am so honored to know she is my good friend.
@nar8988 (409)
29 Dec 09
I f you are having a good friend for a long time then you can definitely trust him.
@derek_a (10907)
29 Dec 09
Yes, I would say that some friends are people to whom you could reveal secrets, but not all. Some, no matter how they promise not to gossip about you, they just can't help themselves and the next thing you know all your business is being talked about by everybody. Personally, I find it best only to reveal a secret to a friend I can trust 100 per cent. - Derek
@nar8988 (409)
29 Dec 09
YES ,they usually intentionally make secret out in order to please others while gossiping.
• India
29 Dec 09
Never reveal all your secrets to your friends. A time may come when you will feel sorry for it.
@nar8988 (409)
29 Dec 09
Yes that has happened with me and you are correct.
@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
No, some secrets should be left unspoken. Too much honesty can be painful. Some people you trust can turn out to be your worst enemy. So for me I can only reveal my secret to God.
@nar8988 (409)
29 Dec 09
Yes ,you are correct,sometimes your best friends may become your worst enemy
@minx267 (5223)
• Hartford, Connecticut
29 Dec 09
Yes, I have a few friends that I consider to be my best friends. I can share secrets with them. But I have a few secrets I keep to myself, or there are some I can share with one friend but don't feel like I can share with the other.. so it is always good to have more than one good friend in which to confer. I am lucky to have 3 that I have had for decades (2 for 21 years and the other for 29)
@nar8988 (409)
29 Dec 09
Thats was really nice answer and one must apprciate it ,don't tell all your secrets..........keep someone for you and your family......
@karthi_88 (299)
• India
29 Dec 09
hi, friend is a person to whom we will share all the secrets. then only he\she is a friend.friends will plan together and only make mistakes only few are exceptional from that friend.if you cheat your friend then you are not much close to her\him yet.why to hide anything from friends,they are more valuable then our relatives.only very few relatives will be with us when we are in trouble.but all are friends will be with us when we are in such situation.don't hide anything from your friends. have a nice day:)
@nar8988 (409)
29 Dec 09
I have never said anything about relatives,but I have said about our family with which u can tell all ur truth,and in my view u totally said opposite of what others were saying ,you said all of the friends will be with us ,frnd remember only one or two maximum is possible.
@airakumar (1556)
• India
29 Dec 09
I love my best friend. I totally trust her and can do anything and same she does. True friendship is like sound health; the value of it is seldom known until it be lost. I believe a friend is someone whom you trust and respect to keep all your secrets properly intact without being spilled to other people. A friend is someone you can confide in when you have a very big problem that is too hard to bear. Surely part of the defining a best friend must be you trust them implicitly else why would you even consider them that? all friendships have a level of trust as part of the foundation that starts them in the first place.
@nar8988 (409)
29 Dec 09
FRnd ,I think you are really lucky to have a best friend ,with whom u can share your secrets ,keep your friendship forever and don't trust people like me who just spread rumors ,OK