On belly blatting in adult relationships
By TheRealDawn
@dawnald (85135)
Shingle Springs, California
September 7, 2010 10:44am CST
The on-his-way-to-being-ex-spouse is a belly blatter. He thinks it's being cute, it's being fun, whatever. For years, the belly blatt thing has annoyed me, probably because he keeps pushing in a "fun" way when I say NO. A friend of mine told me that was for kids, not something you do to a woman. Well, maybe that's it. Don't get me wrong, I can be very undignified when I'm being silly, but when I say no, it's no. If I don't like something, respect that. Don't give me the old "aw come on it's fun"...
Does anybody here think belly blatting has a place in adult relationships?
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25 responses
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
7 Sep 10
I must admit that I do some belly blatting myself! My kids seem to think it's funny. They've done their own versions themselves.
But I wouldn't dare do it in front of other adults. Not only do I think it's not funny for adults, I also think it is embarassing for me.
So kids yes! Adults no!
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@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
7 Sep 10
I'm afraid you have got to tell me what belly blatting is because I've no idea what that is!
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@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
7 Sep 10
I thought it was that but I just wanted to be sure. And, no, I wouldn't like it either if truth be known.
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@GardenGerty (157555)
• United States
7 Sep 10
I had to figure from context, then you explained. I do not care what it is, though, if it is not fun for both parties, it should stop. Now. I possibly would do it, once, in maybe a year, in the right context to hubby, but it certainly is not romantic. I do not think hubby does this to me. I do not recall it, so he must not. I think he would be afraid I would hurt him, a lot. He does not enjoy being hurt.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
7 Sep 10
It wouldn't hurt unless you forced the person. It's merely annoying.
@BarBaraPrz (45498)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
7 Sep 10
Perhaps you should explain what it is.
A reasonable retort to "aw c'mon, it's fun" would be "For you, maybe."
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@BarBaraPrz (45498)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
8 Sep 10
That's what I thought...
And again I say, "Fun for him, maybe."
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@aurorastorm (1131)
• United States
7 Sep 10
Okay I agree with you if you say no or you don't think something is funny, than regardless of who it is they should not continue to do it. That being said, I have no idea what belly blatting is or means, lol?
@BlueAngelRS (2899)
• Canada
7 Sep 10
I agree my question in that situations is does no not mean no to the person who won't let up I'm with you on the belly blatting and meaning lol...
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@Phaedra_Scythe (3325)
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7 Sep 10
Ah! Blowing raspberries. I do that to my cats' tummies. 
Anyone but my partner doing that to me would be a case of having to shout, "personal space!"
Anyone but my partner doing that to me would be a case of having to shout, "personal space!" 1 person likes this
@Phaedra_Scythe (3325)
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7 Sep 10
I'm a sucker for a fuzzy tummy. Quiet you, trouble! 
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@sconibear (8016)
• United States
7 Sep 10
Cats? Is THAT what the kids are calling it now days? 
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@primeaque86 (8105)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
I do not know dawny, I never experienced yet, but I guess when you are both on the mood to it, then there would be no trouble at all. Sometimes silly things is useful to maintening a good relationship with your love ones, there are really times that one of the couple should adjust things like that and like this to avoid trouble, and that is depending on the situation too. There are really times that your partner is on a serious state, and do not want to make silling things and preferred to be alone in some way.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Sep 10
And if one of you is NOT in the mood, the other should back off!
@sconibear (8016)
• United States
7 Sep 10
Belly = KIDS
A little further south = 
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@sconibear (8016)
• United States
7 Sep 10
Hey Irish..........you're in Texas aren't you? 
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@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
7 Sep 10
Do you mean blowing raspberries on the tummy? My husband does that to me. I can't really stand it.. I just hate the feeling. Normally he gets hurt whenever he tries it because I try so hard to push away and can't really control how hard I'm pushing or flailing my arms... sometimes he gets an elbow in the head.. I say it serves him right, lol.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
7 Sep 10
just stopped by to say hello. Am tranquilised. What happened to me was attempted to my next door neighbour last night. she heard it on the monitor in the children's room and she has just had another baby about 6 weeks ago. Two nights without much sleep so have no idea rally what you are on about. But if you say no then you have said no.
end of story. Your body is your body. Suppose it is something to do with your belly? I hate my belly - it used to look so nice even after four children now it is horrible. Don't like it at all. Don't let anyone try to make you do something with which you are not comfortable. Night night. Not quit night but I wish that it was and that I was at home asleep. Do tranquilisers make you odd? BP was very high but getting better today. Am I making sense.? I don't know. Bye Dawn.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
7 Sep 10
My gosh, what is going on in your neighborhood? How awful!
Yeah, blowing a raspberry on somebody's belly. Nope, I don't let him, and he complains like I'm the person with the problem.
Night night...
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
7 Sep 10
Rant all you need to, you were violated, and it's going to take some time to deal with the shock.
My first house was burglarized several times, never when we were home, thank goodness. But I did almost get myself in trouble for murder. My idiot husband thought that it was funny to leave the drawers all open, and the front door too, so I'd think we'd been robbed again. I walked into the house, thought there were robbers still inside, totally freaked out. He's lucky I let him live. 
How much worse the shock when you actually were there when you were robbed!
How much worse the shock when you actually were there when you were robbed!@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
7 Sep 10
@dawnie: told Mangement to use company that does polygraphs on all employees. Am @ Dawn: convinced that it is a security guard that to supposed to protect us. I live in a gated community.
@ Holly - I was robbed whilst asleep in my bed. I feel totally violated and can't stop crying even though I was not harmed. They are aiming at the vulnerable. My neighbour's partner was not there. We have been studied and appraised as victims. I don't think that appraised is the correct word but I can't think of another right now. Dr. says not to worry about the tears as it is shock. But it is embarrassing. the phone rings at work and I am on the other end sobbing. I am giving the gardeners their work to do and I am crying. They took so much money and I do not normally have much cash on me. They took equivalent to nearly US$1000. My daughter had given it to me to put on my credit card as I had paid for her to go to Rome with my credit card. She would not have had cash but the bank made a mistake and put the US$ into her JA account. So the school cash up with cash. All gone. I am crying now I just wish the tears would stop. I am a tough old bird and will get through this but to think that I was asleep in my bed..... They had removed all screws and loosened nails to my coolers around te house. Sorry to rant.
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@marguicha (215470)
• Chile
8 Sep 10
I read the explanation you gave (it was not in any dictionary) and NO, I wouldn´t like that.
I never had a man on it´s way to bacome an ex, but I do not like those things. Maybe they are the kind of play dad does to their 2 year old children (they will not accept it either efter a cetain age).
I don´t find that sexy nor arousing in ant way.
I think that through the years you have let R do a lot of things to you you did not like. He probably got the idea that he could do just anything.
Do no accept anything anymore, dawn. Not now, not ever, from noone.
Your friend
AN OL´ WITCH
) and NO, I wouldn´t like that.
I never had a man on it´s way to bacome an ex, but I do not like those things. Maybe they are the kind of play dad does to their 2 year old children (they will not accept it either efter a cetain age).
I don´t find that sexy nor arousing in ant way.
I think that through the years you have let R do a lot of things to you you did not like. He probably got the idea that he could do just anything.
Do no accept anything anymore, dawn. Not now, not ever, from noone.
Your friend
AN OL´ WITCH1 person likes this
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Sep 10
Last night I told him it was not OK to touch any more. This morning he was back at it...
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Sep 10
Dearra actually chewed him out the other day for thinking it was OK to pinch my butt. it was hilarious. I really don't want to put the kids in the middle though.
@marguicha (215470)
• Chile
8 Sep 10
Latch on the door. AND tell him that if he continues, you will talk with the kids (in front of him) to help. We had a very interesting session of Judge Judy when the kids were little. They are good judges and made us think on our behaviour.
AND tell him that if he continues, you will talk with the kids (in front of him) to help. We had a very interesting session of Judge Judy when the kids were little. They are good judges and made us think on our behaviour.1 person likes this
@much2say (53958)
• Los Angeles, California
7 Sep 10
I had to read everyone's comments to find out what that was - ha ha. Ohhh - ok, now I get it. Hmmmm . . . we used to do silly stuff like that (behind closed doors of course) but now we just do it to the kids (especially to the baby who likes it). My daughter does it to us sometimes. But these days I guess hubby and I don't do that sort of thing to each other - I don't know why - did we just grow out of it maybe? I know I have a squishy, flabby tummy (which baby sometimes squeezes when he's nursing - ha ha), so I don't know that I would enjoy it these days anyhow. Hubby has "grown" a belly himself, so I don't know that he'd like it too much either. If anything, if you say NO, that should mean NO!
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
7 Sep 10
Maybe I wouldn't have minded so much back in the good old days, but a certain person seems to have this sense of entitlement, and I practically have to whack him for him to understand that I'm serious about "no"...
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
7 Sep 10
Maybe I should. I DID whack him yesterday when he tried to pinch my butt...
Doggy, will it be fun??
@SViswan (12051)
• India
25 Jan 11
Ok...I'll have to say I don't know what belly blatting is. You'll need to enlighten me on that one.
But in a general way, if I say I don't like something, I do expect the person to respect it. It might be fun for them but not for me. For example, I might not enjoy being tickled everytime just as fun. Some others might like it...but I don't...so please stay away....and anyone who doesn't respect that is going to get kicked where they don't like it :P Don't blame me then!
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
25 Jan 11
You put your mouth on the other person's belly, and blow out in such a way as to make a rude noise. It tickles a little bit also...
@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Duh? If I'm 3 or 5 years old, that would be fun but since I am a normal adult woman, I don't that belly blatting is fun at all. My hubby used to do that to me and I told him to stop because its not sexy! We argued a bit about it but he finally stopped. Thank goodness!
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Sep 10
What is it about men and bely blatting anyway?
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Sep 10
Put mouth on bare belly, blow and make farting noise....
@devijay78 (1573)
• India
7 Sep 10
That is the most undignified thing a person can do to a woman. At least that is how I feel. I would not feel comfortable with that at all! It is fun if done to kids, not grown ups, especially women.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
7 Sep 10
And it's especially not comfortable coming from somebody I'm in the middle of divorcing!!!
@devijay78 (1573)
• India
7 Sep 10
God, it should be so annoying for you. How do you deal with it anyway?
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