opening to love

@savypat (20248)
United States
October 10, 2011 1:58pm CST
Many of us are not open to love, we have been hurt so much in the past that we close off our emotions. What we do not realize is that true love, is selfless, we give it as a gift and expect no return and we should accept it that way also. If you feel that you will never be able to trust love again take a good hard look at what you referred to as love. Wasn't it the emotion that you gave to another and the hurt came when you didn't not receive it back? I know that's what I was giving it was only after much pain on my part that I realized that love from the heart needed no response from the person I gave it to, it was enough for me to just give it. After I realized this and gave, the love came pouring into me and from very unexpected places. This takes some work and alot of thought to understand what your gift should be, prayer helps also, but once you catch on your life will shine.
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@stary1 (6622)
• United States
10 Oct 11
What nice thoughts I believe there is a lot of truth in what you say. This applies to many different types of relationships. Sometimes we have to keep loving someone and not give up on them while they are trying to find their own way. This can be especially true about our kids. Our friends and relatives sometimes do not reciprocate as we would like and of course this is also true about romantic love. Good topic to encourage thinking
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11 Oct 11
It is so difficult to carrying on loving someone when they don't seem to care about you. We must do it, though, because, as Pat says, love is a gift, and it can't be taken back, and we shouldn't expect any reward for it either. It's one of the lessons I need reminding of at the moment.
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
11 Oct 11
Hi savypat, You have definitely got the right idea here. True love is unconditional and once we learn that everything changes. In the same sense when we learn to give of what we have , not for selfish reasons, but because we care, we are suddenly overwhelmed by more than we can ever want or need. Blessings.
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@jennybianca (12918)
• Australia
11 Oct 11
I don't know. I gave a lot of love to my ex, and it was not returned. It was not enough for me to give love, and not have it returned. for that reason, and for the domestic viloence I suffered, I kicked him out of my life. I am now loking for love, and quite prepared to give a lot of love from my heart, but of course I need to meet a man who is willing to receive my love.
@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
11 Oct 11
Love that hurts is not love at all. I've come across this phrase somewhere 'Tears of love do not cause sorrow, they become pearls'. The giving of love and mercy to others is also a form of charity. It is universal and has no limits.
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@nezavisima (7419)
• Bulgaria
10 Oct 11
although almost always hurts us in love and can not overlook the pain and the feeling. I know that everyone has such love and pain. but we must never close our hearts to the love we should be asking more and more because love is wonderful and nice. and that any exam that love knows what it feels like even though then can not hurt us but as they say that's life and we can not change these things. nice day!
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@dorannmwin (36697)
• United States
13 Oct 11
Oh, I will definitely say that there was a time in my life that I would have said that I was not open to love because a person that I'd had a relationship with turned out to not at all be the person that I thought that they were. I actually said at that point in time, that I would never love anyone again. Well, then I got an email from the man that is now my husband and I knew that I would have to take a chance again in my life. I would definitely have to say that it was the best thing that I've ever done.
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• India
11 Oct 11
Love is one beautiful thing and it should be with one person for your life time. Heart should meet heart and make more love eachother..
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@didi13 (2927)
• Romania
11 Oct 11
The same belief, I am myself. And because they live as you feel, because I believe in love more than anything else, give all the chances of any relationship in which love is the main binder. And if it is to be in this life will be somewhere, sometime. Sadly, only when misjudged, chaotic lives taken away from us our spiritual beliefs, our minds and our dark desolate soul. There will come a time, often too late, you can not do anything. And saddened, we drifted roads not being able to understand life in misery that we catch them without straps let us take our destiny in the end. Certainly, we always look for other culprits for our inability to follow our love. Who loves not let love get lost, that is the winner in front of life, and that you truly know happiness on this earth.
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• Philippines
11 Oct 11
When you love someone, you should not expect something in return. Love is an emotion that needs to be given freely.
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@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
11 Oct 11
Hi savypat! What you have said is all true! I am not closing my heart after the heartbreak I had. I am not just committing in any relationship right now since I know that I don't to find love. According to a book that I read, love will find its way to my heart when the right time has come! :)
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@ralphs (209)
• Philippines
11 Oct 11
you know love for me is an inspiration for my life. sometimes it gives us pain in both parties . just wait for your true love it comes in mysterious ways or anytime anywhere any moment . so pray hard it works . thank you .
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• United States
11 Oct 11
I dont no feel where your comimg from and i feel your right.. I feel at the same time that when you find the right person you & u that person just fit it flows no matter if you have been hurt or not i feel that it can be hard to trust after multiple situations of Hurt and pain i have been threw it b4 and i have gone threw the ups and downs and the ends and outs but deep down theres still that little something inside that believes at the same time i just have to choose wisely who i let close to me & who i want to share my love with thats the ups of being hurt & going threw the pain when its all over you no what to be careful of for the future. And when it comes to children is a whole different ball game child are more delicate they hurt alot more easy so if there your own & they dont have love they will never love, but if there foster children then yea is going be a challaging but is just a matter of trust.. Once theres trust all will be good..
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@bagarad (7917)
• Paso Robles, California
11 Oct 11
Trying to love some people is like trying to pour water into a jar that has its lid fastened on tightly. My adopted daughter was one of those. She had never learned to love and had never really been given any love, except possibly from her younger brother. Her father had molested her and her mother had abandoned her, promising to come get her when the financial situation worked itself out, but she never did. We knew when we adopted her this could be a problem, but we had to try, knowing that our love might not be returned. It wasn't. It was more important to Sarah that she be in total control of her life -- something no one really can be. Her final attempt to take control was to kill herself 14 years after she had totally shut us out. Yet she still trusted we would honor her request to be buried beside her brother -- the only one whose love she chose to accept. She may not have realized or cared that it would cost over $6,000 to ship her back to California and pay the expenses necessary to grant here request. Our love was unconditional, but that doesn't mean you aren't sad when someone is not able to love you back. All love yearns to see a response from the loved one. But real love does not stop loving when love is not returned. It still wants to give and meet the basic needs of that loved one. The one you love can still choose to shut you out of her life.