The difference in a mom and a meemee is just one day.
By JenInTN
@JenInTN (27514)
United States
December 18, 2011 6:41am CST
What a month. Sooo...I found out why my daughter moved out so fast. I have known now for a couple of weeks but to be honest it has taken me just a bit to gather myself after the news. Life continues no matter what we face and there is no easy answers sometimes to our questions. I have been to the doctor with her now and saw what, at this point, looks like a little peanut. I am going to be a meemee. Omg. I went out to eat with her b/f and parents last night..praying all the while I would be good company as my youngest daughter holds my hand tightly under the table. Wow..the difference in being a mom and a meemee boils down to one day. One day your a mom...the next your a meemee. I have to say that I am freaking out a bit but I think I have control. I was at the store the other day and wandered over into the baby section. There were diapers and baby wipes on sale so I picked up a few for my closet.
Have you ever had your role change so quickly? Have you ever thought it would? I know I will always be a mom too but wow..a meemee!
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20 responses
@Shar19 (8231)
• United States
18 Dec 11
I'm sure this has taken you by surprise. It's alright to take the time and gather your thoughts over a situation like this. I am glad that your daughter isn't hiding her pregnancy from you anymore. I'm sure she was afraid to tell you. Although it will be a tough time it is also a blessing. Everything happens for a reason right? So congratulations, you're going to be a wonderful meemee.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
19 Dec 11
Hey Shar! Yes..quite a unexpected surprise. I still wish she would just move back in..lol. I am glad that it is out in the open now too. I look at it as though some of the unplanned things in life are the best things. I wasn't seeing it like that at first though.
Thanks for responding and take care.
Thanks for responding and take care.
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
18 Dec 11
Dear friend,
That really something special to enjoy....the joy is speechless....Moreover I feel now you would among one of those happiest persons on the earth. There is lot more to do that cute little baby my Ommmma.. to sweet little cutte... I do not know whether the joy went out of control, still the days are more sweeter to come...
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
28 Dec 11
Gosh Jen, now that's what I call a drastic move. I guess I should offer belated congratulations to you and your family. It sounds as though she is growing up quickly by encouraging family unity and support, this is a brave and very sensible move and it's really nice to see. Had you met his parents prior to this? Do you like him? Them? Do you all get along?
I hope everything goes really well.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
29 Dec 11
No...it was my first meeting with them. We are getting along but I am having a tough time liking him..lol. It has happened very fast and I have had concerns with his behavior in the past. He's not really comforting me very much with his current behavior either other than being excited about the baby..that is good. I am trying to tell myself that it is just that he is young and has never had much responsibility. He is an only child and a bit spoiled. Quite lazy too but the thing I keep telling myself is that he might grow up into a wonderful man...at least I am hoping so. I was young too and I remember that it takes time. I want Kimber, my daughter, to be happy and I want to be a part of her life. I am trying to handle it the way I would have wanted a mother too. I am still painfully honest at times but I wouldn't be me if I wasn't. I am trying to be good though.
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@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
19 Dec 11
It is a shock to the system isn't it? It is never expected and we are never ready no matter when it happens. Meemee huh? People have so many different names for it. So you think she moved out because she planned to get pregnant, already was or what? You will find that grandma love is very warm and good.
@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Dec 11
That was bad. haha na na or mee mee or pee pee whatever it may be I bet there will be alot of love. Just wait until that first grand baby pops out. I held my last one from early afternoon til 11p. that night barely letting lose for someone else to hold him or for him to be fed.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
19 Dec 11
She was pregnant already. She told me because she had taken the insurance card and went to the doctor. I would have got a couple of EOB's in the mail and she was trying to beat them. It was a shock. I love that little peanut already but it wasn't easy for the first little bit.
I have been Mee mee since the girls were little...lol...it started out as a joke when I would tell them "Mee mee had a plan to spoil their children rotten when they grew up as a lesson for their misbehavior or whatever the case was at the time. It only seems fit that I am mee mee now. One of my grandmothers insisted on NaNa. There are a lot of names for a grandmother...maybe my b/f can be a pee pee
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Dec 11
The movie 'the wedding date' was showing on TV the other night. While I was channel surfing (or channel flipping!
), I saw the scene in the movie where the guy was talking to Debra Messing's (character's) dad. He was talking about the time when his first kid was born, and how it changed his life. How it changed his role, that it was the time that he became a dad.
It was exactly the same feeling I had when my son was born!
I think this feelings you have is similar. I just hope that my role wouldn't have to change for another 10 years at least.
), I saw the scene in the movie where the guy was talking to Debra Messing's (character's) dad. He was talking about the time when his first kid was born, and how it changed his life. How it changed his role, that it was the time that he became a dad.
It was exactly the same feeling I had when my son was born!
I think this feelings you have is similar. I just hope that my role wouldn't have to change for another 10 years at least.@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
23 Dec 11
You and that flipping
I was kind of hoping for a couple of more years too...lol...not exactly the plan but I guess some of the best things in our lives aren't planned. I was at the doctor with her the other day and she went to the bathroom...the nurse came and told me to step up on the scale. I said oh no...not me. Her b/f was red as a tomato. Gotta a good laugh out of that one.
I was kind of hoping for a couple of more years too...lol...not exactly the plan but I guess some of the best things in our lives aren't planned. I was at the doctor with her the other day and she went to the bathroom...the nurse came and told me to step up on the scale. I said oh no...not me. Her b/f was red as a tomato. Gotta a good laugh out of that one.1 person likes this
@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
18 Dec 11
hi dear Jen thats wonderful news. I hope your daughters bf and his parents are happy as well snd dont give her problems but do everything so she feels cared for and loved.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
18 Dec 11
They seem happy with it. He is an only child. If they give anyone a hard time, it better be him and not her. The one thing they don't want is a disgruntled meemmee on their doorstep. I have actually still tried to get her to come home. I am worried by her living arrangements right now and I guess it will just take me some time.
Thanks for responding!
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
18 Dec 11
You have me concerned here...Jen!
@RitterSport; my gosh, my dear friend...it has been so long since I have seen you here sharing your kind heart. I truly hope that it is busy..as I know you only get weekends here..but you are missed!@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
24 Dec 11
oh dear pergammano hope you have a great Christmas.
My husband has done a bit on that place here these days and sadly our cheap artificial Christmas Tree broke. So we are without one this Christmas but I told him we should get a better one for next year.
He was disappointed yesterday cause of it but I said the most important thing is we sit here in peace and quiet no family and no stress. LOL
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
24 Dec 11
Wow!! Your daughter is expecting, and this was the first time you knew. I would be a little shocked, and that if this was me, and maybe a little upset, but your daughter does need to learn to live her own life if she is about to become a parent. This is exciting News for you, as this is a Big time in your life. Just remember no matter what even if your daughter may not always act like it now, she needs you around and your support so just enjoy and this will be a learning time for all.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
24 Dec 11
It certainly wasn't in "the plan" and it is tough when things aren't. On top of the moving out...well...breakdown status might have described me best. I have it together now though...I think.
I guess that all relationships evolve in one way or another and I have to remind myself that life's surprises are sometimes the biggest blessings.
Thanks for responding!
I guess that all relationships evolve in one way or another and I have to remind myself that life's surprises are sometimes the biggest blessings.
Thanks for responding!
@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
19 Dec 11
you will do well, and you will support your daughter in being the best mom she can be as well. I cannot say that my life ever changed quite that quickly.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
18 Dec 11
well I turned a Grandma way before I wanted too lolol
My youngest boy made me one 26 or 27 years ago, I was mad as heck and the marrage didnt last long for the girl slept around and has been apain all these years to my son and she is surpose to be out of his life oh well
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
19 Dec 11
Thanks you Ambiepam! I will be 39 when the baby is born. When I went to the doctor with her the other day, her b/f and me was waiting at the scales while she went to the bathroom. The nurse came around the corner and said...ok...get on the scales so we can get your weight...I said OH no...not me...lol. The b/f was red...LOL.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
18 Dec 11
Mom! You had this lovely girl but unless she is like me, someday she Was going to have a baby! It took longer than a day! She has a good head on her shoulders and it will be ok. Congrats!
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
19 Dec 11
What are friends for? Oh! She changed her mind. Ok! When you can, give her hug for me.
Oh! She changed her mind. Ok! When you can, give her hug for me.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
18 Dec 11
Conraulatios, Jenn. I know it is a shock to u, been there done that but u will see the baby will be such a blessing to u. Look how i feel about ryan but was quite upset when i heard he was on the way. Support her & the baby Jenn. she will never forget u did & u will never be sorry u did. love ya!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
7 Jan 12
GOOD MORNING JENN, Thanks for the best response. Hope u have a great weekend.
@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
26 Dec 11
CONGRATULATIONS!!! 
My Mom always said that the difference in being a Mom & a Meemee is that a Meemee gets to spoil the grandchild because it's the Mom's problem as to how to teach the child to behave. She drove my brother & sister-in-law crazy!!! What a wonderful Christmas present you have been given!!! 
My Mom always said that the difference in being a Mom & a Meemee is that a Meemee gets to spoil the grandchild because it's the Mom's problem as to how to teach the child to behave. She drove my brother & sister-in-law crazy!!! What a wonderful Christmas present you have been given!!! 1 person likes this
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
26 Dec 11
Thank you...I am getting excited about a teeny little baby. It has been 13 years since I have had a little one around. I used to tell the girls that Meemee was going to spoil their children rotten and then send them home with warnings that they had better take care of Meemee's babies
@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
20 Dec 11
Things can change quickly and I have had my share of quick changes. Make the best of it, do your best and I hope it all works out for the best. We are constantly reacting to what life throws at us. You have been thrown a little bundle of joy. Enjoy!
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@idowrite72 (2213)
• United States
18 Dec 11
My oldest was just 17 when she told me she was pregnant........a grandmother at 41! It was a shock, but I went out and bought my daughter a big bank and myself a rocking chair!! There was NO meeting the parents of the father, since she wasn't even sure until the paternity tests later on. Believe it or not, she had 2 "fathers" in the delivery room!! One who assisted with the breathing, that I had gone to lamaze classes with her to learn, and the other who sat on the window sill with his arms crossed like he owned the place. (the "sill sitter" is the father but a few years later signed away his paternity rights) She was the first of 10 grandchildren born to me, and I have two step-grandchildren. Each is as special as the other and they have brought such joy. A big change, but you will find that it is a wonderful change to go through. Enjoy and good luck !
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
19 Dec 11
I am going to be almost 40 when the baby is born. I was 21 when I had Kimber and it seems like yesterday. It has taken me a bit to wrap my mind around it..you know we had so much planned before she moved. I know it is still possible but it is hard when you have a child to care for. I am excited but nervous at the same time.
Thanks for responding!
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
21 Dec 11
You've got 9 months before the little one comes. So grandma is meemee there.
It's grandma if one side is English and mememere if the other side is French here. Although we do have a guma here and she started a restaurant using the name her grandkid called her.
Ask a person diagnosed with late stage cancer how fast your life changes. At least yours is a happy change.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
22 Dec 11
Granny and nana, I've heard. The otheresare news to me.
Sorry, I was having a bad moment. Here's hoping next year is better than last year.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
22 Dec 11
Well...I will be the only Meemee in the area that I know of...lol...just something I came up when the girls were little as a joke really. They are usually mamaws or grannys. There are grandma's too and one of my grandmothers insisted I call her NaNa. My youngest daughter called her grandmother meemaw because she wasn't pronouncing the mamaw right...maybe I got the Mee part from that.
I remember that change for you and it literally turned my heart inside out. I hope that things are going well for you...I know you were trying some alternative treatments.
Thanks for responding.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Dec 11
and so young to. yes, i was like you. when my oldest son, the one i live with now was only 17yrs. and i was only 34yrs, cause i had him at 17yrs, his gf's mom came and told me that my son was going to be a dad and she was trying to talk her daughter out of aborting. i didnt want to believe it. not my first baby boy! but anyway, he wanted it and we talked them into marriage and he entered the navy to support them. 
grand daughter is A grown girl now of 30yrs. so happy for you. @wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
18 Dec 11
Life changes quickly sometimes.
Hopefully, your daughter's boyfriend will make for a good father. Do they plan to wed before the baby arrives?
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
19 Dec 11
I'm not sure at this point what their wedding plans are. I know it is traditional to wed but I am not sure that it would be for the best at this point. I am not sure about him. If she decides to wed, I will be supportive. If not, I will support her then too. I have trust issues with the father and I don't want her to end up in a worse place if that makes sense.
Thanks for the response.
@Orson_Kart (6114)
• United Kingdom
29 Dec 11
I have never heard the word "meemee" before. 
Is it for people who don't want to be called a grandmother? You certainly don't look old enough yet, but congratulations. 
I wouldn't be looking at the diapers with much glee, but babies are wonderful and bring us much joy.....once the sleepless nights are over. 
Is it for people who don't want to be called a grandmother? You certainly don't look old enough yet, but congratulations.
I wouldn't be looking at the diapers with much glee, but babies are wonderful and bring us much joy.....once the sleepless nights are over. @JenInTN (27514)
• United States
30 Dec 11
Nah...I wouldn't mind grandmother but I used to kid with my girls when they were little and they misbehaved by telling them Meemee had a plan. Meemee was going to spoil their children and they would have to pay the price. It only seems right that I would be one now. I guess it is just something original. I haven't heard it before either. My youngest used to call her grandmother "Meemaw" and I guess I just tweaked it a little. It sounded so cute when she would say it.