Gay Caregivers....who cares?

@missybear (11396)
United States
January 20, 2012 6:43pm CST
If you're loved one was in a Nursing home,Hospice or Hospital would you care if the caregiver was gay or a lesbian? If say your dad was sick would you refuse the assistance of a gay CNA {Certified Nurses Assistant}or if it was your mom or wife would you mind if the CNA was a lesbian? I myself wouldn't care what your sexuality was if you would take care of my loved one as long as you treat them with loving care. No matter what your sexuality is when you get to work you should leave it at home and do your job. You think?
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
21 Jan 12
Hi Missybear, If someone I loved was in a hospice or hospital, I would care very much about the quality of the care they were being given. It would not even occur to me to think about the caregivers sexuality. It's irrevelant and I am not sure I'd even notice one way or another if he/she were gay. There is a male nurse that works for the doctor that my 17 yr old goes to. I know he is gay because I know him other than in the clinic. He's very professional and seems to do a good job...he must as he's been there for years. I don't see a connection between health care and ones sexuality.
@missybear (11396)
• United States
21 Jan 12
Some people might feel uncomfortable if their loved one would be bathed by a gay or lesbian
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
21 Jan 12
Oh I'm sure that is true. And the thing with that is that some assume that someone is gay and they could be totally wrong. Unless they really know the person then they are making a guess based on how the person presents themselves. I know men that come across as a bit feminine. They have a very strong feminine side to their personality. They get accused of being gay and they really aren't. I know men also who you would NEVER even suspect are gay but they are. I guess if a person is uncomfortable with the caregiver and they are the one footing the bill then it doesn't matter if their thinking is right or wrong. It's important to trust and be comfortable that your loved one is recieving the best care. If a person isn't comfortable with a doctor or nurse for whatever reason, then they should seek somene else. Right or wrong doesn't factor in on this one either.
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@anne25penn (3310)
• Philippines
21 Jan 12
I think it will really depend on what a person believes in for them to refuse the help or aid of gay medical professionals. It is unfair for them to be judged just because of their sexuality because like everyone else, they have worked hard to earn their titles or practice of profession. I have never come across my mother refusing the aid or care of someone just because of their sexuality when she was still alive and having chemotherapy sessions. She was actually more amused with one gay nurse because he was always sunny and cheerful.
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@missybear (11396)
• United States
21 Jan 12
That's how most of the gays are and I just love it when they all cute and fuzzy
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• Philippines
21 Jan 12
i dont care who they are as long as they can take care of my love one then why not though as long as they are just there for job sake and once they step into limit then i will kick their butt out. we cant judge people just by their gender, sometimes they are more true and real than some straight guys.
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@missybear (11396)
• United States
21 Jan 12
Actually my gay friend is everybody's favorite person at work and we all love him, he's a great CNA too
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• Philippines
21 Jan 12
A person's gender is not a criteria for his/her work. Ones gender shouldn't be the reason why he can't perform a certain task. Every one has the right to care of others.
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@missybear (11396)
• United States
21 Jan 12
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@Galena (9123)
21 Jan 12
ah, but this isn't about their gender. it's about their sexuality. which is of course, also irrelevant to the job
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@much2say (40138)
• United States
21 Jan 12
I definitely wouldn't care! A professional is supposed to be a professional . . . as long as they are doing their job as anyone should be doing, their sexuality is not an issue. In most cases, you would probably never know anyway (unless they tell you).
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@missybear (11396)
• United States
21 Jan 12
Right, and straight people are not always the greatest either
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@Hatley (164485)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Jan 12
tell me about it. I needed help to go to the restroom as a patient and the straight RN stuck up her nose, and called an aide whom I knew was gay, the gay aide not only helped me to the bathroom but waited outside the door to help me back to my bed. I was in for a twisted knee and had to hobble on one leg so needed help. the male gay orderly was helpful and just did his job. the straight RN was not to be bothered with such inane jobs as helping someone to the bathroom after all she had a degree. ugh ugh. when one has to go, time is of the essence
@vandana7 (67604)
• India
21 Jan 12
Religion, sexuality, political/caste thoughts, and monetary plans should be left in the four walls before venturing out for the world to be peaceful and happy place.
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@missybear (11396)
• United States
21 Jan 12
Wow...you said it all
@Galena (9123)
21 Jan 12
wouldn't bother me in the slightest, and there's no reason why it should. they are professionals doing a job.
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@missybear (11396)
• United States
21 Jan 12
And it shouldn't...good for you
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
21 Jan 12
It would not matter to me. The only requirement I would have under either of those situations would be that they were professional and kind. What they do at home is their own business.
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@missybear (11396)
• United States
21 Jan 12
it shouldn't be anybody's business unless it interferes with work
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@asliah (11148)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
hi, for me,i think the gender is regardless in a caregiver because not the gender will help or work but the care we can give to someone is the most important,that situation is a discrimination again for LGBT.
@missybear (11396)
• United States
24 Sep 12
@emdjay23 (1575)
• Philippines
21 Jan 12
It doesn't matter what the person's sexuality is.. the most important thing to consider is that if that particular person gives enough care to someone. if they are a lesbian/ gay it doesn't matter as long as they do their job right and according to the rules of the hospice..
@missybear (11396)
• United States
22 Jan 12
Amen to that
@dheckerz (473)
• Philippines
21 Jan 12
I won't bother, as long as the nursing aide will do his/her job accordingly. Also, the patients opinion will also matter. They may not want it which would make them more weary, so we also have to consider their reactions.
@missybear (11396)
• United States
21 Jan 12
You are right..we have patients that don't want a male ore female aid, then we all have to reajust
@Hatley (164485)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Jan 12
hi like Mike I have to say this a caregivers sexuality is really none of our business unless he or she is not doing their jobs right, If I had a loved one who had a gay caretaker It would not bother me one bit.I worked as a nurse's aide many years ago and one male orderly was gay but all the patients commented on how kind he was to them, and helpful , and very courteous. He treate3d the male patients as patients, nothing more and did his job well. I liked working with him as he helped me with large patients and noone even knew he was gay or if they did they did not care as he never came on to any male at all. He was helpful and you could depend on him if a job needed two\ people to care for some very large person,male or female.
@missybear (11396)
• United States
21 Jan 12
As long as you and your loved 1 feel save and comfortably with everything..more power to you