Facebook Password known By Your BoyFriend / GirlFriend

Indonesia
March 22, 2012 8:56pm CST
I see a few of my friend usually hold they boyfriend or girlfriend facebook password. They are usually check their partner facebook inbox, to see if he/she made a flirt with other people. I think it is a strange trend, since you will loose privacy because of this. And the worst thing that happened is when they are break up. One of the usually hack the other account by making stupid status, deleting friend, upload embarrasing photos or even kill the account. I see this a few times already. What do you think about this kind of behavior? Do you know your partner facebook password or your partner know your? Share your opinion with us friend.
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19 responses
• Philippines
23 Mar 12
yes, i also know my brother use to share his facebook password to her girlfriend. so i could not message her as somebody b!tch is reading it. so i lost fond of messaging him. i told him to leave some privacy to his self and do not brainwash by his b!tch girlfriend. i dislike his girlfriend so much, because she does not befriend me, or meet my parents and the worst still have to come as they are planning to get married and we had not meet his girlfriend yet. she is full of pride and does not even have the initiative or interest to know any of his boyfriend relatives. she is very insecure. if ever i have a boyfriend for the sake of respect and privacy, i would not control his behavior and would not feel insecure with his facebook account so long i trust him and so he is does the same for me. giving your facebook password is like losing your privacy.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
23 Mar 12
That's really a great point. I would not want to send a message discussing something very private to a person whom I knew shared their privacy with someone else. I'd be very guarded in what I say..probably wouldnt bother.
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• Indonesia
24 Mar 12
Yes sid556, that really also a part of why we shouldn't bother to send private message to people who shared their password to other person. Is to much risk doing that, especially if the message is something really private and personal. Thanks for replying here my friend.
• Indonesia
23 Mar 12
Well this is also the cases where we need the privacy. Thanks for sharing this to us fantasticbabe. Although the facebook owner doesn't need any privacy, but their friend who send message to them need the privacy. If you sent a message to a friend about your personal problem, you sure don't want your girlfriend friend to read it. It kill the privacy of all your facebook friend.
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• United States
23 Mar 12
Well I don't know if I had a boyfriend I would let them have it but my hubby has mine and I his. Neither of us are the sort of people to do those nasty things to people. In fact both of us are still friends with several exes. We do not see the point in causing enemies I mean we did care about these people even if it didn't work out. I also think those sort of people are not only mean but immature.
• Philippines
23 Mar 12
Hello Optionatedlady, Nobody knows my facebook password, i do know my moms though because if anything goes we would find a way to fix it. but i think the password should change in case of a break up happens. having some one else knows you're Facebook password is really something that can creeps you out though
• United States
23 Mar 12
To be truthful I change mine once a month just to be safe anyway. I was hacked once (by a stranger) and had a bunch of nasty stuff posted. So I guess it wouldn't matter since it would be changed pretty quickly anyway.
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• Indonesia
23 Mar 12
@opinionlatedlady : Well if you are married, maybe it doesn't matter anyway since the chance of you getting break up is low, but in a relationship without married, the chance of break up it's still high. Changing a password regularly is a right thing to do. Anyway, can you tell us what that stranger do to your facebook account.
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@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
23 Mar 12
We don't know each others' facebook passwords but because we can go on each others' phones, he can see everything on my facebook and I can see everything on his. We aren't very concerned about it. We also check each others' emails and things. We trust each other and aren't too concerned about things being private from each other.
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• Indonesia
23 Mar 12
Well having facebook password is a different thing then having access trough each other smart phones. When your relationship suffer from problem, or worse, break up happened, i am sure you will not able to use the facebook account trough each other phones. So you will be safe from account manipulation.
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
23 Mar 12
I would only share my password if that person is my married to me. Not just a boy or girl friend. Also there would need to be a very good reason for them to know my pass and being jealous is not good enough for me. If they want to demand it, they would become my ex.
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• Indonesia
23 Mar 12
Oh i see, well yes, if you are married, it most likely you already trust each other. I also often found husband and wife using a single facebook account, although i think it is not practical to do that, but it is exist, and i rarely see problem happened because of that.
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• Philippines
23 Mar 12
I don't mind sharing my password to trusted people. I don't have secrets to hide or i don't have anything special on my facebook account to hide so it's fine with me to share my password with my partner.
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• Indonesia
23 Mar 12
Well every body have their own view about this. The problem is, it is not a secret that you hide, but it locate when your relationship with your partner getting bad. You might think chat with a male friend is okay, but when your boyfriend whose at that time is mad at you, seeing your inbox, chat with a male, might make him jealous ( even though there is nothing to be jealous of ). It is often happened to my friend. But the decision is off course yours to make.
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@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
23 Mar 12
My girlfriend and I do know the facebook password of one another. I personally don't mind if she check on my inbox etc as I love her and I don't have anything to hide from her. Privacy only happens when I have an affair or private/intimate chat with girls which I'll never do any of those. So I don't see any problem in my case. However, breaking up does make people irrational so you'll definitely risk your facebook stuff being messed with.
• Indonesia
23 Mar 12
Yes, if you really trusted her, then it is good. But make sure, if you start having problem, to quickly change your account password ( off course i don't mean i hope your relationship will have problem ). It will save you some problem. I agree with you, breaking really make people think and act irrational.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
23 Mar 12
Hi Lordcacao, I think I'm on the same page with you on this one. I don't think it is a good idea. I have 4 daughters and I've seen them do this same thing...share passwords, bank accounts etc. It usually doesn't work out well. Trust is a very important aspect of a relationship and in my opinion, if one feels the need to check up on the other then that signifies a lack of trust which should raise a big red flag. When I was married, we didn't have internet but I had friends who used to go through their husbands wallets and check up on them etc. To me, it just seemed such an invasion of personal privacy. In 13 yrs of marriage, I can honestly say that I never once searched my husband's wallet or anything. My daughters could leave their Journals or diaries right out on the kitchen table and I would never ever open them and they knew that which is probably why they often forgot to put them away.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
24 Mar 12
Great story and one of my favorites and one that I used to tell to all of my kids.
• Indonesia
24 Mar 12
Hi too Mrs sid556. Thanks for being in the same page with me. I congratulate you for having such a wonderful and trusting marriage for over 13 years. Also congratulation for having 4 daughters, it seem you have a very happy family. I hope with your comment here, people will know how important trust is to your family and your husband / wife.
• Indonesia
24 Mar 12
oh i see, well it's good to hear that. It seems you completely loose trust to your ex husband. Well it cannot be helped though. When some one lied to you, again and again, it is really hard to trust that person again. I just end up remember the story of the kid who yelled wolf.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
23 Mar 12
I know my exes password and he knows mine. Well neither of us have tried to get into the others account, I wouldn't dream of it. He may have even changd his, and I would not know because as I said I have not tried to get onto his account. He has gotten onto mine once because I asked him to change something for me when I could not change it for myself (didn't know how). I do think that it's okay to share passwords BUT that one must fully trust the other.
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
23 Mar 12
i think its the privacy so even we had couple, its privacy for our couple we trust him or her. if we want to know their pasword of FB, i think it seems we did not trust him or her..right?
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
25 Mar 12
yeah...nothing can guarantee that your current bf or gf will be become your husband or your wife.. right?? iam happy you come back.. i do hope you can be active here again
• Indonesia
23 Mar 12
Yes right mr adhyz82. By the way, i am back. It's been a while since the last time i played my lot. The trust issue also seem to be your conclusion, and off course i am agree with you. If you cannot trust your boy friend or girlfriend, you shouldn't be in a relationship at all.
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• Indonesia
26 Mar 12
Well yes, glad to be back. And yes again, there is no guarantee that the relationship can last until marriage. if you have trust issue, usually it will end up badly. After the broken up, the password will become a weapon to the ex partner. Thanks for your respond.
@tatzkie23 (770)
• Philippines
23 Mar 12
I know my husbands password, but he doesn't know mine. LOL. I think that that both sides should talk about sharing there passwords. And yes you are right, sometimes this may cause problem when they break up. They'll start getting paranoid to each other and the trust they built is gone.
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• Indonesia
24 Mar 12
LOL, well i don't really see many problem with married couples. Since it is hard for them to separated and since most people will be careful of sending jokes message about flirt and stuff like that. And it is true, holding some one password will be like holding a sword when you and the one who had password fight.
@nyang1984 (464)
• Philippines
23 Mar 12
my partner and i both share our passwords. even when we're still boyfriend and girlfriend. and i'm pretty sure he won't do such thing to ruin our relationship.
• Indonesia
23 Mar 12
Well congratulation then for your trust to your partner do not let down you. If that the case then i think it is okay for you to share it with him. You might be a few one who share a facebook password to the partner, and the partner not even peek at it. Thanks for your comment my friend.
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• Philippines
23 Mar 12
Yes...Thats what i observed...they can open it both...i able to know form my friend here..She knows the account of her bf..so she can monitor her bf whats going on in his account which is not so good esp. when they separated..
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• Indonesia
24 Mar 12
thanks for the comment thelmadacullo112659, but i couldn't really understand fully about what you trying to say. My english is not that good since it is not my main language. What can i conclude is, your friend know her boy friend password and she can monitor her boyfriend activation in facebook. And you think that is not good, especially if they got separated later.
@TheIzers (680)
23 Mar 12
Well back then we didn't have facebook only email account and my ex-bf he wanted to have my password to my email. We was very possessive and I did not want him to think I had a secret lover so I gave my password to him and guess what, he read my email even email my friends who didn't even know asking any detail about my relationship with them and tell them that he was my boyfriend. My relationship didn't last long because his character who was very possessive and his trust issue so I ended up the relationship. Unfortunately He kept going into my email and read my stuffs I did not realize that until he changed my password without telling me. I was upset, and that was how I found out he still went into my account. After I asked him to tell me the password into my email I changed that password in the same time. I never want to share my password with anyone else since then except of course my husband. People who act that way (possessive and having trust issue) they get a problem that need to be solved before they decide to have a relationship because relationship without trust it won't work. TRUS ME ;-)
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
28 Mar 12
@theizer: because he really loves you.. and you ignore how he really loves you
• Indonesia
29 Mar 12
Well love cannot justified what he do. A possesive person mostly ruin their relationship because of his / her attitude. People need space for themselves. Sometime they need to get away from people who they really close to for searching a place to breath.
• Indonesia
23 Mar 12
Thanks for the story from your experience. Hope this will also enlighten other. The trust issue is really an important thing in relationship. So i guess, if you have a possessive girl friend boy / friend, it will go ruin with time. And giving the password to a possessive person will give you much more trouble than giving it to a non possessive one.
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@ekooke (28)
23 Mar 12
hello lordcaocao2025, i think it is not good behaviour, because it will bother our patner privacy.like other friend opinion that in relationship is needed the trust. by knowing or even checking facebook inbox, we have not trusted to our patner, so it will make our relationship uncomfortable and finally must be broken.
• Indonesia
23 Mar 12
Well yes, agree with you. If you have trust issue from the start, it mean it was weak from the start. It will ruin sooner or later. Well, i hope people will learn from all the comment here. Because many people now start forgetting about trust. Thanks for your reply here my friend.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Mar 12
hi lordcaocao I think if I were young again and just married and my husband also on facebook I would not share passwords as thats a sign you do not trust your partner at all. I am widowed and elderly but I will be damned if I share my pass word with anyone but my son as I have had to have him man my computer emails files when I was hospitalized twice,but I think it shows an utter lack of faith in each other if you do share passwords.I do not know my sons and thats fine its his password,his privacy.trust one other you need not be checking up at all.
• Indonesia
24 Mar 12
Thanks for sharing this with us hatley. From what i learned from all the comment around, most people who has succesful marriage decide not to request the other password, while many fail relationship is the one who ask the partner of his facebook password. I think we can draw a conclusion here. Asking other facebook password equal Trust Issue equal a failing relationship. Thanks for your comment here hatley.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
28 Mar 12
My husband doesn't know my facebook password and that is actually one thing that I don't think that I would ever want to share with him. However, I would let him look at my account if he asked me because that goes to show that I don't have anything at all to hide. With that said, I do think that every person in the world today does need to have their own little piece of privacy and if they want to have it on facebook, then that is fine.
• Indonesia
29 Mar 12
Long time no see dorannmwin. Yes, it is wise what you do. It is better to show your husband what in your facebook instead of giving him the password. That way you can control what he do with your facebook and at the same time explain what in it so it cannot become a misunderstanding.
@ckciasigurl (2081)
• Italy
24 Mar 12
hi lordcaocao! honestly i know the password of my boyfriend and my boyfriend also know's my password i think doing this , yes you don't have privacy any more but there are many people who are not contented having one another i mean there are many flirting events happening in facebook which your partner don't know.
• Indonesia
24 Mar 12
Well yes, that is the reason where trust exist. If you boyfriend doesn't flirt in facebook, he could flirt somewhere else, where and when you're not around. Facebook is not the only place ( and i think is not also the ideal place ) to flirt. But off course it is your choice. Every body have their own view about things, and i am here to see all those views.
@varier (5685)
• Indonesia
25 Mar 12
I against these kind of practices. Password is something personal that you shouldn't tell to everyone, including to your partner. I will never share my password to anyone, and I will not force anyone to tell their password to me. If there's a situation that force me to share password, I will change it to temporary password first, and later I will change it back ASAP.
• Indonesia
26 Mar 12
Yes i agree with your statement "Password is something personal that you shouldn't tell to everyone, including to your partner". And your solution about "f there's a situation that force me to share password, I will change it to temporary password first, and later I will change it back ASAP" it's the best solution. Thanks my friend for your share in this discussion.
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
For me, it's okay to share your facebook password to your bf/gf but make it sure that your partner is a good person and can be trusted. The only problem you will have when you share your password is that you will loss your privacy but I think if you both are really serious with the relationship, then you will not keep secrets to to each other. But on my side, my boyfriend knows the password of my other facebook account and I am willing to give him my password as long as he share his password also to me but the problem is, he is unfair because he doesn't give me his password for a reason that I don't understand. That is unfair on my part isn't it? He should share his password also to me if he is not hiding anything from me right? If he don't want to give his password to me then I should not give my password to him also, what do you think?
• Indonesia
28 Mar 12
Thanks for sharing girlthing62989. Well it depend on the trust itself. If you give the password willingly then it is okay. But if some one actually ask for the password, that usually gonna end up bad since one of them seem to have lack of trust to the partner.