hubby mad that im making money the lazy way

@verolop29 (1096)
United States
May 30, 2012 3:30pm CST
i showed my husband how much im making doing odd and ends online and he says to quit doing that. im not going to quit! im not hurting anyone except his mocho-ism self! he he says to quit or else....whowho or else what! im not afraid of him. he's always telling me he'd help me work but he hasn't. so i have decided to do it myself and i am. there are step i have to follow and before i signed up for serveys and mylott i was doing blogs and i skipped a few step and expected to make money. that was a bad move on my end and i wont do it again! im going to follow all the steps and finish it and go on to the next company or whatever. whenever he comes home and he sees me on the computer he asks what im doing and i say working. he gets mad and he starts making me feels bad. i still clean,cook,do laundry, even his. sometimes he asks how much $ u made today. and i tell him and he says the same thing over and over. i want u to quit or im gonna ground u. i tells him 'no ur not, ur not MY DADDY' i swear if he says that to me one more time im gonna cuss his but off. and i dont cuss. he's working my last nerve ppl what should i do? help me plz
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@loonys (418)
31 May 12
Don't tell him he is jelous. Glad for you sweetie and enjoy .
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@meozard22 (872)
• Philippines
31 May 12
well you're just in the right track. Do whatever you want, what makes you happy. Don't just do things because somebody want you to but because YOU want it!
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@monouu (2612)
• Singapore
31 May 12
Are your husband jealous that you can make money at home? Tell him if he can't give you a decent reason to quit, he better shut his mouth. If he don't then you shall ask him for more money on household expenses, tell him you can quit but he must give you that extra money. I believe he will keep quiet now
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
31 May 12
i can see that happening right now! and he will defenatly not like it because he's really tight with money.
@monouu (2612)
• Singapore
1 Jun 12
That's the way. You must let him know if he can't compensate you on your online earning then he also has no reason to stop you from working online especially when you didn't neglect any of your household duty. Many time it is plaint Male Ego that cause problem like this.
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@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
7 Jun 12
the first time i went on strike-quit my home shores-nothing got done. i used to spend more money on me but that never worked. i would use my play money on house thing and the girls.
@Outcast (633)
• United States
30 May 12
Keep doing what your doing,girl. If it is helping to make you extra money then do it. Get him to explain why he wants you to quit. He might have a good reason. But I would keep making the extra money online.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
31 May 12
I did ask him about it and he just completely shut me off. He says I don't want to talk about it. And then it's over. I think that when he sees that check come in the mail, then he wont have a hard time accepting me working from home...but thanks outcast! Hey how did u come up with you handle name? bcuz i love that band!
@Outcast (633)
• United States
6 Jun 12
Sorry I havent responded. Been very busy and hard to get online with kids wanting to get on the computer as well. I came up with the name because that is the name my hubby was using in his wrestling career when we met.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
7 Jun 12
i understand completely so dont feel bad. and i have no hard feeling at all! that sometimes happen to me. when i want to work my daughters want to watch diego and Dora! lol!! i tell them 'mommy's gotta work' and they turn their sad face at me and im mush...so i get offline for a few hours and while they're wacthing their movie, i clean. and clean and clean. after 3or 4 shows of their fav movie i tell them its mommy's time. and they happly agree and go play!
@GemmaR (8526)
31 May 12
I am making money on the internet as well, and a lot of my family don't seem to like what I am doing because of the fact that I can sit on the computer all day and make more money than they would be able to when they were in work. However, I don't see why people who go and work for somebody else all day when they have the chance to work from home and earn more money than they would ever have been able to if they had chosen to stay at home. It is nobody else's business what you do to earn your money, as long as you can pay your way and don't have to borrow money from everybody else all of the time.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
1 Jun 12
I'm curious Gemma. What do you do that brings you in more money than going to work for somebody else? I have yet to find anything on line that would bring in enough to live on or I'd do it, I think. Share your secrets.
@erikmama (12934)
• United States
2 Jun 12
Wow. Sorry that you are going through this. Instead of making demands he should be very happy and blessed that you are able to make money on the wb. It is hard to find a job these days, and when you can find one, no matter what it is, is something to be thankful for. And he sin't working? So who is he to tell you anything? Doesnt he like to have money in his pocket, too? I work online. I out in a lot of hours and dont make as much as I would at a 9 to 5 but there are benefits and i feel blessed to be able to do it. I dont know hwat to tell you to do. I just csnnot get over someone acting like that/ But I guress I have been in a very similar situation. Dont let him keep you from working and making money that is for sure.good luck.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
3 Jun 12
yeah its definatly not the same driving to work and spending money on gas-which is outregouse! i wake up clean for an hour, throw a load in the washer, and go online to work for about an hour or two...or more. then i get up check on the girls and feed them. its hard but i manage to do it, with a smile on my face! i dont think about how long this and that is going to take, i just do. my husband thinks about how long this and that takes and it stresses him out!
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
1 Jun 12
I really don't understand your husband's anger on this at all. At first I thought maybe he wanted you to go out and get a regular job but that doesn't make sense. If I remember from past discussions, you have kids and so you'd have to get a sitter and pay a sitter...defeats the whole purpose. You mentioned that he was mad that you were earning the "lazy" way and another time he said that he thought you spent your days just "sitting around". Thats actually not unusual for guys to think that. They have no idea how hard you work just keeping up with the house and laundry, kids etc. I think the look in his eye that you caught may not have been that he was jealous but possibly a realization that he may be wrong and after being such a jerk to you he may have felt kind of stupid, embarrassed and not wanting to admit that he was wrong?? Just a guess. I would ask him for suggestions on what he feels you should do to earn money instead. It would be interesting to hear what he has to say. As for grounding you....hope he's not serious on that one. Good grief.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
1 Jun 12
no i think ur right..! it IS hard and i do it alone. he just got a major pay reduction and i told him he outta do what i do. he has yet to do that...as to that grounding he was just kidding. he doesn't know why he said that but it was funny i couldn't help myself but laugh my head off! how have u been doing?!
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
31 May 12
My husband used to complain about the amount of time I spend on the computer. He thought I sat here all day. While he was off for surgery, he seen it was not. I do a lot of different sites, and do pretty well. He was even to the point, he was watching what I was doing and asking what I got for doing it. I don't know why he thinks you should stop, but acting like that is not going to do it. I have lots of different type of sites I do everyday.
• Philippines
31 May 12
Just do whatever makes you happy. Your not violating any laws, are you? So just do it. He is your husband, he should support. He should be happy 'cause you are earning money.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
31 May 12
nope! not a law breaker here. i go by the rule and regs just like everyone else. i think it all has to do with him being a man.
@Jul14nch0 (1414)
• Argentina
30 May 12
You shouldn't give up! Now is when you've to try even harder so you prove him you can reach your goals. You won't get rich overnight doing this... everyone started this business just earning few pennies daily.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
1 Jun 12
well...how much harder do i have to try?! honestly hehehe!! good advise there; but im not giving up. im persistant and confidant that i am going somewhere someday!
@dansazz (1059)
• United States
30 May 12
He probably wants to spend the time with you, and is jellious of you being on the computer so much. I don't really know what to suggest, maybe try and spend more time with him, or get him into it too, so that he understands.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
31 May 12
I brought that to his attention but i dont know what is with guys and cars/bikes. whenever he goes online, he goes to look a bike parts but he doesn't look into what im doing...im going to push a little harder and see what the outcome will be
@echomonster (2227)
• Greenwood, Mississippi
30 May 12
That seems really strange to me...you'd think your husband would be glad you're contributing to the family income, especially these days. Is he just really controlling in general? At the very least, he ought to respect your desire to make some extra money, especially if it isn't hurting him in any way. Maybe you could try just working online when he's not at home, but that's really not the ideal solution. Your husband is in the wrong here...he should be more respectful of you and be appreciative of your work.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
31 May 12
yeah i laughted soo hard when i heard him tell me that!! i was like seriousley??
@nonersays (2753)
• United States
30 May 12
My husband got mad at me for a similar reason. Not because I was earning money, but because I spent too much time on the computer. He told me, "Stop playing on the internet all the time!" I told him, "I'm not PLAYING. What YOU do on the internet is playing, what I'm doing is EARNING MONEY." In the end I know he is just jealous because I don't spend time with him hardly anymore, I come home from work and get right on the computer. I just make an effort to spend a little more time with him, and he quit being mad about it.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
31 May 12
men! cant live with them and can't live without them!! what ever are we to do?! I wish my hubby would let me give him 30 min hehehehe!! i think he'll be less like a woman who is PMS'n ha!
@ARIES1973 (9531)
• Legaspi, Philippines
30 May 12
Hi verelop! Perhaps you could explain to him everything regarding our job. Maybe he is just telling you to stop because you somehow had no time for him anymore because you are staying in front of a computer most of the time. I know if he can see that you are doing good on this field, he would understand you more. You could also adjust your working time so that you could attend to his needs also.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
31 May 12
i see what ur saying! But i do enough already. Iam a housewife and when he gets home, im tired too and when he gives me that look-u know what i mean-like y r u tired??? once he told me what he thinks i do. he thought i sit around all day, doing nothing. im contantly cleaning and doing laundry. Im going to set myself a daily schedual first thing tomarrow morning and see if i can stick to it! come to think of it i showed him how much money i have comming in the mail on the 16th and he looked a little jealous...maybe i misinterpred that look........... ill try again ARIES1973 AND thanks!!
• Liechtenstein
6 Jun 12
Just pretend your husband is singing a bad song to the wall. He should be thankful that you're helping him to make an extra income. Macho-ism is for the insecure. Continue what you're doing maybe someday he might appreciate it.
@jeth88 (68)
• Manila, Philippines
2 Jun 12
Just do what makes you happy. I'm sure in time he will understand you and let you do what you really like and love. Try to make him understand that earning money online is unpredictable. Sometimes you will earn more sometime you have not. Anyway, I will pray for you and for your husband to make his mind clear.
• United States
1 Jun 12
I would continue to make money. In this day and age it is hard to get money and if you can make money online that is great. I am trying to make extra money online and my husband is supportive of me. Any money I make online I am allowed to spend it any way I want to. Most of the time I save my money, but ocassionally I do splurge and buy my husband a gift. I think your husband is unreasonable to expect you to cook, clean and do laundry instead of having fun.
@freymind (1352)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
I'm sorry to hear that you're having trouble with your husband regarding working online. Its still best to let him know that what you're doing is not a waste of time. Just talk to him calmly and tell him that it makes you earn money plus this is what you want to do. You haven't neglected your part as a wife to him so why need to quit your work online right? Or.. maybe he's just jealous? Just a thought. He might think that you're doing something else online and just wasting time and electricity. Anyhow its better that you're both earning at least its for your family's sake.
• United States
31 May 12
I would keep doing what your doing. If he does get upset about you being online, maybe you could just work while he's not home. Maybe if he doesn't "see" you working he'll calm done. Certainly turmoil in the home isn't good for anyone, hopefully the two of you can reach a happy medium. What types of work are you doing and aprox. what can you make per day?
@mercvict (127)
• India
31 May 12
Hi Verolop, it's really nice to hear that you also support the family apart from doing all the house-hold work. I know how difficult it is to manage both home and work. Instead of arguing with him for the online works you are doing, just try to sit with him and find the actual reason why he is not interested. He may have something in his mind, its your responsibility to clarify it.