What do you do after the kids are gone?

Even though as of right now and the next few years I'll have still have one or both of the my little ones at home with me. I do plan on getting some kind of part time job that is can work with me around school for a few day or start up babysitting in the day time to help out with a little bit of money. But for me that might change depending on if we have another child before both of the kids are in school if that happens then I'm not going to get a part time job. You can do a lot of things while they are at school. You can do the same thing are doing now and get everything done early and have time for yourself, get together with other moms, read a books, do something that you enjoy doing that you can't do while the kids are home and your taking care of them. You don't have to get a part time job but if that is something you want to do I would look into something that you enjoy that will work with you around when they are both in school or if they get sick you can leave or call out of work with out getting into trouble.

Wow, that got me thinking. Its been 7 months since I left my job and stayed at home to be a full time mom. My 4 year old just started going to school, but I have a newborn to get me busy at home. Nevertheless, there are still lull times when I would scourge for things to do - like myLotting. Perhaps, when they're both schooling, and Im left at home with nothing to do, I would use the time to exercise, and do household chores. In probably 3 years from now, we plan to let go of our househelper and nanny, since I would be able to take care of everything at home myself. I would really prefer to have the house just to ourselves - my husband and kids.

I agree about working part time so you won't be bored. Maybe take a few days or weeks off prior to looking for a job if you want or need the rest. Our daughter is about to have her youngest starting school so both kids will be gone all day. She is looking into working at their school which would be ideal. She has submitted her resume and waiting for an interview. She can take them to school, work the day and bring them home. Her schedule would coincide with their schedules. She really wants to work now. After our 3rd child went to school, I did work part time and loved it. The extra money is always nice. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

We all know that our kids spread their wings and fly. We must be prepared for that. A good way to do it is to get a part time job to begin with, if possible. It doesn`t have to be very well paid, as long as you start with your own life agsin.

I suggest you can start a business at home. so you can't get bored.

I am a stay at home mommy too but I am Home Schooling so all of my kids will still be home with me all day long. Plus I babysit too so I always have little ones around! Lol. If I was alone though I know my house would finally be spotless! =) And I would be here a LOT more often.

I get things done so that after they get home, I can enjoy or run around with them. I do some of my online time, and not so much of it when they are around.

I am taking care of my kids at home, and I am also a freelance programmer. Hence, I will still continue to work from home after my kids have grown up. Also, I plan to homeschool my kids, so I do not think I will be bored at all, at least before my kids stop homeschooling or go to work when they grow up. Besides working on software projects, I am interested in the Waldorf education that I am going to apply to my kids. I might continue to study more about Waldorf education or I might go and be a Waldorf teacher. If you are interested in any job, perhaps that's a good time for you to go to work. Or you can also use that period of time to do something you like, such as making handcraft, gardening, reading, or some study, etc. ^_^

I found myself getting bored and lazy when the kids were at school. I would suggest getting a part-time job. You could try to apply at the school to be a lunch lady. You could also volunteer at the school from time to time to keep yourself from being bored and to keep tabs on how the children are progressing in school.

guess i would find more time doing my hobbies. also gardening. yes. writing is one.. go where your passion is. ann

I have to hand to to my hubby for bringing home the bacon for over 7 years now. We decided I would be a stay at home mom until both kids were in school full time. Well, my oldest will be in 2nd grade now . . . but my son will be 3 this year, so we still have at least a couple years to go (since that change in the birth date requirement, he'll be "put back" a year - but then again they recently installed that transitional kindergarten - so we'll see what happens that year). Even so, I will still have to take the kids to school and pick them up - among the other daily errands . . . so when I work, it'd have to be part time. I do want to bring in extra substantial income to add to my husband's . . . it's been tough with just one income all this time (doable now, but still . . . it'd be nice to have "more"). I'm hoping to work from home. I used to do graphic design out of a print shop (as well as printing brokerage). . . but now I want to take my own art and market that (versus doing business art for other people). It's not the easiest market, but certainly I think it will be more satisfying than my working situation before.

Obviously I am not a stay-at-home-mom, but I've seen this from a few parents I know. At my kid's school, which is really a small school, one class per grade, where almost everybody knows everybody, a lot of the moms don't really hold full time jobs. And you know that most don't know what to do with their days because a lot of them hang around at school doing volunteer stuff. [i] Curiously, most volunteers are kindergarten moms.[/i]

Hi, I just want to share my feelings about stay at home when my kids are at the school. I become someone obsessive about cleaning wooden furniture. Everyday I clean the all the dust and rub them (chairs, tables, cabinets, shelves etc) with some special oil for furniture. I guess this thing happened because I had plenty of time.

You have to make a habit to live alone without the kids. It is very obvious and natural to get bored without our loving one.Now look at our example,both of us are over 50, our only son is away from us for his job for last three years, actually he was parted from us for his higher education for last ten years but even at this age too we impatiently waiting for our son to come to home and he also comes whenever possible.Because just think as the kids will grow up they will be away from you, they have their life, their career. Let them do it. I know it is very troublesome and painful but it is bitter truth of the life. I remember when my son was going to a play school for one hour my wife use to wait for him outside the school either standing by the road or sitting somewhere by roadside. Then one day one of the teacher saw her and persuaded her to go home, because that school was taking responsibility to deliver the students to their home too and the basic idea behind sending the kids to a school is to have some spare time for housewives and the kids should get acquainted with the atmosphere. So many things you can do when your kids are at school. Just think what you were doing when there were no kids and your hubby was in office for full day and you were alone at home..As decided you can also join a part time job, any music class,cookery class,yoga class or to gardening at home. Something you have to do or if you are fond of kids then the best way is to take tuition's of small kids or open a nursery of your own.

great idea. thats what i did for a long time. till i got disabled. or you could stay here and other places like i do. i dont get bored as long as i have someone to talk to some parts of the day.

There are so many places that need Voluntary work done. This will not only allow you to do something of value but also open new connections for you. Depending on your intrests when making this choice, or maybe be brave and step into something you know nothing about and learn new things and people.

My kids are all grown up, i pass time with my grandkids mostly. If you feel bored, you may join some part time job if you need money; but for passing time you can do some job where you don't earn money but mental satisfaction, like helping poor, handicapped, aged persons etc in your area Best of luck