Do You Believe Her Story?

"scared of complications during ANOTHER labor". Without knowing the whole story that right there makes me ask if she already has kids. If so it would be easy to believe that she suffered complications from the last one. He seems to be getting ahead of himself anyways. They've only known each other 1.5 months. Are they even living together yet?

we canot tell the baby is not your friend's since we have no proof to it. We just guess. The right thing you should do ask your friend to have a check in the hospital with his girlfriend. Doctor will tell how long she is pregnant. Then, your friend will know whether this baby is his or not.

A month and a half? Six weeks? Is she sure she's pregnant? If she really is, I would wonder about the timing, too. But I don't think I would interfere because we may not be right. It could be his, who knows? If they can't agree on this, they don't have a good basis for a relationship anyway, so it's better to find out now than a few years (and kids) down the line.

Although the story sounds rather fishy, she COULD be telling the truth. I mean there IS a SLIGHT possibilty that it could be his. Depends on how far along she is claiming to be. I don't agree with abortion at all, so I don't think her "excuse" is any valid reason at all to have it done. In this day and age, medical science has improved so much, that you rarely hear about complications during labor. Yes, it does happen, but not often. And just because she may have had complications during a previous labour doesn't mean it'll happen again. But you're right, something doesn't sound right....unless (now here's another possibility)...she never was pregnant to begin with, and is using the abortion tactic as a way to get out of it without having to claim having a miscarriage. Sure is something to think about though, hope your husband's friend figures it out quick, cause IF its either a)its NOT his child, or c) she never was pregnant...he needs to think about if this is really the type of girl he wants to be with.

You said that your husband's friend got his girl friend pregnant and mentioned that she is scared of complications during another labor. This means she had previously failed pregnancy before. Your husband wants the unborn child and obviously loves children. So if he loves children and his girl does not want to get pregnant, then break off the relationship. Unless as you suspected she is having someone's child. My advice is to confront her the it is a sin to kill an unborn foetus or is she hiding her secrets. For a family to be complete it must come as a package, to have children.

I just want to know a few things: How long have you known the couple? what is the woman's reputation that made you think that she must be carrying another man's child? I think that whether it was his boyfriend's child or not, she still should have the heart to continue with her pregnancy? Doesn't she fear at least sad for losing her child?

This is a sticky problem. She is carrying a baby sired by a different man and the present man is ignorant about it? That's weird. Since he has been with her he can claim co owner of the unborn baby. I am sure he has his part of contribution too. Whether or not he is the real father I think this girl shouldn't abort her pregnancy as the boyfriend truly wants the baby and that could possibly make their relationship stronger.

Abortion is not a unnecessary reason. Your friend must take care of her baby. It is ok without the presents of her boyfriend or husband. We want that baby to be healthy when he or she grows.

Another labor? So she has had other children? Red flags should go up for him. She must have some other reason for wanting an abortion. I think that if this guy asked me right out what I thought I would tell him the truth. This is just one more scenario that proves what I say all the time. People need to get to know eachother better before jumping in the sack together. They let their hormones take over and don't get to know eachother then, after the fact, they start learning things that are not good. They should have atleast been using some type of contraceptive until they knew eachother better, had been together for awhile and had the kinks all ironed out and were ready for a child. As things stand now it is just a big mess.

What's her reason? She's scared of the complications during another labor? Why is she thinking about another labor? Did she give birth already? Is it her second baby? Oh, her reason is not reasonable. She should tell him the truth about the baby if it's not his. If he accepts her, then she's lucky. If he really loves her,he can name that baby after him.Though some men don't consider those babies their real children. There's always a gap. Let's wait for her to tell him the real reason.I guess she's confused.

Well through your hypothesis it is really complicated... But it just a hypothesis,why not to ask that girl directly?I mean this man to have a long conversation with that girl and try to get the reason of that girl in a peace way,may be it is not as complicated as we thought,and for that girl,get abortion is not good for her health,so she really need to think about it deeply.

Many reasons have occured to my mind. And it is hard for us to decide whether the woman has cheated on her boyfriend. It can be accounted that she hasn't got married so she didn't want to take the risks under no any legal protection. If their relationship someday broke, the woman will have to breed the baby on her home and she will not get any economic compensation. Another rason is that she haven't made up her mind, and getting pregnant is out of their imagination. The male got surprised on the news but the female may hold a far-sighted view. Perhapes she has not been ready to take the burden and responsibility to be a parent. She might get afraid that she will not be able to act as a good mum. The third maybe your imagination. It could happen that she got another man's kid, and she could not imagine what would happen if her boyfriend got this news, so she decided to keep it secret so as to protect this relationship.

Maybe your assumptions are right. Maybe this girlfriend just want to rid her baby for the purpose of keeping a secret. Or maybe this girlfriend has mental problems. No sane woman will kill her child... A mother will always love her child no matter what circumstances she is having. Or maybe she just love herself too much and thinking that the child in her womb will be like a thorn in her free life. Where did she came from? Is she a decent woman? It looks like she is one of those who used their body just for living the life they want... I pity your husband's friend. I pity the child she didn't want to give birth. I pity her stupidity, insanity and sinful life.

Something wrong with that pregnant girl, she know that abortion is one of the big sin.. We need to know first the real reason why that girl want an abortion. Hope the boyfriend can fight for his baby.

It does sound pretty fishy but there is nothing you can do about it. If you tell him what you think, you might end up losing a friend. It happens all the time and the person will stick up for their mate until the bitter end, and leave you in your tracks. You don't want that to happne LMB. If HE brings this up, then it would be ok to talk about what you think too, but it's touch and go if you do. It's sad all the way around but I do think you should stay out of this one....especially since you have absolutely no proof. You can think all you want about what you feel doesn't sound right, and it gives me suspicions too, but sometimes it's better to stay in the shadows. What do you think of this girl personally?...besides what has happened.

That does sound a bit suspicious to me if you ask me as well. Plus they hadn't been together that long only 1 month and a half. I think instead of just trying to cover it up that it might not be his why can't she just be honest with him. I think that will be less hurtful to him. Then just lying to him and having him think that it is his baby and that she wants to abort it. I think she knows for a fact that it isn't his, and just doesn't want to say. Does the guy know that she was with someone else a couple of days before they got together. If not, then what a way to start off a relationship. Is she sure she's pregnant though? I feel really sorry for your friend and for the unborn baby.

Sorry but what you say she told is way too less for me to make a the story out of it you made. Sounds to me 1. you do not like her, 2. you already labelled her and made up your mind/story about her. There are plenty of reasons why she "suddenly" wants an abortion. The short relationship (no security) is one of them. Being afraid of a relationship changing because of pregnancy is an other one. 1.5 month I can hardly call a relationship at all. It's impossible to know eachother very well and to say you will stay together. It would scare me if I would be pregnant after 1.5 month without having a past together first. Also I would not believe that friend of your husband at all. Having a child/wanting a child after only 1.5 month relationship is strange as well. Sounds to me he is way more interested in having that child as in the mother. So if I was his girlfriend I would end the relationship and take care of the child alone or have an abortion as well (since this guy would probably bother her or stalk her without an end). A relationship of 1.5 month would not sound save nor give me enough security to start a family with. Being pregnant, change of hormons, taking care of a baby is a lot/enough. It's impossible to invest in a relationship as well if you are at that point.

Some people are ust crazy for starters. I would never have an abortion, I couldnt live with that, but some do. I knew a girl in high school who had 6 abortions, then 5 kids. I think you could be right, that could be a reason, or she could just not want the responsibility of a child, or some other crazy reason. I really can't say as I don;t know the girl or the situation really. I would tell him that, and tell him to give her options, or sit down with her, and tell her to be honest.

why not tell your opinion maybe your husbands friend will be enlightened by your opinion and if he has doubts then he can confront her girlfriend if he is the father of his baby.. she can tell to her girlfriend that if he is really the father then she should keep the baby.. so she can proved to him that she is telling the truth..

This is a delicate matter, since its life were talking about. But whatever the real reason behind the girl decision to have an abortion, is none of your or our concern. He maybe your husband's friend, but they are adults, we should let them handle this situation themselves.