Should Gays be allowed to adopt?

gay adoptions - pic of baby
United States
March 22, 2007 10:57pm CST
I was so furious when I was watching the news . Down here in Florida,gays were pushing to be allowed to adopt children but our so called christian governor says he is gonna refuse to allow gays to adopt.What is his problem? There are thousands upon thousands of kids in need of a good home and because these gays live a life style he thinks is wrong,these kids are gonna be made to grow up with out a stable home or love of a parent. You can't count on straight people to adopt,they're too busy ignoring American kids and adopting from overseas.I think Gov.Christ should be ashamed of himself.It shouldn't matter whether potentials parents are straight or gay as long as they are able to give the kids lots of love and stability,and understanding.I think it's a travesty that these kids are going without because of this hateful anti-gay bigotry.
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• United States
23 Mar 07
Jersey, I agree with you. I have two friends who are a lesbian couple, they did not adopt but opted to have a child by a doner who they knew. I wish everyone could see the struggle they have just to live in a neighborhood that first did not want them there, then pounded them when one was pregnant. That child has to be the most wanted loved child there ever was. And you know why? Her mothers are going through hell, just to have the right to exist! But isn't Gov Christ a Bush?
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• United States
23 Mar 07
Congrats on 500 - balloons,confetti,and fireworks on black background
HI,Angel!Would you tell your friends that they have a gay rights supporter on mylot!I can just imagine what they are going through.it's awful .And you know what really irritates me the most?This is supposed to be a basically christian nation and yet look how hateful these anti gay bigot are! Well, I actually have a harsher word for them but I don't thinkmylot would allow it lol!There's a question I wuold love to ask these bigots.HOw many people who say gays are immoral are out there committing adultery or lying or cheating or stealing or committing any other sins? Better clean out their own closets before trying to clean someone elses. p.s. Congrats on making 500 posts.Isn't it great?
• United States
23 Mar 07
Thank you so much :)) yes its great. Took a while to get started in here, But then making friends such as yourself has made all the difference. Oh a more serious note, Yes I will tell them about this conversation. Its time we as a nation started letting our leaders know of our discontent. That is the only way real change will come about.
• United States
23 Mar 07
There are too many childrent that do not have a home for the government to be worried about this. I am not gay but I don't see anything wrong with them raising a child as long as the child is raised right and with an open mind about who he is. I think that the government over there is a little homophobic. If they are willing to adopt a child and take care of it then they should be able too.
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• United States
23 Mar 07
Thank you . I am so glad that you agree with me. I feel so sorry for these poor kids,I really do and it really angers me that they have to go without loving parents because of a bunch of bigots.
• United States
23 Mar 07
I agree too! No home is 100% guaranteed forever stable, I think if a couple can pass the stringent tests.. let them adopt.. You know, not all christians think alike. I know a lot of christians, and it's not that they dislike gay people, but they are conservative which means wanting to conserve (society as it was) - perhaps we disagree with many of their stances and concerns, but unfortunately it's getting turned into yet one more bigotry! Human nature! Go figure! It's not surprising that christians would like to keep a christian nation of the traditional family. I don't really think that merits hatred. The world is full of differing voices. Some view the changes in society since the 60's and 70's as alarming to society. I'm just trying to point out (not to anyone here!) that hating any group is still a bigotry, even if it's popular.. I mean all bigotries were popular. Why must humanity always just keep doing the same stuff over and over?
23 Mar 07
yes absoultly y not indeed if they check out to be ok and they r lovin parents and can give child..children a good stability in live..then yes as we need mre peoples like gays or hetro,s wotever it may be to start adoption..as then the kids of today can have or be with a lovin family...loljdxx.)as long as they have been fully checked..and checked again...as some adoptions the kids have suffered...if u know wot i,m saying...)
• United States
23 Mar 07
Oh yes. I agree with you. .People need to worry more about what's best for the children istead of making them go without a home because they think gays are immoral
• United States
23 Mar 07
I'm with you. If a child is adpoted, he has a better chance to finish school, go to college and become successful. What closed minded officials foreget is if a child becomes a successful adult he/she will pay taxes.But if they keep the child in foster care, he/she may or may not finish high school, and may or may not go to college.If he doesn't get the love and guidence he needs , we could wind up using more tax money to keep him in jail.It shouldn't matter if an adopted parent is srtaight, gay, black, white. If they can afford to adopt a child, especially older chidren, they should be allowed to adopt.
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• United States
23 Mar 07
I'm so glad you agree.I think what the problem is that these pliticians are so worried about angering those conservatives backing them they don't care how many tax dollars are being spentjand it's not right.
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@ElicBxn (60894)
• United States
23 Mar 07
First, let me say that I think older kids should be allowed to be adopted by gay couples. Now, I disagree that all straight families are ignoring children here & going over seas. I have known lots of people that adopt both ways, but there are reasons some people do go for forign adoptions. One, there is less of a restriction of proving infertility for infant adoption - I knew a couple that wanted a daughter, but so far they had 3 sons. They chose to go over seas so they could get the girl they both wanted. I also know that most U.S. agengies have an age cut off. I knew a lady that, while she did find an agency that let her adopt here in the states, she was nearly 40 & most of the agencies had told her they would not let her adopt because of their age. Before she got her little boy, she & her husband were looking into forign adoptions. Frankly, adoption of older children are in a different class than infant adoptions. In most ways, many of the children in our foster care system have many emotional problems do to the abuse they received before ending up in the system. Going over seas can go to children that have many needs without some of the baggage - doesn't make it right, just a fact.
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@ElicBxn (60894)
• United States
23 Mar 07
opps, typo - "going over seas can to get children..."
• United States
23 Mar 07
Another one that agrees,cool. I didn't mean to apply that I think all parents are going overseas,it's just that a lot are and it's a growing trend and in the meantime,this poor kids are left to rot in orphanages or foster homes.
• United States
23 Mar 07
i agree with you.all those poor children who have a chance at a loving family,being denied and sitting in orphanages. people in elected positions should never forget everyone payes taxes and votes-all should have the same rights also.
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• United States
23 Mar 07
I am really touched at the amount of people agreeing with me. I really thought I was gonna be bombarded by a bunch of bigoted gay bashers! I'm so glad I was wrong!
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• United States
23 Mar 07
a friend of mine and his husband have been trying to adopt for 10 years now.i've seen them cry when nephews come over. it breaks my heart to see them like this.
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• United States
23 Mar 07
I think as long as the kids are put in a stable, loving home, then it shouldn't be an issue. Fact is, having two mommies isn't gonna make a little girl a lesbian. I don't really see the problem with it, but the moral majority is called a majority for a reason...and I just don't know if these kinds of things will change until the people in power over about 60 years old die. I just don't think these ideals will change until younger people make the laws.
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• United States
23 Mar 07
Unfortunately I think you are right.There's too many politicians that are interested only appeasing voters instead of doing what's right
@Latrivia (2889)
• United States
23 Mar 07
Sadly, though, they're not really thinking of the children. If they were, they'd have done their research and would have found the statistics on children raised by gays. They would have then found that children raised by gays do not have a greater chance of turning out gay, they are not at high risk of abuse, and most, if not all children raised by gays turn out just fine. Like I said, though, they aren't thinking of the kids. They're thinking first and foremost about their backwards morals which are actually hindering the well being of orphaned children, rather than helping them.
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• United States
23 Mar 07
I know they are not thinking of the kids. The statistics show that gays would be good parents but they are continuously denied.
@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
23 Mar 07
I think it's okay for gays to adopt.Exactly the same criteria that is used to select hetersexual parents should be used for Gays. I have a suspicion that many Gays would provide a better home than many natural parents, due to the commitment required to proceed with Adoption.
• United States
23 Mar 07
Exactly!I have felt that way too.They would have to work so much harder at and I'm sure they would be just as good a parent as any straight person p.s.I loved your discussion on poor little knut bear
@Pigglies (9339)
• United States
24 Mar 07
I have never seen a good reason why gay people shouldn't be allowed to adopt. I personally will probably adopt rather than be inseminated, or would adopt at least one child. Adoption is awesome and kids should absolutely be given the chance to have a stable home rather than live in the foster care system.
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• United States
26 Mar 07
There is no reason why these kids shouldn't be adopted by gays but there are too many anti gay hate mongers out there that would rather have these kids go without a home then have gays adopt them.
• United States
24 Mar 07
Yes, I think gays are allowed to adopt as long as they take good care of their children. They have rights.
• United States
26 Mar 07
I agreee with you.It's a shame there are so many ignorant people who don't
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
i dont see any problem if gays would adopt kids... as long as they can support them..why not...
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• United States
26 Mar 07
Got that right!
@mykykko (424)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
yes why not?!gays also have good hearts and it's a nice thing that they are also concern about the population of children who have no home.i have gay friends and i know they also want to have children someday.so adoption is an option for them.
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• United States
26 Mar 07
I am so glad to see so many tolerent people! It does my heart good and I'm sure the gays sure appreciate it
24 Mar 07
I agree with you on this. Children need a loving and stable family to grow up in and whether that means your gay or straight, it shouldn't matter as long as they are all happy.
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• United States
26 Mar 07
I know it shouldn't matter but there are too many hypocrites who don't agree with us
@xParanoiax (6998)
• United States
24 Mar 07
I agree. It's really stupid to not allow gay couples to adopt kids. Other states are using the argument that just 'cause they're not married.. adoption agencies tendto prefer couples who're married -_- and whose fault is it most states don't allow gay couples to marry? I hate discrimination. People don't all have to AGREE with how someone lives, who they love, what job or religion they have..but it's a human right to have these things and do what they like. I remember when it was looked down upon for women to NOT be married at the end of HIGH SCHOOL..likewise for men, but men had it looser so long as they focused on their careers. Things have changed alot over the years, but still, here's my point it's not anybody's business who marries who or why but the couples. If they adopt kids they should be allowed, ESPECIALLY for the kids. Though the couples themselves have issues which are important to think about, if you're a governor you think about what's best for the CHILDREN. If you look at statistics, do your homework and don't rely on your personal bias you're doing a good job as a governor. If you don't then you're abusing your power. Period. It just gets me so steamed. It's stupid.
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• United States
26 Mar 07
I get steamed too. people can't understand why I am so passionate about gay rights.I have actually been accused of being gay-why because I don't like the way they are being mistreated? I know what it is like to be discriminated against .First of all being a woman plus I have a weight problem. I always used to be teased because I never did what every one else was doing. i did't wear something just because others were doing ,I was never into the fads etc. I hate people who judge others by appearance ,lifestyle ,etc instead of judging by the content of his/hher character
• United States
23 Mar 07
i think they should be allowed to get get married and adopt they are people with feelings to
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• United States
25 Mar 07
I agree with you but unfortuantely too many peopledon't think so
• United States
23 Mar 07
I think gay people should be allowed to adopt. Who cares what people do in their private life? It has been proven that byou are born homosexual. Homosexual copules can love a child just as much and just the same as a straight couple. There are so many children who need adopting, you should be more worried about child molesters wanting to adopt rather than homosexuals.
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• United States
25 Mar 07
Bravo!
@fpd1955 (2075)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I have read every single rsponse to this subject. Most of them do agree that Gays and Lesbians should be allowed to adopt children. They agree that the most important thing is to give love, respect and kindness to the children. To nurture and show them what tolerance means. Gays and Lesbians are more than capable of doing this. Even more so than some straight couples that raise children. That is why there is so much hatred, ignorance and intolerance towards Gays and Lesbians. I think gays and lesbians know of these things much better than some straight couples, therefore they would teach their children to be kinder to those that are different than themselves. And I am not saying that straight parents do not know how to teach these things, but there are a great number of them that teach hatred towards Gays and Lesbians. As far as a child needing a male and female parent in their lives, well that is not always the case for straight parents. Many children just have a mom or dad in their lives, for one reason or another. Should the government intervene and remove the child from the home because there are not 2 parents? I think not! The Governor of Florida is a Bush. Everyone knows that the Bush who is President involves religion in his decision making and his planning of changing the Constitution to make sure Gays and Lesbians can never get married. What ever happened to separation of Church and State? So, finally, to answer your question. Yes, I do think Gays and Lesbians should be allowed to adopt children, if they are ready and settled. I regret that I have no children, as all my friends and family have told me I would make a great Mom. I would be categorized by Governor Bush as an unfit parent, due to my sexuality. My family and friends know that is the furthest thing from the truth! God Bless
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• United States
25 Mar 07
The governor of florida isn't a bush anymore.We have a new one going by the name of christ.I really thought he was doing a great job til I heard his stance on gay adoptions. I too would like to hear about what happened to the seperation of church and state.I hear christians all the time whining about the persecution being done to them,but what about the persecution they are doing to anyone different then themselves? I personally know a gay woman who is the sweetest most gentle soul I know. The last time I knew ,her and her life partner were planning to try to adopt but I don't know what the laws are up in jersey.
• United States
23 Mar 07
Yes, you can not limit who loves and who doesn't. It is not fair to a child. Who is to say who would make a better mom and mom or mom and dad or dad and dad? I could spit, when I hear people try to make rules on only one kind of people can adopt. I live in Florida, and I voted for the one that was more open to letting all good, fine people forster or adopt childern! So there!!!!!
• United States
25 Mar 07
Good for you. I wish everyone had your attitude!
@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
23 Mar 07
You know, i totally agree with you, it's absolutely pathetic that they don't want to allow gays to adopt, especially when you really look at it, they might be better parents than some 70-80 percent of the pupulation. I'm so sick of hearing that gay is evil or against god, or wrong morally or otherwise, i really am, these are people just like we are, and if being gay was so 'sinful, bad, evil' then i'm sorry, but there wouldn't have been so many gays since the beginning of time. As far as i'm concerned, the things that hit your concience as wrong, are the moral sins, and loving someone, is not bad. So should this effect people? Should it decide on weather they get to live a long happy life with children and a nice tight nit family? I don't think so, I think they should be able to enjoy a nice happy life as they wish. Let them have the kids, Most gay people i know are the nicest, sweetest most loving people i have ever met... I can't stand the thought of taking personal choice away from them... Maybe there's a way to get a petition going or something to allow this?
• United States
25 Mar 07
I really wish a petition would help but it wouldn't ,not these politicians. They don't care about right or wrong.they only care about votes and backings from the conservatives. They know if they stand up for gays they will lose the conservative vote and money and it's disgusting. I am also sick of hearing it's not natural or that it's immoral. These peopel who think that better go back to the bible and read up on where is says"Judge not lest ye be judged,He who is withoutsin,let him the one to cast the first stone, and there's my favorite Remove the log from thine own eye before you try to remove the speck from your neighbor's.Christians have a tendency to ignore that
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