Work of My Nephew...who do I think I think is more important?

I think that's a bit harsh of your employers, especially if you haven't had any other time off. At least you had the decency to phone in and ask, rather than just not turning up or throwing a sickie! What happens if you do ever get sick... does the same thing apply. I think you'd be best chancing going to visit your nephew, and perhaps find another job because if anything happens to him, you will so regret not having been there. I hope it doesn't of course. He hasn't had a chance in the world yet. Sending my prayers and energies to your nephew that he recovers soon, and to you, to find the strength to stand up to your employers at a time when you need to be with your family. Brightest Blessings.

I don't blame you for wanting the night off work to be with your nephew. Some bosses have no sympathy when it comes to family situations. How is your nephew doing today? How long have you been working for the company? Your nephew will be in my prayers.

I hope he is ok. Calm down and get to the hospital. It sounds like the place you work is not very flexible. If you can find another job, I think I would search and not tell them that I am.

That's a bit unfair don't you think? emergencies happen all the time, surely they should take that into consideration when asking for time off? do you have annual leave or sick leave you can use? sorry lilyofthethorns but I find their policy very unreasonable! and I hope your nephew is ok! keep us updated!

I'm sorry your nephew is ill enough to go to the hospital at one week old. I'm also sorry you're being written up for a varifiable emergency. Get a note from the Doctor in case you are fired so that you can present it in the future. Yes, you should look for another job. One that understands that emergencies do happen. Good luck and I hope he ends up being alright. Take care.

I an understand that work wants people there but in certain situations things happen that we can not control. Alot of places just do not care about there workers and what is going on in there personal life. That is sad. I hope that everything is ok with your Newphew. You did not state what was wrong with him.

I am so sorry to hear that your nephew has problems at such a young age. I can understand you wanting to support his parents. You do have to understand, though, that your nephew does not really come into the category of 'immediate family' where employment is concerned. That is usually restricted to your own children, your spouse and your parents. Unfortunately, in most jobs, it is usually not too difficult to find someone else who will do your job. It takes time to build up sufficient reputation that your boss cannot say 'Oh to hell with it, we'll find someone else!' I think that you may need to find out exactly what your legal rights are under the laws in your state (and under federal law) and then to see what rights your employer has, bearing in mind how long you have been employed. Every country has employment laws which both protect employees from unfair dismissal and protect employers from losing out through unsatisfactory or uneconomic employees. It does seem to me that for your employer to threaten you with dismissal after only two absences on compassionate grounds (especially if you have given them time to find cover for your absence) might be illegal. In the UK I believe that one can only be dismissed after two verbal warnings and one written one but I do have reason to believe that, in the US, employees are rather less well protected than here.

Hi LilyoftheThorns,I am not impressed with the place where you work, as anyone should be allowed time of in an emergency. It might be a good idea to look for another job. I hope your nephew is fine. Blessings.

Just curious about what the baby boy had. Was it RSV? RSV is a common cold virus that produces a bad cold in adults but can be life threatening in infants. But aside from that, your situation is a tough one. As much as you would like to be there, you aren't your nephew's caretaker (at least I assume so.) and therefore, it may not appear to your employer that you NEED the night off, because you could always go in after work. However, if he is in critical condition and the doctor's have labeled it that, then your employer has no right to tell you that you have to come in to work, and if he did, I wouldn't stand for it. I'd just not show up, even with the risk of being fired. It just wouldn't be worth it to me. There's both sides of the coin though.

My you have a very unsympathetic boss. to deny you leave to see your week old nephew sounds really unkind to me. Most bosses realize we all have families that we love and will make exceptions for crises like that.Surely your boss must know that emergencies happen all the time and you did not ask to go on just a whim.I hope your little nephew gets well real soon.And that your boss rethinks his position.

I understand that work wants people there but in certain situations things happen that we can not control. Alot of places just do not care about there workers and what is going on in there personal life. That is sad. I hope that everything is ok with your Newphew. You did not state what was wrong with him.