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myLot reputation of 98/100. minnie_98214 (3895)   ranked 242 out of 26,068 in life2 months ago

So does anyone know how you find a cheap lawyer. My hubby has a case where he is trying to get visitation with his daughter. Now shes four and he hasnt seen her much so he understands he needs to go slowly to build a bond but......his ex is demanding an 8 month plan that requires supervised visits by her (can a bond be built with mom there I think not), he must drive three hours only to get two hours with his daughter, she is demanding that she dont meet us for a minimum of 8 months even though she has her visiting our house for 8 hours towards the end (so im not allowed in my own house). i think this plan sounds just silly.

So what do you guys think? I mean my hubby has not been there but he has donee nothing wrong to warrant supervised visits thats his big complaint and the whole she cant meet us cause we are not family well im her step mom hello.

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 83/100. Ejobsuccess (344)   ranked 1,186 out of 26,068 in life   2 months ago

Not sure where you live but if your desperate or even want to give it a go, sometimes colleges that offer classes to become a lawyer also have a program where they take cases on. it gives the student or new lawyer a chance to get some cases under their belt. In most cases it can be free if you have financial troubles or they might ask for a small fee. My sister went to one of these programs for a divorce. They helped her out for free.


myLot reputation of 98/100. minnie_98214 (3895)   ranked 242 out of 26,068 in life  2 months ago

Thank you I will have to check that out. We are willing to pay we just dont have alot of up front money. This is a good plan hope i can find one out here to help me thank you.

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2. myLot reputation of 92/100. cobrateacher (975)   ranked 825 out of 26,068 in life   2 months ago

Your local Bar Asociation is a great source for just the lawyer you need. An even better source, though, is the nearest law school. Graduating students (no, not the newbies) take on things like this as part of their public service requirement, or just to do all they can to add to the resumes that will get them into law firms after they graduate.


myLot reputation of 98/100. minnie_98214 (3895)   ranked 242 out of 26,068 in life  2 months ago

Yeah im gonna have to check both of those thank you so much.

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3. myLot reputation of 96/100. tyc415 (2548)   ranked 4,020 out of 26,068 in life   2 months ago

There should be a way through family court to find help getting a lawyer. Can he go to the child support court or judge and get help? I agree, if anything she should have to meet him half way so he can visit with his child and I think you should be in the picture too. After all you are her step mom. Maybe the supervised visits could be with a different person and not her. See if there isn't some type of family court you can contact and see if they can lead you in the right direction on getting help. It is best to bond now while she is still young.


myLot reputation of 98/100. minnie_98214 (3895)   ranked 242 out of 26,068 in life  2 months ago

Yeah he is starting her plan next Sunday but he wants to get a lawyer to speed this up. It just seems silly. She is always yelling at him to so whats that gonna do when they have visits?

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4. myLot reputation of 93/100. arcideaco (295)   ranked 7,149 out of 26,068 in life   2 months ago

Well, I do not know about your geographical location, but there are some countries that offers the possibility of "legal aid". It is as such that people who are less able to pay for law fees are entitled to apply.

It is made up of lawyers or solicitors who are from various law firms that subscribe into this problem to help people with less cost.

You may wish to inquire with your local bar association to find out if there is at all such services offered.

Cheers.


myLot reputation of 98/100. minnie_98214 (3895)   ranked 242 out of 26,068 in life  2 months ago

Thanks I will look into this. I know I got a free lawyer for my divorce but I had no income at all when he left me.


myLot reputation of 93/100. arcideaco (295)   ranked 7,149 out of 26,068 in life  2 months ago

If I may add, civil dispute like this is based primarily on balance of probability which depends on character references and how strong is the case. For civil cases, case law is the best way to proof a case. You may also want to look for similar cases which had been recorded with verdict on case law resources of your country.

No problem at all, Cheers.

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5. myLot reputation of 93/100. thelastwolf113 (1429)   ranked 655 out of 26,068 in life   2 months ago

Unfortunately we live in litiginous society where we need lawyers for representation. I'd say he should definitely get a lawyer so his objections will receive full consideration. It is very common for an X to try to control the life of the absent parent by means such as you described.
Without a history of abuse, I don't see how she can get such control. Especially about not allowing you there. A lawyer would be able to cut through the BS to the heart of the matter, what's BEST for the child.


myLot reputation of 98/100. minnie_98214 (3895)   ranked 242 out of 26,068 in life  2 months ago

I agree and im gonna be investigating what we can do. Its hard when you dont have the money to pay a lawyer.


myLot reputation of 93/100. thelastwolf113 (1429)   ranked 655 out of 26,068 in life  2 months ago

And they can be expensive!
Isn't there some type of Legal Aid in your area, if you can't get them to do it pro-bono, they should be able to have a sliding scale fee system.


myLot reputation of 98/100. minnie_98214 (3895)   ranked 242 out of 26,068 in life  2 months ago

Im hoping to find one with some sort of sliding fee scale or something for sure.

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6. myLot reputation of 90/100. desertdarlene (5538)   ranked 560 out of 26,068 in life   2 months ago

You might want to either get a lawyer or talk to someone at the court about this. But, sometimes lawyers don't like to take these cases for some reason. My nephew's mother kidnapped my brother's son and took him to Canada. Now, she won't let anyone visit him, talk to him on the phone, or e-mail him. Everything has to go through her. She won't let my brother talk to his son on the phone and will start screaming at him whenever he calls. But, no one will do anything about it and it's very frustrating as we haven't seen my nephew in years.

In your case, you might have it different because, at least, his child is within driving distance and in the same country. If you have the means, you might have to "lawyer shop" to find one who will be sympathetic.


myLot reputation of 98/100. minnie_98214 (3895)   ranked 242 out of 26,068 in life  2 months ago

Same country for now shes visiting Australia soon and im afraid she doesnt plan to come back.


myLot reputation of 94/100. canjo13317 (297)   ranked 3,504 out of 26,068 in life  2 months ago

desertdarlene... i am very confused by your post. if i understand your post correctly, your ex-sister in law has "kidnapped" your nephew. it is against federal law to remove a child from any state without consent of the other parent. was there already a case in family court for custody, visitation, etc.? please keep searching for a lawyer that will look into this for you. if there has been no other formal agreement, hire a private investigator, track the b* down, and get bring the child back home. possession, even of children, is 99% of the law. and if the courts don't think she kidnapped the child, then they can't consider going and getting him kidnapping, or custodial interference, or whatever they call it. good luck to you all!!


myLot reputation of 90/100. desertdarlene (5538)   ranked 560 out of 26,068 in life  2 months ago

The problem is that my brother has no money whatsoever and neither does anyone else in the family. I don't think the courts want to help because the child is out of the country. We try to make contact with my nephew, but the mother keeps making excuses.


myLot reputation of 90/100. desertdarlene (5538)   ranked 560 out of 26,068 in life  2 months ago

I forgot to answer the other part of the question. Basically, while my brother was at work, she packed up everything and left. By the time he got home, she was well on her way out of the country. When he heard from them again, she was already in Canada.


myLot reputation of 90/100. desertdarlene (5538)   ranked 560 out of 26,068 in life  2 months ago

I don't really want to say much more about this in a public forum in respect to my brother's privacy. I think if I go into more details, it might embarrass him and other people involved.

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7. myLot reputation of 48/100. barrudaki (897)   ranked 4,339 out of 26,068 in life   2 months ago

Contact the family courts in your area. Sometimes a lawyer is not needed all he has to do is file in family court for visitation rights. Although the courts will recommend you get a lawyer but sometimes there are lawyers assocaited with family court that can be of assistance no charge or a minimal charge.

The best way to determine if you need a lawyer would be, can she afford a lawyer? If not then chances are she will go to the family court without one, but if she can afford a lawyer then you should get one.

So far I only know of one personal case where one parent has a lawyer and the other doesn't and the parent that doesn't keeps winning his case because the social workers keep siding with him.


myLot reputation of 98/100. minnie_98214 (3895)   ranked 242 out of 26,068 in life  2 months ago

Shes got a lawyer and her lawyer is really preasuuring my hubby telling him he cant win I think we need to get a social worker involved or something.


myLot reputation of 48/100. barrudaki (897)   ranked 4,339 out of 26,068 in life  2 months ago

That is a lawyer tactic to keep it fromm going to court. The lawyer is only saying that because

1. The lawyer doesn't really want work on the case.
2. The x only hired him to scare your husband.

Get in touch with Family Services, let the lawyer and the x squirm a bit. Maybe once she here's the word Social Worker she will calm down.

 
8. myLot reputation of 93/100. scorpiobabes (1220)   ranked 591 out of 26,068 in life   2 months ago

Try Family Services in your state; you can ask for free/low cost legal aid. You definitely want a good custody lawyer in this case. thumbup

Your hubby's ex sounds a bit overprotective--the demands seem outrageous, especially if there's nothing to warrant her behavior. And in the end, you know who's going to get hurt? That little girl. Supervised visits are when one parent is afraid of abuse by the other parent. Perhaps it's because he hasn't seen his daughter as much as before or not for a prolonged time? Then the mother needs to come over with their daughter, observe how it is between the ALL of you, rather than acting like some 2-year-old!

Good luck--this kind of thing is outrageous. When parents can't get along and pull the kids in the middle, it's the kids who get hurt. I'm having a slightly different situation...my ex has taken our daughter 100% of the time and barely allows her to visit (and when she does, I'm expected to provide food and entertainment on a $0 budget!{no support}). It was like pulling teeth, begging and crying to see her on Mother's Day--hello, I'm the mother here! It all has to do with how she's being raised--he doesn't feel that I gave her too many chores, didn't like the fact that I'm of a different faith, and didn't like that I became involved with someone else (I don't even live with!). Since last March, she has been to the general practioner ONCE, and no other healthcare (she wears glasses)--I always made sure she went to appointments. It seems that because of my business (which is now basically done), I'm being punished. When we finally went before the judge last December, I had basically had it and told the judge to just let him have custody on his terms (which did grant me weekends)--everything's been broken now. cry


myLot reputation of 98/100. minnie_98214 (3895)   ranked 242 out of 26,068 in life  2 months ago

It is sad when parents just cant agree on things. My divorce my hubby tried for joint custody and I fought him only because he works and I dont. It just didnt make any sense. He gets every other weekend and had other time but he choose to pass on that due to gas prices.


myLot reputation of 93/100. scorpiobabes (1220)   ranked 591 out of 26,068 in life  2 months ago

President Bush needs to hear about that...the ridiculously high gas prices are interfering with children and parents seeing one another! w00t

My ex wasn't content with our original agreement (I had her Mondays through Thursday 24 hours, and in the morning Fridays--he had every weekend!); he only paid $50 in support (when I had a job), so when I was first unemployed, everything was fine, but then I required her to help out around the house (nothing major, just your basic chores) and all he11 broke loose! You'd think I was demanding her to be Cinderella or something! Next thing I knew, she moved out and into Dad's, and between the two of them, convinced the psychologist AND the judge that I was being too demanding. confused In the 15 months since, she's gained a LOT of weight and managed to start failing classes. I am NOT a happy camper!


myLot reputation of 98/100. minnie_98214 (3895)   ranked 242 out of 26,068 in life  2 months ago

I wouldnt be a happy camper either.


myLot reputation of 76/100. fwangaa (812)   ranked 3,443 out of 26,068 in life  2 months ago

i don't need to do chores,because my mother and my wife always do it. Before i married with my wife, MY mother also do all the chores,sometimes i wanted to wash my clothes,but before i thought to do that,my mother had washed them. so i was very angry about that,and tell her not to wash my clothes again. but my mother also washed my clothes. i seem lazy in my hom, actually i am a hard-working man in outer. my mother hasn't work,i always think if she do the many chores, it will be advantage for her healthy. are you have the same sense?


myLot reputation of 93/100. scorpiobabes (1220)   ranked 591 out of 26,068 in life  2 months ago

i don't need to do chores,because my mother and my wife always do it. Before i married with my wife, MY mother also do all the chores,sometimes i wanted to wash my clothes,but before i thought to do that,my mother had washed them. so i was very angry about that,and tell her not to wash my clothes again. but my mother also washed my clothes. i seem lazy in my hom, actually i am a hard-working man in outer. my mother hasn't work,i always think if she do the many chores, it will be advantage for her healthy. are you have the same sense?

Obviously, things are very different in our cultures. I no longer have a mother, my father is 71 and lives 850 miles away, I worked full time (until I was laid off) and I have multiple sclerosis (read more at www.nmss.org). .

When my mother WAS alive, she worked full time, 40 hours plus a 2 hour round-trip commute; did the laundry; did the dishes; cooked meals; and for a time, helped stain the trim of our home (when being built), or helped mow the law (3-4 hours on a tractor). Did having all of those chores make her any healthier? I don't think so--she developed non-Hodgkin's lymphoma and passed after being sick only 7 1/2 weeks cry. She had diabetes, contacts/glasses and a skin allergy that prevented her from using any perfumed soap on her hands.

Because of her work ethic, I only learned the basics of running a household: I can't manage cooking an entire meal--I never was given the opportunity to learn time management!; I taught myself to use bleach after years of having dingy whites; I'm not really good at cleaning or any of that stuff. I wanted to make sure my daughter learned the basics--her father is a few weeks shy of 42 and still runs home for HIS mom (73 and has Alzheimer's) to do his laundry or to borrow (beg) for money from HIS dad (73, colon cancer survivor and has Parkinson's). Unfortunately, it's three against one, so I guess there's another one (though I told her, I won't be in any position to help out).

 
9. myLot reputation of 96/100. wachit14 (3245)   ranked 2,067 out of 26,068 in life   2 months ago

You don't say what state you live in, but there are two things you can do. You can call your local bar association and ask for the names of attorneys who specialize in family law. A consultation with an attorney shouldn't cost you anything, but if money is an issue, you can also find out if your state or county as a legal aid society. I wish you and your husband luck in this matter.


myLot reputation of 98/100. minnie_98214 (3895)   ranked 242 out of 26,068 in life  2 months ago

We are in Minnesota. Im gona look into those options thank you very much.

 
10. myLot reputation of 98/100. cjgrooms (2549)   ranked 183 out of 26,068 in life   2 months ago

You really do need a lawyer. This sounds unreasonable to me. As far as a cheap lawyer, is there such a thing? You might try calling around in your area some lawyers give free consultations and this might help you figure out what to do.


myLot reputation of 98/100. minnie_98214 (3895)   ranked 242 out of 26,068 in life  2 months ago

Yeah I dont know there is a such thing as a cheap lawyer lol. I will be setting up plenty of free consults lol.


myLot reputation of 76/100. fwangaa (812)   ranked 3,443 out of 26,068 in life  2 months ago

why you want to find a cheap lawyer. if you want to realize your wish,you should try your best to do it. money isn't importand for your wish. bless you!

 
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