A baby shower for a pregnant teen???

Well, I would have to say that it really isn't necessarily wrong to throw some kind of shower bash for the girl. After all, it really isn't the baby's fault that she is coming into the world to a very young mother. Remember that baby is going to need things and hopefully the baby shower will produce some practical things for the mother to use for her child. Yes, she is just a child herself. No sense at this point to make judgment on the girl for making a life altering decision to have a baby. You might want to just forge ahead and hope the baby has a good chance and all of the help she needs.

Baby showers are not just about the mother, it also helps make the baby's life easier. And I'm sure your niece has more things on her mind then how awesome a baby shower is going to be. The baby and niece needs the free stuff to take care of the baby.

Well since a shower is to help the new parent take care of the new baby, yes under any circumstance she should have a shower. If your sister-in-law will probably end up raising the baby anyway, have a little compassion and help her out. Baby things cost a lot of money.

It's not necessarily rewarding the 14 year old for being irresponsible, it's helping the parent out. And, yes the parents may be somewhat to blame, but haven't you ever made a mistake you wish you could undo? I know I was appalled when I heard my oldest granddaughter was pregnant at 14, but there was no way she was going to be left to go it alone. My conscience would not allow me or any of my family to turn my back on a teenager who had made a terrible mistake, especially when there was another life involved too.

I hope my greatgrandson never reads this because it sounds like I'm calling him a terrible mistake and he isn't. He is a bright, helpful, motivated 12 year old who is a credit to his mother and step father, and a wonderful big brother to 2 younger siblings. There's no way of knowing how he would have turned out if we'd turned our backs on his mother before he was born. . .or how his mother would have turned out for that matter.

I think opinions vary from family to family or culture to another. At the moment I am 22 and haven't finished school yet. If I was to get pregnant, I just won't be ready. My mom would certainly kill me and it wouldn't be something to be proud of or to celebrate about. If it happens that my young child was pregnant, I would keep it quiet for a while and make sure she understands to keep her legs crossed from now on. However, it sounds like they need some financial support. They don't have a nice home and the little girl doesn't have a job and didn't even finish school yet. So if that party could be an extra help for them, maybe you can help them out. Her mom just put the issue aside and think for the future. I think she did the right thing. The party is just 1 night. I am sure her daughter is not very proud of herself as well and where is the father of her child? Isn't his family suppose to give a hand or something?

I would have a shower still, but keep it low key and invite only very close family an d a few of her friends. I had a baby when I was 16 and I had a shower. If someone is offended, then they don't have to attend. But it isn't really fair to punish the baby. Showers are intended for first time parents to help with providing baby supplies. I don't look at it as rewarding the mom. It's for the baby. Sometimes it's easier to swallow when you think of it that way.

If you totrture your daughter tha whole pregnancy for getting pregnant,shes ganna end up hateing that baby....afterall this baby is why she is being totured...

if my daughter got pregnant at 14 i would be furious dont get me wrong. but it is somthing that cannot be taken back. unless you approve abortion.

at 14 its so easy for them to hate getting pregnant,and hate the baby. i would want to do everything in my power to maek that not happen. that way the baby is safely deliverd.

so when she found out. i would give it time to settle in.. then sit down and have her decide does she want to keep the baby or does she want to give the baby up for the adoption

if she wants to keep it. yes i would throw her a baby shower. if she decided she wanted to give it up..(wich i would never let her give the baby to someone who says she could never see the baby again). once we found a suitable couple i would throw a bay shower for the couple instead:)

No I do not think she should have a party to celebrate the birth of her child. As you have said SIL will likely raise the child for this child. All it will be sending to her is the message that it is o.k. to do this again, as there are NO consequences for her behaviour. She needs to know what she did was wrong, & to know all the pain & embarrassment that goes with being a 14 yr old mother. How is she gonna learn anything if her mother just takes over & raises the baby??Nothing that's what...Lori

well, there is nothing that your sis-in-law can do to reverse the situation and her daughter has to bear the consequences for her actions anyway... so i think throwing her a simple baby shower party won't do any harm... i know that it sounds not right as she had done something wrong... but i think that is the last that her mum can do for her before the baby comes... my opinion though... take care and have a nice day...

No,I would not say that it is rewarding her,because the present's at the shower are for the baby.So,your saying,don't have the shower or give anything for the baby because the mother did wrong.Therefore the baby may not have what he/she needs because he/she has to pay for something that her mother did.Think about it,how would you,especially as an innocent child or baby,like to pay for something your mom did wrong?

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