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myLot reputation of 99/100. sweetdesign (2193)   ranked 199 out of 32,943 in life 4 years ago

My daughter turns 18 tomorrow. She came into this world 2 months prematurely and weighed only 2 pounds and 14 ounces. She stayed in the hospital for not quite two months. She was perfect in every way just small.
When she was 5 years old her dad and I divorced and soon after that he had another child with his new wife another daughter and he saw our daughter less and less. Then a little over a year after that they had another child and it was a boy and he did not see our daughter for 3 years. This all hurt her very much. Then he waltzed back in to her life like nothing had happened and visited her sporadically for the next 4 years till we moved to FL then she saw him once a year. A handful of letters (like 5 in 3 years) and one birthday package that contained stuff she had left on her last visit and a used handheld video game his kids no longer wanted.
Tomorrow is her birthday and I am trying to make it as nice as I can since he quit his job and she no longer has the child support that she was going to spend on much needed clothes and a trip to the mall. She was going to save each check for her trip to the mall so she could shop the clearance racks (yes she has learned to be frugal at an age when she shouldn't have to worry about things like that). I want to cry all the time for her cause I know her heart aches from all of this.
I just hope our meager celebration makes her happy.

 

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1. myLot reputation of 98/100. checapricorn (10099)   ranked 417 out of 32,943 in life   4 years ago

Hi sweetdesign,

I admire how you both handle your life, you are both tough and strong! I know she will be happy because she is with you..I know a lot of irresponsible parents are scattered all over the world and I hope this time, he will try to exert an effort to send even just a message to your child..It's very memorable for her having an 18th birthday tomorrow..

Anyway, what matter is, she has a very loving and supportive mother! Cheers and happy birthday for your daughter...may all her dreams come true!happy


myLot reputation of 99/100. sweetdesign (2193)   ranked 199 out of 32,943 in life  4 years ago

Thank you. I don't know if he will make an effort or not cause last time she talked to him his excuse was that thier long distance service on the phone wasn't working so he couldn't call her. He lives on the same property as his parent in laws and sister inlaws and they both have long distance services.....


myLot reputation of 98/100. checapricorn (10099)   ranked 417 out of 32,943 in life  4 years ago

ohhhh! Maybe the new family doesn't like him to get in contact with his daughter anyway, hopefully, he will take an initative to surprise your child for her 18th birthday!

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2. myLot reputation of 97/100. DonnaLawson (2806)   ranked 6,228 out of 32,943 in life   4 years ago

This child has been through too much and her father needs to be made to pay for the things that he has done to her.. It is not fair when a child is made miserabke because of a divorce.. I hope she finds so many bargains that she has to have help carrying them home.. Tell her Happy Birthday from Donna.. I hope everything gets better for her and I hope she doesn't harbor too much anger towards him.. Have a great day and have a great birthday for her..

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3. myLot reputation of 94/100. GreenMoo (4019)   ranked 894 out of 32,943 in life   4 years ago

Please wish your daughter a wonderful birthday from me tomorrow. Thankfully, money isn't the only thing to make us happy.

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4. myLot reputation of 98/100. Ruthep (7334)   ranked 228 out of 32,943 in life   4 years ago

Since her father, or sperm donor, is not there for her what you do means even more because you are there.
My daughter has to do without a lot of cool clothes and toys because we can't afford them but she does appreciate what he does get. I am sure your daughter feels the same way.

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5. myLot reputation of 73/100. Nonnymouse (405)   4 years ago

Of course she'll be happy. How could she not be happy with a mother who cares so much?

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6. myLot reputation of 99/100. WANDALIE44 (674)   ranked 6,241 out of 32,943 in life   4 years ago

it will beacuse it came from someone she realy loves. and all that she has gone thru will make her a stronger person, and more concious of things. and thats a good thing that will make her a better person then her dad will ever be. i hope you guys have a wonderful birhtday together filled with lots of love and happiness.

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7. myLot reputation of 98/100. neildc (8307)   ranked 236 out of 32,943 in life   4 years ago

You remained alone in growing her up and that already means you are strong. And you really can make her a better person without her father. Just remain to be strong for her. Happy Birthday to her. KEEP SMILING => NEIL

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8. myLot reputation of 86/100. Vladilyich1 (1219)   ranked 6,431 out of 32,943 in life   4 years ago

I think it will be a wonderful celebration because she's with someone she knows loves her. That's all that counts.

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9. myLot reputation of 98/100. KrauseHome (18435)   ranked 60 out of 32,943 in life   4 years ago

Wow!! Your daughter is a blessing in disguise, and you should be proud of her. I know sometimes we have to go thru many struggles and hard times to go thru in life, and as I never knew my Real Dad, and my Step Dad was very abusive, I can relate with a lot of what your daughter is going thru. I am sure that you can make her 18th birthday a day to remember and help her forget about everything else.

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10. Marley76 (98)   ranked 9,911 out of 32,943 in life   4 years ago

You sound like a wonderful mother. I am sure that if she knows that you will be there for her party that is all she needs. She seems like a good girl, she know the value of money at an age where most children get what ever they want and don't appriciate it. IT Sounds like you did a good job, not sit back and relax the best is yet to come.

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