Move or Buy A Car?

I am in the same situation. I want to use my tax money to buy a small trailer to get out on my own, but my car is falling apart. So i may end up using the majority of my money to get a car instead. Looks like another year at home instead.

Well if I were in your situation I would move. I would rather struggle with a broken down car then be near my inlaws. atleast if they were inlaws like yours lol. I would love to move farther away from my in laws too. I don't see them that much luckily but i would love to move to break the hold they have on my husband. They don't seem to care if they don't see their grandkids as long as they see my husband. My daughter got her hair cut, it was a month and a half till they saw it. The actually babysat for us Jan 2nd so we could go see a comedian. That was the last time they saw the kids. They live 10 min away. It's pathetic. If my parents were like that I don't know what I would do. So anyways, sorry to go off topic. I think moving would be the better choice. We are still deciding where our refund money is going. We have a lowes card we want to pay off and then if we can swing it we want to take out the gross old clawfoot tub in our bathroom and put it a nice new tub shower combo. Then we are sinking a chunk into a separate savings account that we can't access as easily and saving for disney.

If I had to choose, I guess it would be move, and do it as cheaply as you can. Perhaps you could move and do the carpet later, and maybe just clean it if it isn't that bad. Then, save your money to get new. Have his car fixed with what is left after you move. I think you need to get out from under his parents so you can have freedom. I wouldn't have lived there this long, even if I had to move in a 2 BR apartment! Couples don't need the hassle you've gone through for so long.

I would worry about moving first. If all else fails and your husband's car dies he can use yours for awhile. I know that will be hard on you, but it is possible. Try to get the move and repairs done as cheaply as possible that way you will hopefully still have enough money left to deal with your husbands car.

It seems like even that big tax return that a lot of people get is not enough to cover everything that needs to be done and paid. Good luck managing it all.

Well, I know you really want to move but do you NEED the car for your husband to be able to work? Right now my husband and I are considering going to 1 car in order to keep our house. If you have to have this vehicle then I would do what it takes to at least get it so it is some what reliable....then take the difference for the house. Right now would be a great time to get into a house if you are going to finance. I feel for you because we are in such a similiar situation. I don't work, I can't work, we need our house (because of our large family...like you) plus we love our house. We have so many things that need to be done to the house....every bathroom leaks!! One right now is half redone but the master bath is horrible!!!!The tiles on the floor squish after you shower the leak is so bad. I always tell my husband as long as we have our truck that can get all of us together from one place to another and get him to work then it always gets repaired. The house comes second. I know this isn't an answer to your question but I hope it helps a little. At least you know your not alone.

We're in the same situation, car or move. We have awful landlords and even worse neighbors! We also need a bigger vehicle as we are now a family of four! It's hard to do both. You have to have a running car to get to and from work to pay for bills, but I definately get the moving part. It'd be nice if we could count on a decent stimulus package to help with this situation, to bad it's not that great, but that's another discussion!

Hey kats! It's really a shame that all this stuff is coming
up at the same time, but isn't that always the way it seems
to happen? I know how important it is for you to move so I
guess that has to be a priority, but then again so is the car.
It really is too bad that they are both major money items
and there isn't one that can wait. I hope that you can find
a way to be able to afford them both since I know that you
do need to get out of that house and the sooner the better!

I do understand where you are coming from. As for me, I think I would figure up the cheapest way to move, and then see how much you had left over to spend on fixing his car or getting another vehicle. I'm not having dilemmas, I know exactly where it's going. lol First, I'll be getting a new set of tires for my vehicle. The rest will be going into savings for my up coming move. The cost of my move will only be the tank to tank and half of gas it will take for the drive. Anything and everything I'm taking with me will be packed into my vehicle. Since most of the furniture was his before I came into the picture, I mainly have boxes, except for my computer desk, which I will take apart and pack back into the box it came in. Hmmmm, guess I was keeping that box for a reason.

Hello I am in the same situation too I am hoping to move soon as well. There are things that you should really look into you can have the people you are buying or renting from to put carpet in. We had to put new carpet in and paint the whole house inside and out before people moved in. I would really ask about that. That way you can afford to buy your car hopefully.

if its me i will choose to buy a car.have a car,just go anywhere you like,at any time,so good isnt it?