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myLot reputation of 98/100. ahgong (3854)   ranked 34 out of 20,316 in questions & answers1 year ago

I am sure at some time in our life, we have encountered some sort of set backs.
Be it a small one or a big one, it is still a set back.
It can be anything, from failing your school quiz to losing your job.

Do you let that set back discourage you from re-doing what ever you have failed so that you can do it better the next time?
Or do you become more determined to get a even better success at what ever you failed at in the next attempt?

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 89/100. zandi458 (6511)   ranked 423 out of 20,316 in questions & answers   1 year ago

I for one never never surrender to setbacks in life, in fact any setbacks will only motivates me to work harder to reach my goal in life. One good example is here in mylot. I was enjoying the glamorous 10 star when I was suddenly dragged down to my present star. Being a person who doesn't bow to setbacks I did not end my activities in mylot instead it motivates me to prove my critics wrong that I am not a lame person and is able to accept what ever hard knocks put on me. One rule that seems universally applicable is that there will always be some events over which we do not have a personal hold, but our attitude towards them is our own creation and, therefore, the right attitude lies in our hands. What ever setbacks, we have to take it as a fact of life. Our attitude should be of acceptance of the fact that it has happened and we should try to find the remedy instead of feeling upset or shaken an losing the courage to face the challenge. thumbup


myLot reputation of 98/100. ahgong (3854)   ranked 34 out of 20,316 in questions & answers  1 year ago

I am sure through all the setbacks you went thru, you emerged a wiser person.
And each re-attempt at the task, makes you more triumphant than before!
Good to have such a habit of getting back up after a fall. thumbup
A trait that is really amicable! lol

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2. myLot reputation of 99/100. applefreak (2200)   ranked 2,988 out of 20,316 in questions & answers   1 year ago

hmm set backs don't really do anything to me. i mean of course i get upset. especially when i've put in a lot of effort. however, i don't get the discouraged or determined part. i just pick myself up after a set back and move on. i don't feel particularly determined to do better next time. well maybe at the time of the set back i do feel a little of that. but the next day when i wake up the determination is gone already. lollol


myLot reputation of 98/100. ahgong (3854)   ranked 34 out of 20,316 in questions & answers  1 year ago

So, you are one of those who will just move on and not look back.
That is one way to deal with setbacks as well.

Much better than those who get crippled but them.
And I really mean crippled by these set backs, so much so, they keep living in that miserable time and not able to get out of it. sad

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3. myLot reputation of 93/100. krayzietam (695)   ranked 587 out of 20,316 in questions & answers   1 year ago

I go through a process. When a setback arises, I often feel discouraged because it was unexpectanct and I am only human. But I do not give up and I still keep on pushing towards my goal because that is just how life is and you need to make do with what you have instead of being consumed by the problem. I am a firm believer that through difficulty lies opportunity and that when one door closes another will soon be opened. If you accept defeat, you will be defeated. No matter what, you must have faith and hold on in order to achieve what you want. happy


myLot reputation of 98/100. ahgong (3854)   ranked 34 out of 20,316 in questions & answers  1 year ago

That is a good process to have.
To treat each set back as a stepping stone towards success.
And to learn from that set back to be wiser when making the next decision.
Keep up the good work my friend. lol

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4. myLot reputation of 96/100. rainmark (3698)   ranked 52 out of 20,316 in questions & answers   1 year ago

Well if you failed once try it again and make it better and work harder to avoid failure. But speaking of set backs at work in terms of salary pay cut, i think i should really feel discourage and seeing no chance to progress, i will find another job. But for school works, you have a chance to make urself better and knowlegeable.
Happy posting.


myLot reputation of 98/100. ahgong (3854)   ranked 34 out of 20,316 in questions & answers  1 year ago

A positive attitude like that is definitely the way to go!
And with such a positive attitude, you will go far my friend.
Keep at it and you may even be more successful than you think you could have been.
Keep up the good work my friend. lol

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5. myLot reputation of 75/100. bbsr13 (4192)   ranked 1,792 out of 20,316 in questions & answers   1 year ago

Hello!>>>>>> I don't mind for any setback in my way to progress.It is a temporary phenomenon and I can overcome this with harder works.I know failure is the pillar of success.So why should I mind for it?thanx.


myLot reputation of 98/100. ahgong (3854)   ranked 34 out of 20,316 in questions & answers  1 year ago

That is the way to go. For what is a journey to success if there are no set backs to make the trip more exciting eh?

Good that you have this kind of positive outlook. Keep it up and you will be seeing a whole lot more of successes than you think you have!
lol

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6. myLot reputation of 95/100. zweeb82 (1443)   ranked 2,785 out of 20,316 in questions & answers   1 year ago

An obstacle will remain an obstacle if we let it remain there. If we take it as a challenge, we'll challenge it to overcome ithappyIt's all about perspective. Although things are always easier said than done, I've observed that if we do not have a proper attitude to handle setbacks or failures, they'll normally eat into us & it will manifest in our daily lives. It's like a rotting fungus or disease, something like thatlolSetbacks? I just watched Meet The Robinsons, hahalolThere's a good moral story behind that


myLot reputation of 98/100. ahgong (3854)   ranked 34 out of 20,316 in questions & answers  1 year ago

Yeah... I like the way you put it. Set backs are like obstacles. Just like driving on the road. If the tree were to fall across the road, and cut of access to the destination you are going to, then it must be removed. Otherwise, an alternative route have to be made in order to reach the destination.

If we allow the tree to stop us, then we will forever be standing where the tree has fallen. And moaning about how the tree is an obstacle is not going to make the tree go away.

lol Good one there my friend! lol


myLot reputation of 95/100. zweeb82 (1443)   ranked 2,785 out of 20,316 in questions & answers  1 year ago

A good discussion I should say so myself!~ It's perspective. From where we come from, we say - Wah, look at our mountains!~ You tell that to the people from Switzerland, they'll say - ah? molehill? Ahahahalol


myLot reputation of 98/100. ahgong (3854)   ranked 34 out of 20,316 in questions & answers  1 year ago

lolha ha ha ha ha... you are funny! lol


myLot reputation of 95/100. zweeb82 (1443)   ranked 2,785 out of 20,316 in questions & answers  1 year ago

HahahalolI'm actually just stating a fact!~lolHAha

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7. myLot reputation of 96/100. alokn99 (2938)   ranked 221 out of 20,316 in questions & answers   1 year ago

I've been through both and the it's the nature of them and the intensity which have decided whether it has brought out the determination or not. Lesser significant ones have made me determined and i've found the determination help me accomplish a lot. The ones which have hit me hard, i've found difficult and as much as i've tried to be determined, there are times that i find myself being dragged down again. In some instance i've found that life does not give you second chances.


myLot reputation of 98/100. ahgong (3854)   ranked 34 out of 20,316 in questions & answers  1 year ago

Life never give second chances. It is you who make second chances happen.
Cos if you do not get up from a set back, then where comes the second chance?

Second chances comes in many forms. It may or may not be attempts at the same task. But if you open your eyes and listen, and open your ears and see, second chances are all around. It is whether you are observant enough to grab them! lol

Like you, I too find some set backs a little tough to handle. But we still have to. Even if we have to chisel at it a little bit at a time, we will do it. So that we can bounce back a better person who is a little wiser at handling similar situations that led to the set back in the first place.

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8. myLot reputation of 96/100. mommaj (1141)   ranked 2,982 out of 20,316 in questions & answers   1 year ago

I have been through so many set backs that I don't even recognize them as setbacks. I encounter a problem that needs to be solved and you just keep on trudging through. If you have given up the will to live then you let it get you down. I have two children and I will keep on keeping on. I hope everyone has an easy life and really it is the way you look at life as to whether it is easy or hard.


myLot reputation of 98/100. ahgong (3854)   ranked 34 out of 20,316 in questions & answers  1 year ago

Precisely! If you put on the glasses that sees everything as an obstacle in life, then life will be really tough!
But if you put on the mindset that obstacles are there to test your skills, and overcoming them will lead to better things, then life is much much easier.

There is no one in this world who never suffered a set back at one time or another.
IF they can get back up on their feet, so can you!

Good that you have your two kids to keep your sense of direction in life. I am sure overcoming any obstacles and set backs that life has thrown you will all be worth while when you see your kids growing up, stronger each day. lol

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9. myLot reputation of 95/100. christylynn (1919)   ranked 5,027 out of 20,316 in questions & answers   1 year ago

When I have setbacks I look at it as a changelle and I try to learn from what I did wrong and work harder. It took me a long time to get this way, before when I used to have a setback I would just give up and want to quit but I think as we get older we get a little wiser, and I think the change for me is I got tired of being look at as a quitter.


myLot reputation of 98/100. ahgong (3854)   ranked 34 out of 20,316 in questions & answers  1 year ago

A person who can look back, reflect and learn from their mistakes, is still teacheable.
And a pontetial for being successful in life as well.

It is good that you are able to see things in a different light when you grew wiser. And treating set backs as a kind of challenge to do better is definitely a step in the right direction!
lol

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10. myLot reputation of 76/100. CatGods (1210)   ranked 781 out of 20,316 in questions & answers   1 year ago

setbacks are apart of my every day life, Murphy's law is abundant in my house. Any thing that can go wrong most likely will go wrong. Goal setbacks, financial setbacks, work schedule setbacks, payment coming late setbacks, and the list goes on. In the beginning it use to bother me, but now it's just normal. So every day I do whatever I can do and tomorrow is another day.


myLot reputation of 98/100. ahgong (3854)   ranked 34 out of 20,316 in questions & answers  1 year ago

That is the other way to look at things. Handle them as they come along.
Don't worry, it will all be better soon. In every journey, there is bound to be a part that is tougher to handle. Same goes for the journey in life.

I am sure you are just moving into the tough patch in your journey in life. Once you pass it, it will all be smooth sailing!

Keep up the positive attitude! lol


myLot reputation of 76/100. CatGods (1210)   ranked 781 out of 20,316 in questions & answers  12 months ago

the thing that keeps me happy despite the set backs are my cats and my creativity, but mostly my cats. For any ailment the remedy is go pet a cat, then things are so bad. Cats are divine.

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