My Friends Here At MyLot Would Be Proud Of Me Or Atleast I Hope So....
By singlemommy
@singlemommy (2955)
United States
April 4, 2009 7:00pm CST
I have posted so many discussions over the past couple months about how I just want to find someone to date. I've also talked about Mr. FedEx and my massive "crush" that I've had on him for the past couple months. Well, I want to say thank you to all the friends who have took the time to read and respond to my discussions. I really appreciate all the wonderful advice that I have received from all of you.
Now, I have decided to keep doing what I have been doing and that is, going to the gym, taking the kids bowling, to the park, etc. Things of that nature. Well, last night another single lady that I work with and I took our daughters to bowl. We had a really good time and this lady bowls on a couple league so she knows many people at the bowling alley. Now, I didn't meet them all, but I did meet a few and it was nice to get out there and meet new people. Now, this lady also knows about my crush on Mr. FedEx who's name is Bobby, I don't think that I have ever mentioned his name. Now, when she got there, she teased me and said, "Hey...Bobby's sitting over there". But I played it cool, I said, "Yeah, I seen him" and that was that. So, I went about as if I didn't really care that he was there. He walked behind us and he pulled her hair or something when he walked by. I didn't say anything to him. When he walked back by I had turned my head around and he looked at me and waved, so I said, "Hi". I was proud of myself that I didn't try to get him to talk to us or for that matter expect or cared if he talked to us. After we started bowling, I see him looking down at our lane frequently, whether he was looking at my friend or me or all of us, I'm not sure, but it was good just to know that I got someone's attention without trying to do anything at all. I guess you would call it attention anyway. 
But I just want you all to know that I had more fun last night than I have ever before. I got out, met new people, possibly got a little attention, and I did it all with my daughter there too. We are planning on doing it again soon, so who knows, maybe I will meet a nice guy hanging out at the bowling alley, you just never know.....
But I just want you all to know that I had more fun last night than I have ever before. I got out, met new people, possibly got a little attention, and I did it all with my daughter there too. We are planning on doing it again soon, so who knows, maybe I will meet a nice guy hanging out at the bowling alley, you just never know.....6 people like this
31 responses
@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
5 Apr 09
You are so right, you never will meet anyone if you stay in. I need to get myself out there and that is definitely what I'm planning on doing more of.
@shenqixu (130)
• China
5 Apr 09
HELLO!Singlemommy! Your discussion are so attractive. I have read your some discussions!! I know something about you!!!!I know you are a good mommy!! You are optimistic,condiderate,loving you children. It is not easy for a single mother to take care of children by herself..I admire you very much!!!I hope your everything well,,,and finding a man who can share your happiness and suffering ...Best wishes to you!!
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@lilybug (21107)
• United States
5 Apr 09
Ya know, I was beginning to wonder if this guy even had a name. LOL
Good for you! I am glad you had a good time last night. It is usually when you are not looking for someone that you find someone anyway. I think playing it cool with this Bobby guy is the way to go.
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
5 Apr 09
Yes, I'm definitely, playing it cool. If he wants to come after me, then I'm there, but I'm also there for some other guy too if he is willing to come to me too!
@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
5 Apr 09
The main thing is that you had fun, you got to be around adults and have a few laughs. I need to do that myself, it's been a long time. The heck with Mr. Bobby, he'll never know what he's missing! Relax, have fun, do this kind of thing often and enjoy life. 
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
5 Apr 09
You are right! Bobby doesn't know what he is missing, but hey, it's okay because some guy is going to see something in me soon, I can just feel it!
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
5 Apr 09
Sounds like you are on the road to start experiencing good and positive things. The bowling alley thing with your friend and daughter sounds like it was a lot of fun. That is what you have to do, get out meet new people, they introduce you to new people, and before you know it, something good can happen.
I am glad you did not go out of your way to get Bobby's attention. He saw you, and if he wanted to talk, he could have. Personally, I think he just enjoyed the attention you were giving him. Let him make the moves without you enticing him.
Glad you had a good time.
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
5 Apr 09
Yes, I do think that he enjoyed the attention I was giving him a little too much, maybe that is where I went wrong with him. Now, I'm carefree, I'm there if he wants to give me a little attention and if he doesn't then so be it, I'm still gonna have a good time!
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
5 Apr 09
Hey singlemommy! That's what I'm talkin'about! That's what ya
need to do! Go out with other single mommies! And you saw
"Bobby" too and he saw you having fun! That is so great! Keep
doing that! It makes all the difference! You keep up the good
work and you will find someone or they will find you! I told
you so! Be in the right place with the right people at the right
time! Just go out, be your self, with your kids and things will
happen naturally! Go singlemommy!
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
5 Apr 09
Thanks! I'm definitely taking the nature route. I can't wait to do it again!
@StrawberryKisses (2833)
• Canada
5 Apr 09
Wow that's awesome. I have been gone for a while so I didn't know what was goin on with you. I'm glad to hear that things are lookin up. You should be proud of everything you acomplish and this one one of those times. Good job. He knows you like him so just play it kewl.
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@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
7 Apr 09
Hey, that's awesome! I'm glad you had a great time - I'm sure there are plenty more down the road. Sometimes you just have to go with the flow and do something fun!
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
5 Apr 09
yeah that sounds like attention to me
plus you get to see new people, so maybe you will meet someone else too
more chance of meeting the man you are looking for
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
6 Apr 09
you go singlemommy, you are going to get this guy sooner are later.keep mixing mingling and having fun.you only lives onces go for it.thats my word on this and iam sticking to it.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
5 Apr 09
It is nice to get out and get involved with local activities and meet new people. It sounds like you had a good time and I am happy for you. I hope that everything works out the way that you want it to. And that you keep us updated on the juicy details.
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Apr 09
Hey girl! I am certainly glad to hear how well you are doing with the Fed Ex guy. Bobbie huh? Cool. You keep doing what you are now and you will be a fit little cuter cutie by the end of the summer. Go girl! I am too emotional. I would be in grief over the whole thing. I just take things to much to heart. Darn it! Keep up the social aspect of all this too. Good for you!
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
5 Apr 09
I tend to take things too much to heart many times as well, but I'm keeping my chin up. If I never land Bobby, then maybe I will land another handsome man soon! Thanks!
@tamarafireheart (15384)
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5 Apr 09
Hi singlemommy,
Well you just never know, but don't try so hard to find someone, just have fun and be carefree and when you do meet someone it will be when you least expect it, have fun.
Tamara
@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
5 Apr 09
Well, that is my plan. Have Fun! Yup, I'm just going to have fun and I know someone is going to notice me when I'm not even paying attention!
@xhaylea (361)
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5 Apr 09
aww thats fantastic news, i hope you carry on this way, and its also making you be more outgoing and happy, and its also getting you and the kids to bond all together aswell, which is brilliant! you will soon gain your confidence, i can just see it now to be honest. I know i haven't responded on any of your other discussions but i know completely what you are going through with the going out thing, just carry on like this and your confidence will rise to an all time high! :)
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
5 Apr 09
Yes, I feel I am and have gained confidence! I plan on gaining so much more!
@Grandmaof2 (7578)
• Canada
5 Apr 09
Way to go!!! You're young yet and there's plenty of time to get the right guy. I wish you much happiness.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
5 Apr 09
Hi singlemommy! I'm no expert but it seems to me that you just may be on the rgiht track, going out and having fun without worrying about finding a man. My experience has taught me that for reasons I can't explain, men find women who ignore them more attractive than the ones that are always available to them. I don't know if it's the thrill of the chase but the minute you give him the cold shoulder it drives him nuts! Perhaps it's because they don't like clingy, desperate women, who knows!
By going out, doing your own thing and enjoying yourself without a guy you are showing the world that you are a confident and independent woman and you just may be having a ball! Meeting a man in a place like a bowling alley is so much better than in bar or club, I think.
Always proud of you!
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@THEMADTYPER (59)
• United States
5 Apr 09
It is good to get out and have fun from time to time life is hard for the single moms you guys need a metal or something.
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