What are your expectations?

Human as we are, we would like others to reciprocate what we do or what we have done for them. But contrary to most of us, there is a divine kind of love where we love someone not expecting to be loved in return. Yet, when we have such kind of love, we always end up being loved in return. Truly, one sided love affair is not fair but loving someone expecting to be loved might not be working...

When i do something for someone, i want him to be satisfied.
And honestly talking about love,i want to be practical. The question is, "how would you love someone throughout your life if she/he doesn't feel the same?" Maybe it takes time for this matter but in reality, we need love in return.

mine is the nature where i expect only love n respect from the person am doing something. i am the kind who want respect,trust,sharing,openmind from the person am connected to. even if am doing something for the person unknown to me, i never expected in return. just happiness for the person, thats it.

Hi zandi,

I believe we always expecting something in return for everything we have done. We post here because we expecting some cents in return. We spend some money and expecting some thing from it. So, we always expecting something from our time, money or anything.

But we must also aware that we can not get all what we are expecting though. Sometime we get more, sometime we get what we expecting and sometimes it is less or nothing at all. And we should prepare to all this situation.

We can not force someone to fulfill every single wish that we have. And when it comes to feeling or love, we can force someone to love us. We might get their body but not their soul and heart. And it could be worst then that.

So, in everything we did, just expecting for the best but prepare for the worst.

Sanang bah tu ...

Its sad wehn no one respondes to the person giving the love and yes if they end up returning that love it might not be the kind she wanted.
I owld always want love returned if I give it.

hiya zandi

Good Lord no! lol... not for favours anyway, because that is something that is done out of goodwill. If it's labour/work then of course you would expect to get paid in money or in kind. Love, ... most definately there can't be a functioning relationship, or a happy one if the love is not given in return.
quoye: sometimes reciprocated love is even more so...tragic.. so very true, but we can't make someone love us, they either do or they don't.

Alice

Unfortunately there are a lot of selfish people out there, so they will be only too keen to get what they want themselves from someone without returning anything. I have over the years grown used to this and become somewhat cynical, but common humanity demands that you help sometimes expecting nothing in return.

As for love not been returned, much as I admire the lady's persistance, there should come a time when something in her head screams that enough is enough, and suffer the heartache of getting out of his life. Then with time something better may come along.

Hi zandi, I believe that help should be given without compromising on any personal necessities, comforts, and luxuries. If, and only if, a person can spare beyond that, should the person venture out to help. And even then, the help should be limited. There is no point in helping another person and then lamenting I denied myself this to help that person. Everybody is grown up when taking such decisions. As I was explaining to somebody, it is strange but any help given creates resentment in both help giver as well as help taker. Giver would remain happy as long as the person who has taken help does not progress rapidly. If there is rapid progress, the giver starts announcing to the world, this is because of me. The helptaker resents this, because he wants the world to recognize him for his merits and not pass on the credit to help giver. Moreover, the help giver, in that benevolent state of mind often asks the help taker to do some favors, which, had the obligation not existed, the help taker would have felt at liberty to refuse. At times, the help taker would have done those favors for the help giver, without the existence of such obligation. But when the samething is asked once the obligation comes into existence, the help taker resents it. This is because he starts believing that he is doing that because of his feelings of obligation, rather than any other reason. Hope I have not confused u too much.:) Ideally, people should avoid asking favors.

An one sided love affair is very sad & hurtful, been there done that. If u will teach yourself to not expect more then u want be disappointed.

We are always calling in favours where we live,it is just normal to help someone out.I have been helping my neibour with her daughter who is back home now and behaving herself,it is just a case of what you do suzzy.I have brought up three kids and I have been through most things with teenagers,so she uses my experiance.When i was poorly she picked up my prescriptions looked out for my youngest,if I was back late,so it cuts both ways.Our group of friends are always making each other lunch generally looking after each other,buying little presents if we see something the other would like,It is up to us girls as our husbands work long hours,we all have kids,some disabled,extended family at its best.The bit about one sided love smacks of being deperate,he will walk all over her,get her to meet someone else soon.Explain obssession is not love poor girl,you have to feel for her.