Will you choose an unemployed person as your life partner if you are in love?

I do not think that money is anything except for an excuse to be greedy. I am a female, when I first met my fiance, I had a job and he didn't. I QUIT MY JOB FOR HIM... and also because it was making me sick... long hours, etc. I used to like money more, but it didn't make me not go out with my fiance...

Well I've been with my boyfriend now for almost 4 years and he is unemployed at the moment. But he is also in school striving to create a career for himself. So I don't mind helping to support him now but I do expect in the future for our roles to swap. Mainly because I really want to be a stay at home Mom one day and I can only do that if my partner can support that.

If I really cared about someone, I can't see myself not dating them or not choosing them just because they don't have a job at the moment. Now I will admit that if a guy seems like he never works and just wants a woman to support him, then yes, I will not have anything to do with him. But that is different than what you say. I am sorry to say that many people, not just women, are motivated by money these days. I wish it were not so. I think having an emotional connection, i.e. love, is more important than whether a person has a job at the moment.

I need to see first what's the main reason he's jobless right now. If it's not because he's lazy, but quited his last job for some reasons like searching for better one, then I don't mind. The most important is, a man I will marry have to be self determined, have goals in life and not the 'flying as kite' things. He has to be a struggling person. Love is not something you can eat and be happy. If a man cannot be responsible for his own life, how come is eligible to built his family.

hi phillip I did but its not very smart but then I was young and' in love. had I to do it over agaIn would still have married him, but would have waited til he got the job he did get. it does help if both are working at least until a woman get pregnant then he has got to step up and take up the slack, as mom cannot work until baby is a bit older as unless you have a career most womens jobs dont pay enoughto support putting little ones into day care, day care being costly.

My husband and I have been married for just over five years now. When we met nearly eight years ago I was between jobs. Then, I went to work for 11 months, then our daughter was born and I stayed home with her for nine months. After that I worked through until our second child was born about three years ago. Since then I've stayed home with the children. All of that said, in my opinion, I feel that it doesn't matter what kind of income that you have in a relationship. We have found that we are happier when we don't have a lot of money to spend. Plus, in our situation and in the situation of so many other people, when there are children involved it is much more important to have someone at home for the children. Mostly, you see mothers that stay at home with the children but there are also cases where the father stays at home with the children. In my opinion, it doesn't matter which road you choose as long as it works for your family.

I would only do that if it was no fault of their own and they were trying hard to find a new job. I do not want to support the both of us. It is too hard to do these days. They have to do their part too.

well my hubby has been unemployed off and on during our married life but i work and its not like he is lazy or anything but its just that he has had jobs and these companies have had turnovers and whatnot. these days are not good for a stabilized job environment.

That is what I really don’t want to happen to me. Because when we are in love we are blind , mute and deaf. In other words we are incapable to see the mistake and shortcomings of that special someone of ours. So when love strikes us, we don’t care if he or she don’t have a job. What we care is we love him or her and we can accept anything as long as we are together. When we are in love we tend to sacrifice our self to them. As long as we are happy that is fine with us. But I don’t want that to happen to me. Please God kindly give me someone with regular job and much higher salary than me. Please don’t set me up on a guy who don’t know anything but love me. On the other hand, if these guy I will meet and fall in love with have no job, I will force him to look for. I will challenge him and inspire him to have. I will tell him I will never marry him until he found a regular job. Sounds demanding!

If the person is unemployed not because of his own laziness, I feel it is allright. It could be a moment of luck lacking but I feel the situation is never permanent. If he really loves you, he will want himself to be gainfully employed.

am not really the one concerned here for i have a very hardworking husband although i think it depends on why the person (husband) is unemployed. maybe it is a contractual job or something. it is different though if the guy is jobless because he doesn't want to work. or that guy is waiting to go abroad illegally for the past 4 years already and still hasn't found luck yet. duh?

i don't think that would happen for i can never picture how i would be able to meet one who is unemployed when the people i am always with are employed. but speaking for others (am already married) i think a girl should find out why the guy is unemployed: end of contract, termination, lay-off, criminal record or just plain lazy or choosy. the main reason for the guy's unemployment would mean a lot.

I've read this discussion box by box because I can really relate to it. I'm really impressed on how did the females answered here. I'm still struggling in college while my girlfriend is working. I'm wishing that she could wait for me just like the rest of the people did here for their husbands. I know myself and I know I'm responsible enough and I'm determined to raise a family of my own. All I need now is to finish college and I'm completely confident I'll land a job fast. I hope my situations ends up like with the others...

For me what matter most is the attitude of the person. He may be unemployed now but if he has ambition and applying for a stable job then its okay. As long as he is industrious and hardworking. Those are the characteristics am looking for a man. I want a responsible man with ambition. He doesn't have to be rich or super rich. I'll go for love. If ever I got attracted to a man who is unemployed and doesn't care much about his future, as in a happy go lucky guy, I will try my very best not to fall deeply for him. I will use my mind over my heart. I will avoid him as much as possible. I will not bother to go out with him cause if I do that its gonna be harder for me to kill that infatuation that I am feeling for that man. I will not let my future and my children's future suffer for a wrong choice of man.

I have been happily married for a lot of year, and when we first got to know each other, we had no money to spare and didn't even think about being or getting rich. I have always worked for myself, as did my father before me. Sometimes there would be money to spare, and other times, things would be tough financially. So, if I was to live my life again, I would not consider wealth or money in a partner as my wife didn't consider it when we first met. - Derek

hello phillip_shiny, in my own opinion, especially now a days that life is getting harder we don't just use our heart but also brain in getting into a relationship. we need to be practical now. love is not enough. the guy must have a stable job for us to live. he don't need to be rich but must be responsible enough for the family. being rich is a bonus.

life is hard enough so if i met someone who had no job it would send off sirens in my head to run the other way. perhaps the person is down on their luck for the moment and that i can understand. other than that a man should be working no matter what kind of job it is. i would be very leary of a grown man with no job. i work too so i would expect my partner to pull his own weight.

I think that the connection between two people should go deeper than if one of them has a job or not. Don’t get me wrong I would not be impressed with a lazy man who was happy living off welfare all his life but it is a person’s qualities that make another fall in love with him or her and his or her character so I would consider those qualities first.

It depends. For me, I would surely say no since I like a guy who is ambitious like me. But if he is making efforts and tries hard to find one, I will maybe consider him.

Depends on whether you want to spend the rest of your lofe with the guy or not. I must say, we always want to be inlove to someone we are involve with right? But we also have to take into consideration especially if you want to marry the guy, if he can provide for you and your future family. Love alone cannot feed you nor give you brighter future. I am not saying this because I am materialistic person but because I just want to be practical. It does not need to be a wealthy man just enough to make a living. There are guys who are not earning a lot but you see that they are hard working. That I think is enough for a woman to consider.