Will you choose an unemployed person as your life partner if you are in love?  

Well I've been with my boyfriend now for almost 4 years and he is unemployed at the moment. But he is also in school striving to create a career for himself. So I don't mind helping to support him now but I do expect in the future for our roles to swap. Mainly because I really want to be a stay at home Mom one day and I can only do that if my partner can support that.

My partner works full time, and it would be a major problem if he didn't. I wouldn't want to try to raise my kids on benefit money, and I'm a stay at home mum because I don't want anyone else raising them and can't afford childcare anyway. If he lost his job, obviously I wouldn't leave him, but I would want him to get out there and look for a new one straight away, for the sake of paying the mortgage and putting food on the table for the kids. If he couldn't work for some reason, then until he could, I would get a job to support us. I think its better the way it is though!

well my hubby has been unemployed off and on during our married life but i work and its not like he is lazy or anything but its just that he has had jobs and these companies have had turnovers and whatnot. these days are not good for a stabilized job environment.

I need to see first what's the main reason he's jobless right now. If it's not because he's lazy, but quited his last job for some reasons like searching for better one, then I don't mind. The most important is, a man I will marry have to be self determined, have goals in life and not the 'flying as kite' things. He has to be a struggling person. Love is not something you can eat and be happy. If a man cannot be responsible for his own life, how come is eligible to built his family.

I do not think that money is anything except for an excuse to be greedy. I am a female, when I first met my fiance, I had a job and he didn't. I QUIT MY JOB FOR HIM... and also because it was making me sick... long hours, etc. I used to like money more, but it didn't make me not go out with my fiance...

hi phillip I did but its not very smart but then I was young and'
in love. had I to do it over agaIn would still have married him, but
would have waited til he got the job he did get. it does help if both are working at least until a woman get pregnant then he has got to step up and take up the slack, as mom cannot work until baby is a bit older as unless you have a career most womens jobs dont pay enoughto support putting little ones into day care, day care being costly.

hi I am not rich, I have an ordinary public service job and am holding that for 17 years now.
When I met my husband he still had a job in mid 2002 but lost it end of that year. Then his beloved dad, the only one approving of our relationship, died after lots of times in hospital. In fact in the 6 months that I knew his dad I have ols seen him sick and in and out of hospital wards.
Then after dad was buried my future husbands mom let out all the hate she had aainst me so we had to leave earlier than we intended.
all that led to a breakdown and I helped him out with money cause he didnt finda new job. It also took time till he could apply for disability and till he finally got that.
We married in 2005 and I moved to where he already was, thats a 3,5 hgours drive from my hometown either by car or a little more by train.Simply as costs of living are not skyrocketing here as much as they are in my expensive hometown which is the GErman center of Banking. lol.
I also cut down working time to 75 percent of a fulltime job cause I commute 4 hours to work, work 6 hours and commute back same 4 hours to get home.

As I said I am not rich and our combined income just lets us pay rent and food and bills on time but thats enough for me. We never were away on vacations in the 7 years we know each other apart from a weekend. We live in old furniture mostly and only buy new stuff if the old breaks down, so what. And I am the main breadwinner of the household and husband does the housekeeping.

My husband and I have been married for just over five years now. When we met nearly eight years ago I was between jobs. Then, I went to work for 11 months, then our daughter was born and I stayed home with her for nine months. After that I worked through until our second child was born about three years ago. Since then I've stayed home with the children.

All of that said, in my opinion, I feel that it doesn't matter what kind of income that you have in a relationship. We have found that we are happier when we don't have a lot of money to spend. Plus, in our situation and in the situation of so many other people, when there are children involved it is much more important to have someone at home for the children.

Mostly, you see mothers that stay at home with the children but there are also cases where the father stays at home with the children. In my opinion, it doesn't matter which road you choose as long as it works for your family.

If I really cared about someone, I can't see myself not dating them or not choosing them just because they don't have a job at the moment. Now I will admit that if a guy seems like he never works and just wants a woman to support him, then yes, I will not have anything to do with him. But that is different than what you say.

I am sorry to say that many people, not just women, are motivated by money these days. I wish it were not so. I think having an emotional connection, i.e. love, is more important than whether a person has a job at the moment.

my boyfriend now still dont have a decent job but i never given up on him. because i know soon he could have it. but even if he dont have one as long as i have a job of my own. then it would be fine. as long as he the household chores. lol!

no really... its just a matter of give and take. that is how relationship must work. and teamwork. help each other out. even if not both of you have the job but atleast he is not like someone who just sits, watch tv all day long and do nothing...

jhelai