Do you ever try to drop a person a hint?

hi jugsjugs oh indeed yes in a rather embarrassing situation I tried to save my librarian research friend a problem.she was talking pretty loudly about our new branch manager, and I saw from the corner of my eye the manager coming our way, I tried to talk low from the corner of my mouth,change the subject Clare, but she did not take the hint and she said, the woman must be bi polar, imagine a boss being bi polar. now emily stood behind us and she had heard every word, Clare did not get my hint. darn. the branch manager pulled a dirty trick.the next day she transferred Clare to a branch that was even further from her home. talk about a mean spoilsported manager.wow.

Sometimes it is weard that we can not come out of the words right away, people can not accept that kinds of talking manner. It is useless to give any suggeston or advice frankly but with a hint. Some kinds of people are stubborn to accept others' advice even the suggestion is in the right way, but maybe they have accepted in the mind, just embarrased to admit the mistake in oral due to their high self-esteem. I assumed that it is one of the reason that they seem not to take the hints you have tried to drop. If I think the people drop a reasonable hint, i will put a deaf ear or mind on that as it can not persuade me to accept. If the person is too manic to tell me directly, I also turn the deaf ear.LOL.

yea,i know a lot of people like that.even if you leave them a note. after awhile,i will come out and give them grief about it if they're doing something annoying and nice doesn't work.

Oh my gosh YES! Some people are so very into their own lives and what is going on in their own little circle that they just can't see anything else. You could slap them, or do anything else and it just wouldn't do any good. It is very frustrating and very unnerving. Any ideas?

oh yes definatly,certain people need to just be told straight,it may sound cruel,but if they're not taking the hint,what other way is there

oh yes some people just act, and ignore it. so you have to be direct and say whats in your mind.

Nopers, I never try to drop a person a hint, and I don't pay any attention to people who try to drop me hints. If they cannot come right out and say what it is, I'm not interested. I prefer open and It is not necessary to be unkind, but there needs to be communication both ways.

I have noticed that. It's because parents no longer train their children with manners and social skills. When I was young I was taught not to ask "why do you wear such an ugly dress, Aunt Sally?" but to say nothing and if asked if I liked it, find something nice to say like the color. That's how I learned to tell if someone was dropping a hint. We all learned things like that. Parents aren't even home anymore to teach the kids these things.

I have dropped hints plenty but none of them were ever meant to be mean in nature, though today I did try to drop a hint to my mom that it is a c.d. she has of our wedding and not a d.v.d. . I didn't actually outright tell her as my husband and I feel some of the things she has said has not been nice. Usually when I drop hints though it's about something I want to eat, or somewhere I want to go, and not about nasty things at all.

Yes, it has happened that I've tried to give people some hints, but they don't always seem to be able to pick them up. Like you, I'm really not the type of person who will come out and plainly said it. It's just not who I am. I guess it's just easier for me to try and drop some hints.

Hi jugsjugs, Most of my friends knows me too well and I don't need to drop hints to them but with other people I may have to drop hints and if they don't any, then I'll just tell them straight and that is not being nasty, you have to with some people. Tamara

I drop hints too. I have been noticing that people just don't take a hint. I don't like to hurt anothers feeling so I usually don't say anything. I can take a hint myself and I get the idea. I have a friend that keeps asking me to do thing with him when he knows that my daughter is working, I have tried to be nice and polite about it. I am going to have to just tell him that I am point black not going anywhere with him when my daughter is a work. She trusts me to care for her child and I don't think I should leave her with someone else. Happy Mylotting

I don’t like dropping hints because either the other person doesn’t get it or I am not very good at drooping them or both! I much rather say what I’m thinking and be sure that I am understood. I believe that it is okay to tactfully say anything to anyone as long as it polite and not hurtful. I do agree that a lot of people just 'don't get it' if you do drop hints.

I sure do, especially when trying to be tactful and polite. Some people get it; some never do lol. When it's important and a hint doesn't suffice, I keep getting more specific, and if necessary, blunt! Karen

Some people couldn't take a hint even if you dropped it on their head with a 5 pound brick attached. Either they're extremely stupid or they just enjoy annoying you.

I think it depends on the person in general, and that you really can't stereotype in this situation. I do know people that you just have to come out and be blunt, maybe if it's your boyfriend or husband you have to hand them the paper with the present that you want for Christmas and circle the item that you want. Plus, point it out to them. Otherwise, you will end up with something completely off the wall that you have no use for. Then there are people who are the complete opposite, like a parent or older sibling. You just happen to mention one day in conversation that you need to get some socks. Come Christmas time you get about 14 different pairs of socks from them. It seems they didn't think to ask if you needed a certain kind of sock, or if you happened to go ahead and purchase them for yourself. LOL People are hilarious if you think about it. We are all different and in our own eyes we wonder why they can't all just be like us. But then again, these people make those of us who can take a hint and do our research look a little bit better.

I am not a big hint dropper, I usually just come right out and say what is on my mind. Why would you call that being nasty. I think that being up front with someone is much better than playing guessing games with them. They just might not be able to guess what is on your mind that is why they do not respond to your hints.

I find that some people get the hint, and others totally never get it. I have a friend who NEVER understands hints that even her own husband says you have to hit her on the head with a bat several times before she gets anything. I am mostly tired of dropping hints to people - so lately I've been telling it like it is. No sense beating around the bush - it just wastes time and makes me even more frustrated!