The mother/father wants out but kins advice to stay for the children.

If I meet such a bad situation someday, I tend to stay for the sake of the children.

As parents, they shouldn't be considerate toward themselves. In my eyes, even if someone opt out of a relationship that they are no longer happy with, they should pay attention to the interests of the whole, especially the effect on the children. For the sake of the children, they should stay for the children although the bond is no longer there.

For the long run, tt is not wise or responsible to leave.

I would leave. If I am staying for children, I do have a notion that the children will feel the negativity in the relationship if this is the case. I don't think that having a broken family will scar one for life. I do not come from a broken family but I have half brothers and sisters from the relationships of my father outside marriage. I choose not to be affected by these things and go on with my life and continue to strive for my dreams. I think it is how you can explain to the kids why the father/mother cannot stay anymore. Life is too short to be miserable forever.

think this is hard one, depend if they can pretty much hang on until the kids are an age but if they cant i seen this so many times where they just cant stay together but play the game to see who can make who look bad. but if they do break then i think they need to agree ok we'll get along for the kids

Personally, if parents are no longer happy together, it just rubs off on the children. I would leave. It's not about being selfish but what is the point of calling your family "Whole" when it's just really a word and not the truth?

I personally wished that my Mother left my father a long time ago but she chose to stay because she thought it was the right thing. In the long run, I think it was very stressful to live with them because they didn't get along very well.

I strongly feel that staying for the sake of the children is a huge mistake. They are way more aware of what is happening around them that you are aware. Coming from a 'broken' family will no scar them for life. They need to be told the truth and supported and loved by both parents. Remember, you are their role models and what you seem to be modeling for them now is an unhappy family.

I am in that dilemna now. Many will know by my other posts. I want to stay for my son, even though me and the father don't live together. We are basically seperated but my son keeps asking why his father don't come "home" It is hard to explain to my son because he does not understand it. We are still legally married and I don't want to push more change onto my son. yes, there won't be much change just that I wouldn't go to his grandmas and stay with him like I do now. It is hard and I also feel if I do check on a divorce it would cause more fear for the family and get a bunch of stupidity started. trust me, it happened before. so i stay like where we are at just so no trouble will start and helps my child.

I would choose to stay even though the love is starting to fade as I do believe love never disappear suddenly in an instant without even deeper reasons. I would not accept defeat their may be something need to be talk with the partner and find solution to resolve it. The solution is to work on it to make the relationship more exciting just like the first time the two crosses each path, then identify those weaknesses and strength then go on for companionship and for the sake of children. Their is an exemption to the rules when one partner break the vow of matrimony and the other partner caught his/her partner in a most disturbing situation. I think their is no going back I'll give what please the other partner even it hurt to let him/her cherish herhis new found glory and freedom. Their is no use to sticking aroung when the other partner is blinded by another third party.

I would rather leave and have my children see their parents happy but not together than stay and have them raised in an unhappy household. I would not want my children to think that being married means being unhappy. Also, I would never want them to feel, as they got older and were able to understand things more, that they were the reason that I stayed in an unhappy marriage, because then they might think that they were the reason for my unhappiness. My children have always given me great joy, and I would never want them to think otherwise.

Leave.....you only live once....and you better make the best of it....kids get over things...people move on....I wouldn't stay where I wasn't happy.

In my opinion, the parents should stay together in any condition for the sake of their children. The children coming from broken families suffer a lot. Their childhood is lost, they are insecure. You have brought a new generation to the world, so it's your duty they be given proper care and a good life. If the parents think of leaving the children for their own pleasure, no use advicing them. The attachment and love one has to their child will make them forget and forgive the partner and adjust to the maximum.