A point of view  

Yes, I definitely agree with your conclusion from the above story. People are truly ruled by points of view, and that's how most conflicts occur.

One person looks at an issue or en event, has his thoughts, and makes his decisions on what to do about it. Another person comes along, and has his own thoughts. But if those thoughts and decisions don't agree, conflict tends to happen.

That's just the way our minds work, but it would be simply amazing if everyone took the time to get to know others before making judgements.

That's true. We only believe what we see and refuse to go deeper into understanding another person cuz it's a lot easier. We save ourselves time to think for something more important, or so we thought, cuz it's also important if we understood each other more clearly. Good day sir!

Hi savypat.That was really an interesting story.And I do agree with the moral of the story as well.From now on I will try harder to take more special interest in people around me.Anyways have a nice day ..By the way did you make the story or what??

--Shames-

If we would do that there wouldn't be so much conflict in the world!

A lot of times I'll hear complaints about a person--a neighbor, a sibling, a friend--and I'll ask if they've talked to the person about the problem. The answer is usually no! People should talk to each other more.

I hear word for word what my neighbors are saying. This is the ones next to me. So my judgment of them is right on point. I thanks god both of them work during the day and I can get some sleep at night. They are rude to each other and ver nice to me.

We need to look with our eyes, minds and hearts. Otherwise we are making snap judgments and missing many wonderful parts of life. I do not mean to imply that everything will always be rosy and good, but it certainly can at least be an improvement.

Hi, savypat. This reminds me of my old downstairs neighbor. He never took the time to get to know us. He would complain about the noise that is coming from above him. Which was from our apartment. If he had to get to know us better from the start, then he would have have discovered that we did not mean him any harm whatsoever. We were decent folks that were nice and caring. He was just so disturbed by the noise that he judged us by that. Which was very unfair. Whenever he would make any noise in his apartment, we never once disrespected him. We compromised with this guy without him even realizing it. If he is gone, which I am glad that is. But he left without ever getting to know me at least. He did talk with my husband, only because my husband's dad did some work for his family a while back.. For the ones that try to get to know others, is being fair. But for the ones that are so quick to judge one another, without getting to know them first, is just pitiful.

Hi savypat, You are absolutely right, it seems we do that all the time. We judge people without really knowing them and certainly without knowing anything about their past. I remember someone once telling me how awful a certain person was, there just wasn't one good word she could use to describe her. Sometime later I was talking with another lady and the same person's name came up. You could never imagine they were talking about the same person! Kind, considerate, loving, were just a few of the adjectives used to describe the same person about whom another couldn't think of one good thing to say. I suspect the first person just didn't take the time to get to know the lady and I think at some time, that is true of all of us. Blessings.

Not at all what I expected. :-)

At work once, I was in a meeting, which was being run by this guy who came across as a totally arrogant azz. I disliked him at first sight. One of those people who act like your long lost best friend 2 minutes after you meet. But it turned out that I really ended up liking him and we are still friends 20 years later. So yeah, sometimes you judge people and find that you're totally wrong once you get to know them.

Hey pat! What a nice story, at least the ending was! I used
to "see" my strange next door neighbor for awhile many years
ago! It was a bit after his breakup with his girlfriend! We
were always friends, but we started "seeing" each other, but
it was always a bit weird, us living right next door to each
other! He is eight years younger than I am and very intelligent,
has a Doctor's Degree in Computer Science! So, it never really
got anywhere, but we are still friends at least! He is still
a "weird" guy who keeps to himself, no girlfriend since the
last one and that was many years ago! So, you just never know!
I am still very fond of this guy, although I live with someone
right now. Am glad that we at least were able to remain friends!